How annoyed do you get when someone does not return a call or text....
By mommyboo
@mommyboo (13174)
United States
December 9, 2008 9:39am CST
...and it is not the FIRST or even SECOND time you called or texted them? I put this under cell phone but it could be your landline too, as well as your instant messenger.
Say for instance you receive a call or a text from a friend and they ask you to call or text them back, OR they've called or texted you a couple times and you missed the calls/texts. When you SEE that they've called/texted, of course you want to get back to them, so you do.
Do you get annoyed when they have OBVIOUSLY been trying to get ahold of you yet they don't answer their phone or text back? What do you do? Do you keep trying for awhile, stop, give up? What if they whine 'well you didn't call me back, why?' when you know very well you left VOICEMAIL or three text messages telling them you're near your phone now, what did they need?
Sorry to say, this REALLY annoys me. I try the best I can to get right back in touch with someone, and it bothers me that they can't show the same courtesy, especially if they were calling or contacting me for HELP of some kind!
Are you the recipient of this type of behavior? Do you DO this to other people? If you do this, are you daft? LOL! Don't you realize people WORRY?
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14 responses
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
9 Dec 08
I get annoyed when I try to call someone and they don't answer, so I text them and then they respond right away. What is up with that? Obviously they were screening their calls and didnt' want to talk to me, but can take the time to text me back. I would rather talk to someone than text because it is so much faster.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
10 Dec 08
In addition to what I mentioned to the first poster (about times when texting might be easier/quiet) here's the other part. Not everybody has unlimited minutes but many people have unlimited text. It's cheaper to carry an unlimited text plan than to carry a huge bundle of minutes. Anyhow, I am one of those who prefers to text because of it.
Obviously there are some things where a call is ultimately better, but for a few messages in real time, it works. As far as screening calls, I have gotten to the point where I don't answer any 'private' or 'unavailable' calls, and ones that come up with no name are iffy. I have decided I cannot be wasting my minutes when I don't know who it is. People usually leave a message and then once I know who it is, I can call back.
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
10 Dec 08
I agree that some people dont' have unlimited minutes and do have unlimited texting. I was referring to my boys who are on my family plan, so they have free calls and texts to and from me. I never block my number or make it private.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
10 Dec 08
My son used to have unlimted texting but he trashed his phone. He had a prepaid and it's relatively inexpensive to give him an unlimited text block per month. I can't give him minutes though because his dumb friends call him on it instead of calling the house phone and suddenly I've spent $50 on cell phone time for him for no reason.
I don't block my number either, I'm not sure why people do. Perhaps they don't realize it's blocked.
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
10 Dec 08
Hi there!
Well, sometimes I really get annoyed especially when it is too urgent or important. My boyfriend sometimes does that. I mean, he would text me then when I answered back with a follow up question, either I don’t get a response at all or it takes forever for him to respond on my text message but the most annoying part is when I need to call him and he won’t answer it… I mean, he would but sometimes, he is too lazy to pick up his cell phone especially when watching a television or playing games in his PSP or Internet… haha… but he does that sometimes only since he knows that I will freak out! Hahaha…
Thanks for the discussion!
Happy Mylotting and Happy Holidays! Cheers!
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
11 Dec 08
See, my hubby and I have done that to each other from time to time. The WORST time was when I went somewhere with a friend. I decided to lock my phone up with my purse in a locker. I wasn't anywhere near it so I couldn't hear it. Well, my husband didn't realize that I didn't have my phone on me, so he had started texting me several hours back. Since I didn't reply, he got increasingly worried, and then MAD. When I finally saw the build up of text messages from him (something like 8 in a row, which is a record for him if I haven't sent one back inbetween) I freaked out and called him. First he didn't believe I didn't have my phone on me because I ALWAYS have my phone on me, then he figured maybe I wasn't really where I said I was going to be! After he realized I really didn't have my phone on me, he relented and just wanted to know when I'd be home. Usually if I've texted him several times and he doesn't answer, I'll call his cell, if he doesn't pick up, I call the house. It just depends how badly I need to get ahold of him.
