woman's intuition

i have another one, instead of saying "just friends", tell him that your exclusively dating. filipinos don't usually use this term but its a healthy way to start a deeper relationship. when you told him friends, he might felt the you already dumped him (i hope thats not what you mean). but when you say exclusively dating then you give him a chance, and at the same time it gives him security that you won't date other guys.

Did you meet him here on mylot? And now you are seeing him offline? If you are having those feelings, I would be careful and take it very slowly. There is nothing wrong in doing this and seeing where it takes you. If you are not having any feelings for him when he says I love you, then take a closer lok. Your intuition may be telling you something your conscious mind isn't picking up. Then again maybe you just don't know him well enough to make that kind of decision yet. I would do as you said at first, and take it really slowly. If he really cares for you he will understand. If not, you don't need that kind of trouble. Good luck in what ever you decide to do.

look this trust , may be just a word. but its a word with so much of meaning. so you can trust when your heart tells so. Many times just heart's say is not enough to trust. your thinking process must support it also.

i think he didn't sound that sincere when he said those words to you because in the first place,he finds it a bit awkward to say it personally.putting myself in a man's shoes,i think saying those words are a gamble,quite risky,because i don't know how a woman will react if i said those words and of course,as a man,rejection creates a wound on someone's ego. but i'm a woman,so intuitions can be warning signs as well.well,i guess you should take more time to get to know him and make him feel comfortable with you and try to observe if he slowly opens up to you regarding his true feelings. i'm not good at these things.it's my own opinion only.hehehe. happy mylotting!

Its really true that if you dont have a feeling to that someone that is interested in you...your tendency is to wait for a while first. It happen to me too before when my neighbor got interested in me and would like to have relationship with me. But since I dont like to have him as a biyfriend because I dont have feelings for him too. I told him that we should be just friends and no more than that. But it was the hardest thing to do since I felt sorry for him because I could also feel the genuine love he has for me and yet I dont want to cause more pain to him and myself, because I cant even stand the thought of having him around. I dont know. it still up to you though. You can try and give a chance. Who knows...its really you and him at the end.

its called woman instinct...

I think you shouldn't even be asking us this, this is your life and you have to live it. If you don't feel right about this guy for whatever reason then that is your answer, don't take it further,

I think it is best for you to be friends with that man first. Just go out dating as friends. Then observe him and try to evaluate your feelings for him first. Then if you think you can find sincerity in him and you think that you already have a feelings for him and you are already ready for a relationship then you can said to him yes. But actually it is really up to you. But for me it is best to have a relationship to someone when you know you are ready to be with him in that relationship. Just don't force yourself, take your time. If he still continue courting with you then the better.

You can't force a person to say this 3 little words if it doesn't come out from his heart voluntarily. Love is very difficult to define and only the person involved really knows the true feelings of what love really mean to them. But again since this is still early stage of his courting you, he might hesitate in saying it for fear that it might be a false alarm and that he might not get a favorable response from you. Some Asian guys are not as romantic as those from western world. Woman loves differently from man. Man is driven by the love of pleasure, woman by the pleasure of love, man has to have his body satisfied, woman has to have her soul satisfied. Man is concerned with logic, with clear and distinct ideas, and with abstract, woman is concerned with love and concrete reality. Man proceeds step by step in his thinking, woman's intuition is rather immediate, like the eye when it instantaneously measures distance or dimension. She has a faculty of arriving at a conclusion, without taking all the immediate steps. A man always gives reasons for loving, but a woman never does. A man will tell a woman: "I love you because you are beautiful," but a woman considers loving its own reason; it needs no rational proof, for it is beyond reason. It has been said of woman that she is not happy unless she has something to worry about. Just take it easy now and let time prove his sincerity in his love for you. It is you who have the final say in the end.

Its always best to know a person first, test him and then go ahead. Somehow, I have a feeling he is up to something. I may be wrong, but like Id written to you, be careful of your finances, your house etc. he may be after that, seeing you are alone. One can write a million things on sms and not mean them. One knows for sure if it is said from the heart when it is said spontaneously. Just be very very careful, find out all about him, let your friends dig into his past, etc. please please be very careful. Im scared. Nobody just comes up and says he wants a realtionship with somebody all of a sudden. GET TO THE ROOT CAUSE OF HIS WANTING TO HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU. GET TO KNOW HIS BACKGROUND. BE CAREFUL. IM SCARED.

A woman's tuition is usually correct. You can usually tell if someone is sincere or telling the truth. And, for you, having no feelings for him other than friendship, are probably in the best position to figure out if he really cares. Your heart hasn't gotten in the way. I really don't think there would be anything wrong with letting him see you as a friend, and then, perhaps he will learn to love you like he perhaps thinks he does now.

I'll take just one part of your long story. the way he said i love you personaly and through text messages prove to us that... text messages is just purely and nothing more than just texts. no matter how many smiley characters you put or how slang you type the words, they are just text. now, the way you read the text is another story. so, you interpreting the text message and the way you read it thru your mind, thats all "you" girl. if you feel loved by reading his text message, then that's you wanting to be loved.

Your decision to be friends first is correct. It is hard to jump right away into a relationship when you only meet recently, though you are texting for a while now, the environment is different because you can blurt anywords in texting even if those words dont have any meaning at all. Relationship should not be hurry it takes a time to develop, knowing a person better is the best way to enter into a relationship. If you are hesitant and unsure of your feelings do not agree into a relationship right away. Try to ask yourself if that person is the one you are waiting for, or if not then do not make him believe there's something he can expect from you. Just make it clear to him that you better off as friends and who knows somewhere along the way of your friendship, there is something that might be develop into mutual feelings.