I have this friend and I haven't been truthful to him?

well u have two options u can tell him now cuz if u wait longer he would make a bigger deal out of it or u can wait till u knw wbtter cuz then it will b easier to forgive but rememebr once its done.. things WILL B different! happy lotting and have a nice day! :D

Always trust your instincts first. You stated that you didn't know him that well so how important is this person to you and will being truthful change the dynamic of your relationship. If you withheld something from him, then you can make the decision when to tell him or not but if you lied about something then you should tell the truth because you wouldn't want someone else to tell the truth before you.

I really don't know what to tell you, why were you not truthful to him? that I guess makes the difference in whether you should be truthful to him now or not.

Truth is not cut and dried. Your truth my not mean anything to him at all. Truth changes with time also . At one time men were the head of the household. Now men and women are equal. Once Science determined that " what goes up must come down" This is no longer true. My advice is wait till he asks, and then tell him Your Truth. Then you will know if its His Truth as well!

Is there a reason why you haven't been truthful to him? And if you think you should wait and that's your gut instinct... then wait. But if your hoping to build a long lasting relationship be it friendship or otherwise then don't let it be too long to be trueful, the longer you wait (depending on the secrets) the worser the consequences.

Hay I have had simular situations and in my experiences(my friend being u & your friend being me)I found that sometimes it's better to speak up rather than stay quiet about something like this even if your scared, maybe you could imply there being a you&him as like a joke just to see what his reaction would be to something like that if it's not good than just play it off like it was all a big joke, I have done this before and it works(when looking for a truthfull answer)but I think everyone might be a little too debbie downish about this subject cheer up he just might be stuggling with the same problem about you!Be optimistic cause ya never really know until you ask but you shouldn't wait too long someone else might catch his attention. Wish u best of luck,Over & Out!

I guess it depends what it is that you feel you need to tell him about yourself. I mean personally I do not tend to tell people a lot about myself until I feel I know them a lot better and have built up a rapport with them but if it was something that i felt they should know about me from the start and might influence the friendship then I guess I would tell them.

I never started a friendship without being truthful. Holding back information about yourself and having to reveal it later could mean that the entire relationship was built on a lie, right? Friendship is more valuable than that to me. If someone doesn't like me for who I am and what I've been, then I don't need the friendship.

If I don't know a person that well I am not about to go and tell that person anything that is to personal. It really depends on what it is you haven't been truethful about. You really have to go with your gut instinct on this one really. I had a friend that was seeing this one guy but became friends with another one and was falling for this other guy but didn't know how to tell this one guy that she was already taken was hard for her to break the news. She asked me and I told her she had to come clean and be honest. It's not an easy task but sometimes we just have to do it. I wish you the best of luck with this one and may he understand after you telling him when you decied to.

[b]well thats just nice, of course to be honest......... you should tell the truth to that friend ... no person on earth will mind if you tell him the truth, even if you have been not telling the truth before..... [/b]

well not sure what the truth is, i find it's better to honest with everyone. and i tell my new friends that i have bipolar, and i have depression. if they aren't going to like me for who i am, then oh well.

Hi marcia Tell him!! The longer you leave it the harder it will be to tell him. He might well find out by himself which would be worse and also the longer you leave it the angrier he will be because you didn't tell him sooner. If he is a good friend then it shouldn't matter to him what your secret is and he will support you. Good luck Marcia!!

is there any reason of being not be truthful. i want to say one thing in any relation the foundation is being truthful to the relation.judge his response before u say to him this.if he will be positively taking then tell him the truth.otherwise dont tell.mostly i prefer to tell.dont loose a friend.

it depends on what the relationship you are,is he is a person who you donot want to keep a long relationship with him,you should not tell all the information of yourself,and if he is a person you want to have in your whole life,you should tell him about yourself.But donot lie to him.

It would depend on what you have told him. You don't have to tell everything to everybody. Specially when you don't know somebody that well. I would't worry about it too much Marcy. Remember if its something private that you need to talk about, I am here, you can email me, call or PM me thru mylot. I will give you an honest opinion.

i did understand you fully ,what is you have not been truthful about??i also have a friend but i havent told him everything about myself.maybe it is the curiosity.i would like to know him better,before i tell anything about myself.

I believe that it all depends on what you think you need to tell him. I do not think that you should tell all of your business at first, just tell him you feel it is too soon to discuss some issues.

the thruth will set u free. well if u think that he or she is showing him or her the real him well its unfaired from him cause she's or he's true to u and ur just making him taking advantaged of him. well theres nothing wrong if ur true to others and show the real u. well u better changed that attitude. dont tell him or her that ur a liar cause she/he might got hurt because u lied to him/her. but u must do is to show now the real u. u should share ur thoughts to him/her the real thoughts and real information.

How much your instinct tells you that he is truthful to you?....You have to wait and watch and don't bear truthfulness before you know him better as this can have adverse affect on you later on. Sometimes the other person tries to take advantage of you. So don't haste and watch his habits carefully.

i'm wondering how long u get to know each other? and i believe that time will prove everyting. you can value a person if he or she is worthy to be trusted through the way that he handle problems.Even a small gesture of him. You said that u haven't been truthful with him, i guess you know the reasom better than anyone. Take a step back, If you were in his position ,what are u gotta to do? if he or she is in good moral,then every mistakes he has done can be forgiven.