Between husbands and wives, who should give more in terms of finances?

I believe that if both people are working they should both pull their own weight. I have been the main wage earner in my marriage, and most of the expenses fell on me. I worked outside of the home and my husband, tried his hands unsuccessfully at his own online business. I would have loved for him to get a regular steady paying job, but he was so sure that he was going to strike it rich one day. That day never came, then I got laid off from my job, and that leads us to now, where we are really struggling. He is now working, but is not generating the money we need to stay on track. I think that both people should share half in the expenses, and of course the person who is making more should step up, when things get bad. Your brother in law should not spend on himself only, he should help your sister out more with the bills so that they do not get behind.

If both the husband and wife work, then they should both share in the finances. My husband always wants to pay for everything, and he's always been like that. He tells me to take my money and spend it however, and he'll pay the bills. He was taught it was the man's responsibility to take care of his wife and children. But I've paid some at times, and I've paid for the Christmas gifts the past few years. We both have access to the bank accounts. In this day and time, it takes both to make ends meet. I don't go along with all the money being the wife's money. I also try helping my daughter who is single and was left with 4 kids to raise.

husbands and wives are partners in everything.that is true when it comes to finances also.anything unequal,i think the partner is being selfish.

I think both parties really need to try to be as equal as possible when it comes to expenses. If one partner tends to make a bit more than the other then I see nothing wrong with them covering a bit more of the expenses because they can afford it. However it does need to be as close to equal as possible. That's really the whole point of modern marriage or relationships in my opinion.

My husband and I share our income completely. We take advantage of direct deposit and have equal access to our cash and our credit cards. I've never understood the logic of a married couple keeping their finances separate like they were not one single unit..a family. We also own our homes and our vehicles equally.

Well, most of the time society believe that husband should be the one who will support the family financially because thats the role of husband and the wife will just support and take good care to her husband and children.. But for me I believe that both husband and wives should be the one who will help each other financially in the family.. They must both have equal shared in the family.. I believe that its very unfair for the husband to keep on working very hard so that he can just support financially in their family.. Then he don't have time for his kids since he is always away from home to work.. On the other hand, its also unfair for a wife to always stay at home and do the household choirs and to serve her husband and her children.. Being a wife doesn't mean you will be a maid or a servant.. Husband and wife should have an equal share and responsibility in the family.. They both should have work to have an equal financial share to expense in the family.. they also both shared equal time to their children and to each other.. I know that its so hard to leave the children alone at home but the more its unfair for the family if they don't have the same responsibility...

When it comes to husband and wife, I think we shouldn't calculate how much shares we are giving, or who is giving more. Of course, it always depends individually. I have friends who don't let the husbands or wives know how much money they are actually having. As for my husband and myself, we actually don't really separate whose money is this, who should pay for what, or how much should we come out for this month, etc. We just treat our money as ours, so it doesn't really matter who should give more or less, as we are life partners, I don't think money really matters to us.

Honestly it sounds as if the husband is selfish, I dont understand why some think it is alright to keep buying things for themselves. If she is paying for everything as in bills, that just isnt right as where is he contributing to the household or the relationship. I dont know who makes what but I would think that they both should be giving if they are both working. I also feel in a marriage everything should be 50/50 when possible. Maybe she can talk to him and they could work it out by talking. Communication and honesty is a must in a realtionship. Maybe they could even split the bills? Or put all money that comes in on the bills and then what is left split it? I dont know but he sure doesnt sound fair.

I think if both are working and getting handsome salary, there should be an equal contribution from both the partners.

I would have to say that the money is "theirs" in my opinion. I'm not really talking about this couple though, not with that sentence anyway. I believe that shares should not be given though, and that pertains to any couple, including the one your talking about here. My fiance and I have "our money" none of it is solely his nor none of it is solely mine. I am not sure if finances are a big deal between married couples.

I think In an idweal relation bolth give and take/share equally. Then there is no time money energy waisted on fighting/bickering. :)

Money is big deal with marriages. Couples should not be keeping secrets about how much they are earning...that's the foundation of any partnership: HONESTY & TRUST. If sis cannot get her hub to share equally, then they should distribute the responsibilities between them. Let him share the responsibility of handling maybe the baby's expenses and she pays for the food and utility bills, and that includes scheduling for bill payment. Men like responsibilities but they don't want to be pushed around, to avoid resentment she should discuss it w/ him as partners in a respectful manner ...I mean complete with accounting details written and subject to his approval, that way he'll see how much the family spends in detail and he should be given the share to solve financial problems. :D. Have a nice day iskayz! :)

Well, for a start, a marriage is supposed to be a partnership, isn't it? So everything equal and down the middle. No "what's mine is mine and what's her's is her's", right? That's it in a nutshell. What I have to ask is, why does this concern you? Are you planning to marry someone wealthy? Or perhaps it's the other way around. Whatever the case may be money should never come into marriage that's meant to be about love and commitment nothing else. I do have to admit though, it does help but should never be an option.

My ex-husband and I did equal. The amount shared in some families is a big deal. When you get married I believe that it's a 50/50 situation. The bible said the man is the head the of house. So It could go that the man should support the family. It just really depends on the people in the family.

It depends on the couple, who works, who brings in what money, the amount of responsibility each partner takes on, and so forth. My husband and I both work full time so it is not really an issue for us. We both have benefits and have been at our jobs for awhile. We are hoping that I will end up in the better position in the next couple of years since I have a Bachelors and would like to obtain my Masters starting in another year or so. I just think whatever the couple finds to be acceptable will work best for them in the long run.

In my culture it is taken that the husband is the head of the house but not necessarily a boss or a tyrant mhe is seen as a father figure within the family,he thus carries the highest responsibility within the house,the woman (wife) on the other hand is seen as the helper thus she assists with some of the expenses but she is not to be abused in a situation where the man buys expensive things for himself without a good care for his family ,he looses respect and unfortunately this is sekfishness on his part,it is the duty of the man to take good care of the home and his family and this includes procviding a good shelter ,food,clothing and adequate protection within his ability while the wife is to supplement what he is doing but it still does not make him a beast of burden

My husband and I contribute everything to the household first. once bills have been paid, food purchased, kids get what they need, then we worry about purchases for our individual selves. There have been times where I was out of work an dhe had to float the entire situation, and there were times when he was out of work and I floated our situatiuon. We just know that we have to be a unit that functions together. If we each had to only give a portion of what we earned that would be more like we were roommates and not life partners.

the other questions?...husband is pillar of family is finance master for any family.. but its not bad if wifes support in finance concern to any family...but bit husband have to take larger part in it..that makes family to be stay strong and worth too...:)