When Friends ruffle you.

i learned long ago that nursing grudges against people doesn't achieve anything. Nobody is going to hang around long enough for a grudge to wear off. Life is too short and good friends too few to squander away. If someone says or does something which bothers me, I point it out to them at that very instant and then I forget about it. Forgiveness is an important quality and one that is rare. I agree, forgiveness helps you keep your friends and also keeps your mind clear and healthy.

Actually, when friends throw barbs at me, I enjoy it. It gives me a chance to be witty and sarcastic. To be honest, though, I'm usually the one to throw out the first slight. It runs in my family. All in good fun, though. I don't ever mean to hurt any feelings. Though, I'll admit, that does happen, on occasion.

I quite agree with your statement that we need to have more tolerance power and forbearance, if our friends ruffle us. You see it depends upon one's nature, everybody is sensitive to some extent, but if the limit or degree of sensitiveness increases, then it becomes a problem. I take comments of my friends in right spirits and sportingly, even if they are criticizing me, I suppose that they are doing it for my 'good'. I know that very friends also appreciate my positive traits so they have a right to criticize me.

I enjoy candid people. And I appreciate constructive criticism. i also enjoy a good ribbing it's a sign that you are comfortable with someone when you can bust his balls. You can tell when it's good natured joking or just plain maliciousness. Also I can't abide racism, that's a deal breaker. Some people think that because you are the same color as them that gives them a greenlight to drop the nbomb. Screw that!

Hi Pose ,this is a wonderful post indeed,and I fit all your description to the'T'.....Yes I am a friendly but sensitive person,and get easily ruffled by certain comments made by friends.I used to break up with my friends easily,but now I have matured and have learned to weigh the worth of my friend ,and my ego.Its easy to forgive,since mistakes are made by everyone,but its more painful to lose a good friend,for a silly mistake he or she made which can infact be overlooked,if viewed through a broader spectrum.If I break up a good friendship for the sake of some momentary mistake,I realise the loss will be too much for me to bear and over come,so I chose the path of forgiving or ignoring some momentary and slight comment or else extract an apology,and make the friend realise his/her mistake......

Heavy expectations are the root of sorrow. We expect from others he should have done this way or that way. But the person in front is as he is. Only difference is we are not able to accept how he is. If proceed this way, any additional thing in the direction of our thoughts, becomes a bonus. We shold learn to accept others opinions as bonus and not force our opinions on others. This sorrows ourselves than anyone else.

I am extremely sensitive, but in the last three years, I have learned to get over things. I have a beautiful friendship right now, but we fight sometimes. When we do, I stop and think of all the good times I would have missed if I had decided not to forgive her. I also know that no one is perfect and if I stop and think things through and consider what the person may have been actually attempting to say, I am able to sit down and talk to her and get a better understanding of things. Close friend's are totally cool.

Yes, is great to be able to forgive since we need to become less sensitive and respect everyone just the way they are since nobody is perfect. On the other hand, some people are so negative that is best to stay away from them. Sometimes you can breath their negativity from a mile away.

I often have fights or quarrel with my friend but we don't hold on to that for very long after some days we gets united and again start behaving as if nothing has happened this is the thing which keeps our friendship alive.But by not talking about the fights, we don't tend to forget the matter that leads us into fight but try to avoid the situation that get us into fight

I agree with you. I believe that as I have gotten older, I've become less sensitive to things like that. I think that type of sensitivity is actually a sign of immaturity. It is a narcissistic attitude that everything is related to how I feel. It's immature to be so self absorbed.

Hi friends It sometimes hurts me when my friends ruffle me.I always stay away from mocking others.And my true friends hardly mock me.But there have been negative people who were frivalous with me,now I am staying away from them and now I am quite happy.Over the time,I have learned to forgive and forget those nasty things. Bye!!!!!!!!!!