Are women really that good at it?
By rosdimy
@rosdimy (3926)
Malaysia
December 11, 2008 3:10am CST
I have heard people saying women are good at acting or pretending especially when they want something done for them or objects given to them. It seems they use tears to gain sympathy even though they are actually laughing inside.
Is the assertion true? Have any of you been conned by this method?
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4 responses
@JeztheNun (90)
• United States
11 Dec 08
I don't care what gender a person is, that kind of behavior is despicable. I hate to hear about people manipulating other people. It's disgusting and wrong.
I also don't think that women are any better at it than men. That's an old fashioned and sexist view. Women have been poorly portrayed and slandered by men who feel superior, but the truth is that men are just as guilty of being manipulative as women.
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@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
11 Dec 08
I do not like being manipulated by any gender. I have seen the tendency to be more on the woman's side but I think even if it is true the men are also at fault or weakness. If men do not easily fall for this type of guile women would not use this tactic. So it can also be said it is the man's fault.
Thank you for your response.
all the best,
rosdmy
@JeztheNun (90)
• United States
11 Dec 08
Thanks, luoke!
And rosdimy, I wouldn't really blame a gender, so much as the specific people who do it. I mean, there are plenty of men and women who don't act that way, and plenty who do. I think, as people, we need to stop classifying characteristics of human behavior by gender, and start looking at the individual.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
13 Dec 08
I know that some women are like that, and in a way I think that all of us women can act like that whether we really mean to or not. Those to whom do so and laugh within are nothing but... well scary in my own opinion. Yes, I will admit that as a woman I have learned that to get what I want it is easier to show emotions and tears especially to men folk but that does not mean that I have practiced this, nor do it mean I will ever. I think the best way to get what you want is to earn it, like respect one must earn it, like responsibilities one must prove they can be responsible, trust is also something one must earn... All of these things can be lost if someone "pretends".
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@chandu245 (647)
• India
11 Dec 08
Ya friend, that's really hundread percent true. because my girl friend, will do the same thing. If she want any thing then she will act according to that. Really they were fully acting and pretending to get something.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
11 Dec 08
Thank you for your honest reply. It is true to the extent that we become uncertain when they are pretending or really for real. I guess we males have to be a little more assertive, and not easily succumb to the other genders' tricks. Otherwise we have to take the blame for perpetuating the behaviour.
Thank you for your response.
all the best,
rosdimy
@mamaafrica9 (108)
• United States
13 Dec 08
I have use that ability to get things I want but not in a very bad way. pretty much to get a man to do want he should do any way. But never to deceive to hurt or mislead into wrong doing. I have even cried when I felt words was not enough to get them to understand or feel any sympathy. If a man did something that was wrong or something that was hurtful (but not cause tears) and show no sympathy I would add tears to let him know it hurt. If it don't work he is a evil man. LOL
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@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
13 Dec 08
I am not saying the actions done by women to get what they want is bad. Whatever, contrary to what some (maybe a minority) people say, women are stronger in certain areas. So they are not weak. In this case it is the men who cannot resist the pressure.
Thank you for your response.
all the best,
rosdimy