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A mom is not always the woman that gave birth to a baby. The real mom is the one that is there when you need a hug and bobos kissed. a real mom is there teaching you how to bake cookies and how to keep your room clean. she is there when your best friend hurts you or the first time you breakup with your first boyfriend. She's the one that comforts you when your scared during a thunderstorm. A real mom is the one that makes sure your clothes are clean and yo get to the dentist as needed. I could go on and on but I became my grandkids Mom when she gave them to their dad and went to Germany with another man and never wrote or called. so I know how your step kids will feel down the road. They will look on you as their Number one MOM

A mom is definately the one who cares for the child. My grandmother raised me and loved me and in my mind that is my mom. It took me a while to realize this because I had this idea in my head of who my mother was. But once I grew up a bit,and understood things,it was my grandmother I thought of this way.It may be hard for the mother but it's even tougher for the kids because they don't understand why mom left and may blame some of that on you but hang in there and be patient.As they grow and see you are the selfless giver and caretaker..they will see you as mom.

I think when you have to wake up every two hours to feed this tiny baby and basically not sleep for the next two years, you become a mom.

IMHO, a mom is someone who above all, puts that child ahead of everything else. A mom never lets anything come between her and her child, never lets anything change how she feels about that child and never gives up trying to make that child into a sweet, loving, respectful and caring individual. She never judges her child, never holds grudges, and is always available if that child needs help. She constantly encourages that child. She never says "I told you so" and she is always honest. Sounds like you're doing great!

Doing my best as a mom is the most important thing I did for my children. I don't think it matters if you are a step mom or a real mom, just play your part well. My children's dad don't have custody with them and I'm sure it isn't easy for him but what can I do he is too faw away to visit my kids. Did the real mom keep on bugging you? I just hope she isn't. I suggest to just let your kids understand what's going, that's what matters most. Good luck.