Cutting someone out of your life
By smartie0317
@smartie0317 (1610)
United States
December 9, 2008 12:30am CST
Over the past few months, there have been a good number of people I have cut out of my life. I'm not a mean person, I don't wish them harm or bad luck. I just no longer want to deal with them, because they hurt my feelings. I feel more happy and calm with them gone. I have regrets, but know this is the best option for me. Last night, I ran into someone who I cut out and didn't give them my new phone number when it changed last month. The person was happy to to see me and said they tried to phone me but couldn't get through. However, from the time I last spoke to this person to the time my old phone was still working, was about 4 months. I felt bad bad and gave my new number. Now, I hope they don't call. When you decide to no longer be friends with someone or you do not want them in your life, how do you handle it? Ignore them or tell them?
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@alextrg (86)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 08
I have a few people in my life where they know they are on the 'do not contact me list'... And some don't..
So far I've been lucky that those who don't know, I don't bump into them.
My friend is in the situation you are in.. Well was in(since you already gave your number :p), as in he hasn't given the person his new number...However his situation puts me in a spot a lot of times, as I bump into this person quite often and a few times the person has asked for my friends new number(but I quickly change the conversation, pretending I didn't hear the question)...
Whether or not to tell them is kinda tricky... Sometimes when you tell them it might actually make things worse, sometimes not telling them it'll make things worse.
For own experience so far, things seems to be working, although I know hiding behind a bush really isn't a long term idea that's gonna hold water. Maybe a new year resolution would be to tell them... Wonder what they'll say...
@smartie0317 (1610)
• United States
9 Dec 08
Thanks for replying. I'm hoping after Jan, I will not being seeing said person. This why I'm cutting certain people out of my life. It seems like I don't see them for ages and then bam! I have to deal with them when they want to and when they are free.