Is it wrong to hit a woman if she punches you like a man?

United States
December 9, 2008 1:55pm CST
I know that it is wrong to hit a woman. But if she steps into a man's shoes and lays you out with a solid punch, do you have the right to hit back in retaliation? I thought for the longest time that it was okay to do so, but a friend brought up the subject of hitting women the other night and when I told him my opinion, he said my views were messed up. Mind you, I have never actually hit a woman but now I am questioning my views on the subject. Does anybody want to voice their opinion on this matter? If I am wrong, please tell me. I don't want to be known as an abuser because of this belief.
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24 responses
• Norway
9 Dec 08
yes it is.. no matter what a woman did to you, never ever punch her.. compare your strenght to a womans strenght, what do you think will happen to woman if youll punch her?
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• United States
9 Dec 08
Thanks, poisonivez. I understand I was wrong to think it was okay, even if I have never done it. I appreciate and respect your opinion.
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• United States
9 Dec 08
I do not feel that you should hit a woman for any reason, even in self defense. there are other options that you can take. call the police, remove yourself from the situation or any number of other options. if the need for self defense comes up in this type of situation there are other ways to subue he person if need be. it is morally and illegally wrong to do this, no matter who hit who first.
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• United States
9 Dec 08
Thanks, CC. You have definitely, as well as the others, given me some food for thought on this subject. Your views are appreciated.
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@Lindalinda (4111)
• Canada
9 Dec 08
It is wrong to hit anybody, woman or man. There are other ways to solve problems and settle disputes. Like Dr. Phil says" somebody has to be a hero" and you don't become a hero by punching another human being. The best revenge is to move on and live well.
• United States
9 Dec 08
Hi, Linda. Thanks for your opinion on this matter. I have not ever hit a woman and now I will be in the mindframe that I never will. I see that it is wrong to hit women no matter what the circumstance. Kudos to you and the others for correcting my opinion on the subject.
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@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
9 Dec 08
No you're not an abuser. Abusers hit women if a women diagrees with them or doesn't do whqt they say. I still don't think it's right, but you do have a right to protect yourself. Also, if you are in a relationship with a woman that hits you, you have the right and probably should immedietly get out of that relationship no matter how much she says she's sorry, just like a woman should get out if a man hits her.
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• United States
9 Dec 08
Thanks for your insight, Marty. Between your response and the others, it's becoming easier to to discern what to do in such a situation.
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@sataness (321)
10 Dec 08
As a woman i wouldn't hit a man, and if i unjustly did so with brute force then i would hope the man would be prepared to stand up for himself. Even though i hate violence everyone should have the basic right to defend themselves. I don't think your wrong, why should it be ok for a female to hit a man and not recieve retaliation? Why would a sick female use such a metal idea in any case 'i hit you but you can't hit me'? Does it apply if a mother was beating up her teenage son and in self defence he slaps her in self defence so he can make his escape? Women have fought so long to have equal rights as men and yet we are still treated with such fragile gloved hands. Kinda sexist dont you think? I think if a female was beating you up/hits you multiple times then you have a right as a human to defend yourself; at any point the situation can become too violent be it man or woman. If you don't make a stand against it (hopefully not to heavily if not a severe situation) you will always be under someone elses rule. Ironic the belief of most women is that they can just hit men for the fun of it... also suprising to see how many people seemed to support the females actions by commenting on the man's alone. By the way...there is not ever a truely right or wrong answer, the situation alters and in such should be dealt with accordingly, just because there are rarer cases of women abusing men doesn't mean it doesnt happen. And in such shouldn't be supported either simply because 'they're allowed to do it without dear of retaliation.'
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• United States
10 Dec 08
WOW! I wasn't expecting such a lengthy response! Thank you for your comment in this matter. I think there are women who exploit the "can't hit a woman" theory. But there are also women who don't. I have seen a lot of abused women in my time, and you are right. there are men who are abused, too. Just because they don't come forth about it doesn't mean that it don't happen. However, once again you r comment and opinions are appreciated and respected. Thans, Sataness.
• Australia
10 Dec 08
Thank heavens for a sane response. I will take a slap from a woman without retaliating, but if she punches me she will get one right back. It's an automatic self-defense response. That said, the only two times I have ever hit a woman were, once, I slapped my girlfriend because she threw a literal tantrum (she was very drunk) while I was driving a car, and started hitting me, and once when I caught my first wife in bed with another man for the third (and last) time. But I have never punched one, nor been punched by one. But those were in simpler days, and now it is not so uncommon for women to fight like a man, and I'm with sataness, if a woman attacks me like a man would, I will treat her as I would treat a man, and defend myself, rigourously. sataness, I particularly appreciate your stand on abused men, it's a sadly hidden element of life today. Lash
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• United States
9 Dec 08
you shouls never hit a women i dont care what she does to you, call the popo but dont ever hit a women...
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• United States
9 Dec 08
Thank you for your quick response, Mandy. I am glad to have people like my friend and you to help me acknowledge my mistake.
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@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
10 Dec 08
As a woman I believe if I step beyond my boundaries and hit a man most would react by hitting me back. I would expect this of course because it is human nature to defend one's self when approached by harm, whether it be from a man or a woman. Maybe I am a little messed up with my views as well but I can guarantee I would never over step my boundaries with a man unless I am wanting him to hit me. And maybe a man wouldn't have to hit the woman back to defend himself, maybe he could just restrain her so she couldn't hit him again. Whatever it takes I do believe, within reason, he has the right to defend himself.
