Do we Justify................

I think we all do, though usually not that extreme of things. These things may have contributed to the cause of your actions, but it doesnt make it right.

problems r common in life .so that life is a fruit to us.eat carefully before it get damage.so u better take a step where ur family will be on a plain path . if i type any wrong plz forgive me

On the other hand, it would want me to just avoid the very things which had scarred me in my childhood. I have had only one bitter experience and that was with my mom, whose overbearing nature, strict discipline and continuous interference, ensured that I stepped into adulthood with zero confidence and 100% dependence on ‘somebody’. Since I now how difficult it was for me to become ‘normal’ and what price I had to pay in the process, I ensure that my son grows up with a mind of his own. More than a mom, I am a guide and a confidant to him. Its not that he doesn’t get any discipline but I know when to step in unlike my mom, why never actually stepped out.

This is indeed a very good topic for discussion.I have seen this kind of justification happen in many homes.This is just not correct.If we have undergone a bad time we know what it feels like. We should never repeat it.If this chain reaction goes on then where is the end to it.We have to see to it that whatever bad things happened to us should be rectified for our loved ones like our spouse or kids.What are we going to gain by repeating what happened to us? In what way can that revenge be rectified.I remember hearing stories about my grandmother who was abused and had a terrible life.I believe that she used to take out her frustration on my mother and her brother.My mum always kept telling us these stories and I found my mother never was very affectionate or good with us children.We lived all our lives in boardings. She I think tried to justify her stand.She has been in her own world.Its she and no one else that's utter selfishness.I had a bad experience so I have never let my son know this.I have tried to do my best to make his life with us parents, a memorable and enjoyable thing.

Whatever wrong the parents did to the child doesn't justify the parents actions, nor does it justify the child doing the same things to his or her own children. Chances are, the parents who abuse their children or leave their children, had the same thing done to them by their parents when they themselves were children. What the child needs to do is break the cycle.

Anything bad should not be repeated. If the parents has done something wrong, children should not do that knowingly. rather should try to correct those wrong doings which has caused suffering for him or her by the the parents. But the fact is that certain bad behaviors are deeps et in mind - in subconscious mind and the people when grow up they repeat same not consciously but is a action from their subconscious mind. Soon after they realize and repent also. Probably those kids suffered from their parents should go through counsellings and psychiatrist treatment to erase out the remaining of bad memories from subconscious mind.

I don't think it justifys anything as we all have choices to make and we all have our our own rights and wrongs but i guess in a way when parents do certain things it can make kids think it is the normal way but i still think everyone still has that inner voice telling us what is right and wrong..

in my own way i'll try to break the trend, protect my kids and direct them to the straght path, i'll make sure that they didnt involve in such thing.

Life is really hard, who can really say what justifies what. We can change the destiny of our lives for the better if we so choose, though it may be hard at times.

Break the cycle. Change things, if there are violent histories in the past, we don't want to repeat those. Those growing up in good homes, should live and use that as examples, those that were abused, should strive hard to not repeat history. There's a lot in my past that I work hard at breaking, and a lot that I also work hard at emulating and copying, because those are the things that pushed me to want to break the vicious cycle, so the more I push those ideals, the less the bad sides will come out, and the less likely they will come out in my children. It's not easy, it can be difficult and almost impossible at times, so sometimes it can take a few generations to totally clean up, but it's always possible if you want it to happen. Anyone who uses family history as an excuse for bad habits, needs to rethink their logic, because everyone is an individual who can change themselves.

well it don't justify. but to me and it's well known that kids will learn things from the parents. like you i abuse my wife, my son will learn it's alright. ( i don't) and my daughter will look a guy who will abuse her. and if i'm a drunk. ok i am. my kids will end being a drunk as well. i am lucky my kids didn't get into drinking like me. they seen me being dumb too many times. but it's a circle it goes in. they have to be willing to break it. but it never justify it by far..

As a social worker and psychologist, I say that we should try to break the cycle. If you are caught abusing your children they are removed from your home until you can be a better parent and find other forms of discipline. We are encouraged to get out of abusive relationships, but also as a psychologist, I understand that this is learned behavior and we can't always learn a different behavior. I would hope that no child, woman, man, or animal be abused, but it's gonna happen somewhere.... it's how we as humans get by eventually. I don't think there should be any justification for this, but I know that it is hard to change behavior that we have learned from a very young age. I do not justify this in my life. I have been in 2 abusive relationships and I got out of both as soon as I could because no one deserves to be treated that badly.

Break the trend. I can say that I don't have the best parents. But if I follow them, what will I get? I prefer to do good things. As much as possible, I try to make people around me happy.