What do you think of this?

As a Parent I taught my Sons to be independent. I taught them to cook and sew buttons on and simple things. I taught them to do laundry and clean house. They were not Momas boys they were independent young men that turned into self sufficient adult Men. I can't understand a Mother that would control her sons lives like that. It makes no sense to me. As a younger person I met alot of guys that couldn't do a thing for themselves. I can't stand that, it's plain odd to me. This guy needs to grow up cut the ties that litterly bind him and set out to find himself. He seems to be a smart enough man so a little intestional fortitude would be in order. The mother needs to let her son go and be a Man. This is very disfuncional. It is possible they both may need some therapy. I hope this happens before she does pass, it seems to me the situation would compound itself in that event. Parents need to know when to let go and let their children grow up, make some mistakes, learn from them hopefully and become Adults.

Hold on! The guy is not you right? Because i've read somewhere in your other discussions that you studied in Cambridge and you're around 48-49 years old. It's not you i guess. Maybe my mind is just playing tricks on me lol! You're too smart and i think you're independent enough. As for the guy, i just hope it's not too late for him to stand on his own feet. I'm sure he'll outgrow it. He's just too mama's boy. He has no choice anyway unless he want to get himself into trouble with a lot of humiliating situations.

i think he had a pretty bad life . what advice should you give to a 48 year old man who wasn't able to make a life on his one. you just can blaime him not his mother

Poor guy! He can't live for his mother forever. He's never actually had a life. He needs a strong relationship and the willpower to allow himself to experience life. I wish him luck, because I doubt that he'll ever really have a normal life.

Well I will tell my story first. My mother used to be like this. She controlled everything I always did. I was not allowed to do things I wanted to do. I met my husband years ago and was frightened she would not aprove and of course I was right. I loved him though and love came first then to me. I started to rebel against her and I did what I wanted to do. I felt great about it. My Mother did not speak to me for months, but I did not care. I was in love. Then one day she phoned and we where ok again. My husband told me to stand up to her but in a nice round about way. She had no choice she had to respect my wishes in life. She stills trys to dictate to me but if she hangs up on the phone and things it is her loss. She always phones back a week later. Well what I am saying is that that man needs to stand up for what he wants in this life. His Mother may not like it at first but she will come round to his ways or she will lose him for good. My advice is to stand up to her. I had to do it or I would still have my life organised for me and it would not be what I really wanted.

i don't think to ask the son or mother to change. i can see that they love each other more than anything. especially i lived his life under his mother and it is not easy to change it unless a woman come into his life. may it will make him take decision.