@the_dutchess (2610)
• Philippines
9 Dec 08
it just annoys me when I know the person is intentionally ignoring but if someone didn't mean to text/call right away, i would have understand that, if he's busy or something. i know that's annoying but it also needs to take a lot of consideration. just look at the bright side that somehow we're learning the value of patience and wait. maybe, there's a good reason while someone hasn't texted or called back yet immediately. i try not to annoy 'cause it will just make my mood worse.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
9 Dec 08
i guess for me it depends on who it is. if someone asked me to call of text them and they don't respond, then it must have not been that important and they will have to either call or text me back. i am not going to chase anyone down for them to tell me what they wanted to tell me
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
10 Dec 08
Hey mommyboo! In this very busy world of voicemail, texting
and such busy lives people just can't take the time to return
a simple phonecall! I don't text! I hate playing voicemail
tag! It is so damn annoying! I get tired of leaving messages
after 3 times and when you keep missing someone back and
forth it really can be annoying! My girlfriend is really
hard to get a in touch with. We are always missing each other
and it's always back and forth! It can be a week before we
will actually catch each other to talk! I have finally gotten
used to it and have stopped trying to reach her! I wait for
her to call me! I'm not sure if she even realizes that I don't
even try anymore! That is one way to stop stressing! Like
today, I want to speak to her, but I know I will get her
voicemail and the tag is on! Do I really want to play?
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
11 Dec 08
I really try to call people back asap, especially if they need something. I didn't used to text but the way things have gone, it's the main way I stay in touch with my teenage son when he's not home. My husband texts too, he HATES the phone, but he'll text me all day, so at least we've found an easy way to keep in touch that doesn't horribly annoy either one of us!
My FAMILY however is good about texting me back. If one or the other of us doesn't return the text, we call lol.
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
10 Dec 08
hi there my husband is soo like that...i hate it when he does not return my texts and he only does return the text when i have texted him more than 5 times already and then i am superrr mad to the highest level...it is really annoying.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
11 Dec 08
Sure it is annoying. FOr everybody I am sure.
I usually try a few times and if it doesn't work, I just give up. If it's help I'm trying to get, I find a way of getting it another way, if they are the ones who need help - and although it sounds strange that has happened as well - I do nothing else.
I always try to respond but sometimes it takes some time until I get the message. It can happen sometimes specially when I don't come to the computer for quite some time or when or - even worse - when things are so busy I keep forgetting to check my voice mail.
@Denise_Tung (647)
• China
11 Dec 08
Hey. I remembered once I called my friend for several time to ask her out for dinner(No informing her in advance as we are very good friends, lol), and maybe she was busy for something and then I went out to eat all by myself coz it's already dinner time and unfortunately, I forgot to bring my cell phone with me, accidentally.
And by the time I was back, 9 missed calls, all from that friend. And I called her back at once and then she was a little mad, lol. I can understand and my apology was accepted.
Same as you, I resent ppl who don't answer my calls or texts coz I am worried. I will give up if I called twice and not answered. I will send a text to ask them to call me back if anything. If they still don't feedback after sometime, I think I am gonna be really mad!!! It's ok that there are some delays coz the one we are reaching might be stuck up in some urgent things, hehe.
I will never do that do to friend or anyone who tries to contact me. That not effective communication and not funny, either.
@vanonas (949)
• United States
9 Dec 08
I get annoyed when someone texts me and I call them RIGHT AFTER the text message and they don't pick up and they send ANOTHER text message --nothing about my phone call of course-- UGH that really bothers me.
I'm really prompt with returning people's phone calls and texts. I wish everyone else were too.
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
10 Dec 08
Do they ask you to call or that's just easier for you? Sometimes it's easier for someone to text rather than accept a call - if they are someplace where the phone has to be on silent or the ringer off?
I try to get back to people asap and I don't know what to think if they need me so badly they call or text but can't be bothered to ANSWER me when I try!
@UK_Shree (3603)
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9 Dec 08
Oooops, I have to say I can be a little annoying at times when getting back to people. I don't really like to carry my phone on me all the time, even if I am expecting a call. It's just that I don't like to be dominated by my phone. I know it irritates people sometimes, but I usually do get back to people at some point
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
10 Dec 08
I know what you mean, I don't ALWAYS answer when I'm out, but I screen. There are some reasons I would always answer, my best friend, my husband, my son's school. I also need to have it with me in case of emergency - getting lost, etc. One day I left the phone at home and I had like 12 messages on my home phone (most people try me at home, then they call my cell upon getting the voicemail) and 12 messages on my cell phone.
If you had JUST called or texted someone though, wouldn't you answer them if they got back to you? Especially if you had been needing something from them?
@daring_diosa (120)
• India
10 Dec 08
I get really irritated when the same thing happens to me!!! I definitely wont be doin it to others... And naturally would be expecting the same thing from others.. Many ppl don understand dis.. They are unique remember? Everyone wont be thinking d way we think...
If it occurs to me, my mind would be totally blocked!!! I would keep expecting a cal or text from them d whole time.. However important other tasks might be, i wont be able to concentrate on them!!! I just wish ppl don do dat at all!!!!!!
