Spreading The Joy ... Not !

I choose topics that I think will be of interest to people. Some are happy some are sad, that is just the way it is, yes I hurt when people are sad too.

I know there are a lot of people that don't need enemies, they've got family. I try to be supportive of friends who are hurting, and try to advise if I have any to give.

Yes I've had the same experience where I get very revealing responses that are often very heart wrenching. For instance the disability discussion in which a lot of people described their particular disability (or disabilities in some cases) and made me realize how many people are in such severe pain due to the disability. After reading some of the responses it makes me ashamed if I get whiney with my problems.

I think what you did was good but it is not your falt if so many people had horrible Christmas'. I know for one I was probably one of your fiends how talked about the horrible Christmas. I am sorry if I upset you. My intention was to let you know the truth and not upset you. Please continue to start your discussions as before and do not second guess yourself. Continue to be a good friend and be there for your friends when you can. Merry Christmas my friend and thanks for being so kind.

I have only started 1 discussion and so I can't answer from that prospective. The time of year is usually a time when people can forget their worries and have a good time with friends and family. The times we find ourselves in right now have not happened since 1929 and the depression. There are alot of people out there really hurting. I am thanful for people like you that have compassion for perople and the struggles. We have never seen anything like this before in most of our life times. If your situation is still good then thank your blessings. I am afraid the it is going to get worse before it gets better and the projections are for 2010 before we see it get better.

Life is a mix of sadness and happiness...No one can be happy or sad all the time..if it was so the spice of life would be gone . it is just that most humans remember hurts far too long than happiness and even a small hurt hurts a lot while no one care to be happy in things of small happiness.. Early morning birds chirping , a new bird hatching out of egg not many people would remember it but they would if his sister told him that she cant come for his wife delivery. we always over look small happiness in search of bigger happiness and that big happiness comes only once in years like birth of a child but we take small things to heart if it hurts us thats why we usually find more people who are sad than happy people. Wounded hearts is part of growing up. People fall in love and then fall out of it. Did the person with his heart wounded ever paused to think that the reason of his hurt can be he himself and not his gf or bf as case might be. And since most people ego wont let them say one word that is SORRY and mean it, wounded heart is result of it.

I usually post light-hearted and frivolous discussion and am often rocked by some of the serious responses that I receive in response. This time of year is often very hard for people for a variety of reasons and when I write "I hope all my friends drop in" and the reply comes "I don't have any friends" then that can and does crush me. Sometimes I think that it would be good to start a commune and for us all to move in with our damaged lives. LOL. But that wouldn't be very realistic and we'd soon find something to complain about even there. I don't think that we'd ever post anything if we stopped to consider that we might upset, hurt or force people to confront their demons every time that we sat down and started to type. Provided that we are honest with ourselves and don't deliberately set out to offend, then we should be able to post with clear consciences .