treating your woman like a trophy
By spoiled311
@spoiled311 (5500)
Philippines
December 9, 2008 1:59am CST
i know of many men who treat their women like trophies.
like they have to maintain a certain figure, dress in a certain fashion, and should do their hair and make up a particular way. i even know of a guy who would refuse to go out with his girl when she is not dressed in the manner that is most appealing to him or that makes him proud. still another guy is very concerned with the very tiny fat on my his wife's abdomen although she is already very thin, while he himself is way way overweight!
i think these guys have not accepted their women as they are. they don't even respect them. to these men, the women are just trophies--something to show off. if they become chipped or worn, they should be discarded.
i am glad that my husband is not like that. although i don't say that taking care of one's self is bad, but not to the point of allowing yourself to be enslave by your partner's wishes. beauty will not last. we will all sag and get fat, etc. so what will happen by then? will these guys just dump their women like old underwear?
well, when you choose a partner, you decide if you want to spend the rest of your lives with such selfish persons.
take care all and God bless you! :-)
merry christmas!
6 responses
@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
10 Dec 08
Yesterday... i was talking to a friend about how her sister-in-law was being treated like a trophy... the wife is given money by the husband and she has to spend that immediately on clothes, jewelries, accessories, bags, spa, salon... and if she doesn't... then she will be reprimanded by the husband... well... some of us wives might think that being given shopping money is like manna from heaven... but this particular woman is feeling nothing but pressure...
She cannot even go out of the house without make up on... she needs to look fabulous all the time because the husband is trying to maintain an image that he is rich and can take care of his wife and family with style...
I don't think i want that kind of life... not in a million years...
@trillan_20 (183)
• Canada
10 Dec 08
I can't speak for all women...but for myself, if my husband ever refused to go out in public with me because I wasnt dressed to his standards he would get a slap right upside his head! There is nothing wrong with couples telling each other what maybe looks best on the other, or if one is putting on a lot of weight there is nothing wrong with mentioning that as well. Most women in general are already self concious of their weight and their looks, we dont need a man to constantly remind us of our faults. I see women who put up with this stuff and wonder what the hell they are thinking, and did you ever notice that the husbands are always nothing special to look at?
@nageshnnr (85)
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9 Dec 08
really why do u like so .actually it does not happens so because.the things that are happenings not in all the cases
but in the present society women are leading mens opinions and they are making the men to act according to them...........so i donot agree to this.in real life i encountered this situation where the women is demanding the nem to act so........
but ofcouse in some instances.where the men is in good educated think of only acquiring a beautiful women rather than.a understandle and gud monwe.so i too condemn this sort of activitie if the girls sre trested sd just trophies.just to shoe off their .......beauty and hide hoe fat the men........aree
@natsvelascotan (665)
• Philippines
10 Dec 08
I agree with you .. women should be loved by their men for who they are deep inside and not just her physical characteristics. Sure, those might have been what attracted you to each other in the first place but we all have our moments wherein we don't feel attractive that that's when our partners should encourage and assure us even more that thye love us any way
@carmelsuarez (329)
• Philippines
10 Dec 08
I dont like it when my husband would tell what I should like and what he likes me to look at... because I think its jut unfare with me or to any woman out there.
Yes, I do know a lot of men who do that to their girlfriends or wife. And it buggles my mind how those woman could take it.
And am just so blessed with my man because he doesnt treat like that, but I know and could feel it that he adores me and love the way I am. and also understand and fit himself to the things I like.
@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
9 Dec 08
i don't like guys who will decide for me with my personal stuff. i like to have my own choices and decide on my own. i think these kind of guys are the ones who are insecure about themselves because they still have to have a sort of a trophy to draw attention, because if they don't have it they are nothing, no one would ever bother to look at them.
