His Lawyer Needs The Money More Than His Daughter!!!

Lash, It's complicated. There's no principle to it, he just doesn't feel responsible for his kids. He does not accept responsibility for anything and his mistress-wife fully supports him in that. He has two other girls from his first wife, they are 18 and 10 now. While he was still married to his first wife, he had an old woman for a mistress. When his wife kicked-him out, and the mistress went out of town, he met me. We started dating after a few months, at which point he sabotaged my birth-control and impregnated me, in hopes of getting a boy. I was pregnant when I found out about the mistress and called his wife, who he had told me was his ex. He is now married to the old-woman-mistress who incidentally has a grandson 6 months younger than my daughter. After 2 years of trying to take my daughter away from me, we think he's just going to get his child support reduced and walk away, which is completely fine with me. The State won't let me relieve him of all his child support, but if he doesn't come pick her up for visitation for 1 year, his parental rights are void, which includes child support, so that's what I'm hoping he does. Happy MyLotting!

I'm pretty sure the one-year no-show rule is the law of the land. A friend of mine has an ex that makes sure he sees his daughters once a year so my friend's current husband can't adopt them. How's that for spiteful?

spalladino, He's not hurting for money. I'm guessing that he's making at least three-times as much working under the table than he did at his legitimate job. He's an auto mechanic and has a really good customer base (which is how I met him when my car broke down). He has three daughters (18, 10 and 2) but the only one that still has anything to do with him is my 2 year old. Sadly, he doesn't seem to be taking much of an interest in her. Thanks for responding! Happy MyLotting!

StrawberryKisses, I didn't want to ask for child support, but when my daughter was first born, I had to apply for childcare assistance so I could keep working and they wouldn't help me unless I requested child support through the state. The money never meant that much to me and when he took me to court, to sue for full-custody so he wouldn't have to pay child support, we got every-other weekend visitation ordered by the court. I was happy for this, so she could go visit him, but he just has someone else take care of her while he goes off and does what he wants. I offered him Thanksgiving visitation and he turned it down. His brithday is right before Christmas and he doesn't want her for his birthday or Christmas. We go back to court in February (he's still trying to take her from me) but if he didn't have a leg to stand on last year, he doesn't even have a cushion to sit down on next year. Good for you on never having to ask for child support though! Happy MyLotting!

StrawberryKisses, He just wants to take her so he doesn't have to pay child support. He doesn't have to raise her either...his mother will take her for him. In our visitation order, it says that his spouse will provide transportation while he's working. We were notified that he was fired and he sent her to get my daughter. When I asked where he was, his spouse said that he was working. When I told her we knew he was fired, she tried to say that he was working...."ummm.....around the house!" He was pissed that he has to come get her himself. I'm thinking this is really going to burn him because if he doesn't want to get her personally anymore, he has to get a job and if I get written proof that he's working (which will be the only way I will give my daughter to his spouse), the State is going to garnish his wages. Basically, he's put himself in a very bad position and there's no legal way out for him. His ex-wife tells me that he was never a daddy to her two girls (now 18 and 10) and it's not surprising that he's not any good at it. Thank God I didn't marry him or this would be a whole lot messier! Happy MyLotting!

What a total a$s. Glad to see you got all your bases covered hun.

Well, then, that makes sense. It looks like you will be the one responsible not only to support your daughter financially, but two give her double love and guidance...and a hug from me

LOL!!! Yes, I am the mother of one of his daughters...the 2 year old. I called my lawyer this morning and just settled this one so I don't have to deal with him today. My lawyer doesn't think that we're ever going to make it to court with him. Happy MyLotting!

Well at least that is good news. Maybe it is just his money that he can't stand sharing. I am glad the child is well and I hope you are coping ok.

When we first started visitation, I was affraid that he was going to kill her, so that he wouldn't have to pay child support. We've been doing visitation for just over one year now and she's still alive so he's probably not going going to. That was actually my request when I left her with him...that she would come back to me alive and in one piece. So far, so good! Happy MyLotting!

His lawyer costs twice as much as mine does, and his charges him for every little thing where mine just asks for a retainer each year. It's not cheap for me by any means, but he's forking-out a LOT more. My daughter turns 3 this March and she'll grow-up thinking someone else is her daddy, because after we get married, he will be. He's really good to both of us and his father is actually the one who got us together....after a year of trying. My lawyer told me today that he's seen a lot of custody cases and he thinks that biodad is distancing himself and will eventually just fade into the background. I hope he's right. Happy MyLotting!