How long were you together before...
By tklich
@tklich (391)
United States
December 11, 2008 3:50pm CST
How long were you and your spouse together before you got married? Had you been dating for very long or not? Do you think there should be a certain time frame two people should date before you feel it's safe for them to get married? How did you know it was the right choice for you to get married?
I've been married for about 2 months now. We'll have been dating for 2 years the first week of January. To some people that may sound like we got married a little quick, after all, we hadn't even been together 2 years yet. But I've definitely heard of people getting hitched much quicker than that! People have done it in shorter amounts of time and have stayed together for years and years, and then there are people that get married after dating for years, then end up getting divorced anyways!! I just don't get it sometimes. I believe this is one thing where "following your heart" truly does come into play. You can't keep asking questions and second guessing things, or you'll drive yourself crazy. You know in you're heart if you're doing the right thing.
My husband and I knew each other for about 6 months before we started dating. We had been dating about 5 or 6 months when we moved in with each other. After about 8 months of living together I decided to buy a house. Right after buying the house he proposed, and we were married 8 months later. Things just kind of fell into place after we got together. Can't really explain it, but it's just one of those things that you know is right.
I want to hear your story, good or bad experiences welcome!
5 responses
@lilcee (2703)
• United States
11 Dec 08
Well, everyone is different. For me, I knew when I met him he was the one for me. We met in October, got engaged in November and got married in January. Some people thought we had to get married but that wasn't the case. I wasn't pregenat or anything like that. We just knew we loved each other and wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. We'll be married 39 years in January.
@eclecticeducation (112)
• United States
11 Dec 08
Wow!!! That is really wonderful! Congratulations on such a long marriage. :) I just got done commenting that I would probably freak if one of my children said they were marrying someone they just met a month ago. lol!!! I guess it goes to show, even short engagements can work out wonderfully! :)
@cathy78513 (283)
• Philippines
18 Jun 09
I'm not yet married but me and my fiance are on the stage of planning right now. We've known each other for almost two years now. We've been together for almost a year and a half. He asked me to marry him when he was still courting me, I didn't accept at that time because I thought it was very fast and we even don't have a relationship. After being together for almost a year he asked me again to marry him, this time with an engagement ring and I said yes. This time I've been waiting for him to ask me again because I feel that now is the time.
@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
9 Jan 09
Hello tklich! I have been married for 4 months now. My husband and I were dating for 2 1/2 years before he finally proposed to me. Right now, we are far from each other because we still have to process the papers before I can finally follow him to his country.
@vanonas (949)
• United States
11 Dec 08
I'm not married.. but I am living with my boyfriend. We've only been together for about a year and half. We're going to the same university together so we thought it'd be better if we just moved in together rather than having to live on campus and not really be together. It's going very well and I don't see it changing anytime soon.
@eclecticeducation (112)
• United States
11 Dec 08
I dated my ex husband for about 4 1/2 years before we got married, then I filed for divorce (due to abuse) about 1 1/2 years later. I knew it was a bad match up from the start but I couldn't let go. I waited about 3 years to start dating again (needed a break to find myself and to concentrate on my little boy). I married my husband a year and a week after we started dating. We already had known each other for about for about 6 months before we started dating and were friends, but actual date time like I said was just over a year. We have now been married for 7 1/2 years. I don't think there is any set time for dating. I might freak out if one of my children came to me and said they were marrying someone they met only a month ago, but I don't think it has to be years and years. I think just shy of 2 years is a good amount of time!!! :)