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• United States
10 Dec 08
An interesting statement, Tammy. Your view is shared by only one or two others on this discussion, but with the varieties of comments I have received thus far, I can say, without a doubt, it isn't okay for a man to hit a woman unless it is done in self defense.
• United States
10 Dec 08
In my opinion you should not hit a woman no matter what she does to you. I could never it a woman even if she hit me as hard as she could. Its just not right and its not me.
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• United States
10 Dec 08
Well said, marriedman. As stated before, I never have hit a woman and now I know I should never hit a woman unless I'm trying to defend my life against said woman.
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
10 Dec 08
Well, for me the guy doesn't have the right to punch or hit a women because no matter what the women did the strength are still different.. I know that its sound unfair but try to think about it.. When you hit a girl of course the pain you felt when she hurt you is different from the pain she's feeling because we all know that men is more stronger in terms of strength than a woman, right?? So, if you hurt or hit her then eventually an accident might come.. On the other hand, you may hit a women in different way like you can slap her to stop hurting you or maybe push her away but make sure you push her in safer way.. I think with this kind of actions you may stop the girl from hurting you... But punching the girl or doing something more than that I think its not valid and good..
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• United States
10 Dec 08
More than once has the subject of varying strength been touched on and it is a valid point. Women can be weaker than men, not always, but they can be. Thank you for your view on this subject. This discussion has really opened my eyes about the differences in men and women and why men should not hit women.
@mchavez11 (1406)
• Philippines
10 Dec 08
Never ever hit a woman even if she hits you like a man. My advice is just to run away from the scene or take all the punches if you may. Lol. Seriously, we, men, should and must not lay a fist to any female species.
• United States
10 Dec 08
I am glad to have all these responses to make things a little clearer for me. I understand that my views on this need to change and I shall make every effort to do so. Thank you, mchavez
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
10 Dec 08
I dont beleive in hitting a woman either but if a girl is ounching me like a man ,I would have to review that policy.If they is no other way to contain her I would fight back.Mind you I wouldnt go overboard and hit her to seriuosly injure her ,I still have my principles but I would hit her to temporarily stop her .If she hasnt stopped and continues to punch even harder and I cannot seem to control her ,then I would have to review the principle I just stated and really hit her to hurt her but I am not going to play prince valiant and let her seriously injure me.Everyone has the right to defend themselves irrespective of who it is.
• United States
10 Dec 08
You have made some good points there, ronnyb. If you can remove yourself from the situation without throwing a punch, I think you should do so. However, like you stated, if she continues to hit you and you can't get away, then by all means, you should defend yourself. However, try to keep from seriously harming her. Thanks, ronnyb.
@jambi462 (4576)
• United States
10 Dec 08
Yes I believe that as a man you should be able to control yourself because you know that you are naturally much more powerful then most women. I think that all men should have it inbedded into their mind that they should not hit a woman. Females are fragile and beautiful little things that should be cherished and not abused.
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• United States
10 Dec 08
Well put, Jambi. In my time, I have known women that weren't weak and could probably break a man in half. But it simply isn't the case with all women. If it were, I'm sure men would run screaming for their lives. You are also correct that women should be cherished, not abused. Thanks for your input.
@luoke1 (377)
• China
10 Dec 08
One shouldn't hit the woman back,the best thing to do is to walk away...but if in the process of doing that,some other guy laughs or ridicules,then maybe he should get the punch instead,haha.Just kidding.
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• United States
10 Dec 08
Very profound answer, Luoke. I am thankful for so many different opinions about this. It's good that you have a sense of humor about you, too. Thanks for your comment.
28 Dec 08
there are lots of people who abuse the "dont hit girls" theory, and i think that if you are punched, punch them back.
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• India
10 Dec 08
It depends on the circumstances when and where the situation occurs. To respond or not to totally depends on that. If its a public place and you are hit by an woman without any reason or your mistake, then surely you to make sure that she is answered in a correct manner
• United States
10 Dec 08
I doubt it though. Although it's somehow bad to hit women back after being hit by her, even men shouldn't take it lying down for long. Not even women should have the right to hit men and not expect to get hit in return. Men shouldn't be emasculated like that. Not hitting her back is like putting women on a pedestal. It's like a reverse double standard in society that should end. Women are human too. Therefore if women hit men, shouldn't they be given a chance to give that hit back before it festers into long-time resentment that comes after being hit and not hitting back? Say, speaking of which, have you ever heard of something like this from India? It's the "How can she slap?" video from an Indian game show called Dadagiri: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YoXfltgD-58&feature=related
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@bcote212 (1112)
• United States
10 Dec 08
I dont think that it is ever acceptable to raise your hand to a woman. It does not matter how hard she hits you. If things get out of control call the police and one of you will be removed from the situation, but never is it ok to strike a woman.
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• Philippines
26 Dec 08
well of course its bad to hit a woman by man. it shows that ur ungentleman and bro u should respect the woman eventhough they did something wrong to u. woman are so sensitive and very vunerable.
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@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
10 Dec 08
Hello There! For me, it is wrong to hit a woman or a man… Even if when you are really mad, you shouldn’t hurt them physically as much as possible. As for my part, I am very lucky because my man never hits me even if we fight or disagree on something… he will just patiently listen to me then reason out if needed haha… Thanks for the discussion! Happy Mylotting and Happy Holidays! Cheers!
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• India
10 Dec 08
It's better to give her a second chance and wait or let her realise that what she did was a great mistake and give her time to say sorry to you because if you hit hey back it may become a big mistake of you and there shall be no difference between you and her because if a women compaintes against a man society supports a women first because women are weak by birth and they are strong by mind
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