Can you forgive and forget?

If it was a year and a big deal, I may not take them back as a friend, I am not sure, it would depend on the circumstances. I usually try to give the benefit of the doubt, but sometimes it get old getting a bad friend all the time, so you just let them go.

I don't think so,I would wonder why they suddenly wanted me again,these people normally turn out to be users and that is something I suffered from a so called good friend realised I was unable to help her because of my personal problems and dumped me when I needed them most,fortunately she was not my only good friend and no I would not be able to forgive her for that.Mainly because I could not trust her again to do the same thing to me again,years I helped her through thick and thin it has really showed me what she is like.Anyway I was not left stranded,to coin a phrase I found out who my friends are.So if you are thinking about taking back someone who let you down think about what happened to me,and you are in the same position as I was,be careful.

if she is sincere then I think I will forgive her but is hard to forget and takes time to reconstruct the friendship for sure.

Yes, I can forgive and forget. I have done so in mnay cases. People all make mistakes. Peopel need to realize unless they themseleves have never made a mistake. They should not be to harsh on the ones that do.

i can forgive, but ill never forget.

That's a tough one. I think maybe I would give them a second chance, but I don't think I could trust that person like I had before. I don't think I would go out of my way for that person. They would have to earn that trust back. If they were to blow that second chance I would never give them another.

I rarely get into a really serious disagreement with someone specially with a close friend or a relative. But most of the time, I tend to forgive and forget thinking that there is always a second time for someone to prove himself/herself to change for the better and not abuse my trust to him/her.

Yes, I can. Its not that I don’t feel insulted or suffer from amnesia. Rather I have tuned myself to forget, forgive and move on. But I cant be friends really after a certain point. If I feel that I am being taken advantage of time and again or if somebody is avoiding and insulting me inspite of my best efforts, I just ignore that person and move on.

I always aim to forgive for my own peace of mind. For if someone has wronged you and you continue to feel angry at them, or hate them, it isn't hurting anyone else but the self. To forgive is an experience that needs communication that you can get to like the other person again. If the person has disappeared out of your life though, you need to forgive that person in your mind, and that isn't so easy, because when you think of them, you will be thinking again about the wrong they have done you. Then you need to imagine them smiling and saying sorry as strong as you can.. I used to run self-development groups and this is how we dealt with various blame and guilt problems that people had and the visualisation technique really worked. Guilt is the same - it is a self condemnation.. :-) Derek

well im experiencing it right now and im the one who dump my friend and i realized i was wrong for what i did to him thats y i contacted him and he forgave me when i said im sorry. u know in a true friendship there will have lots of trials ur going to face in order to build the last and true friendship. it was not only the joys u can show that ur a true friend but when it comes to weaker side of ur friends u were there to accept and trust them.

ohh sure..but i have no such experience in my life.i had a very good friend few years back we had a dispute in between us.we both have mistake i think.every dispute have mistake from both side but our ego may be not allow us to agree this.i don't will he has any desire to meet me.but i surly like to see him.i can't say how and when i could see him.

I can forgive, but, forgetting in the sense, I will not be responsible, but my memory capacity and the activities of my friend will decide that.....

I can forgive, but I will not forget. I will be very careful every time the same issue/problem comes up, and I will make sure that the person I have forgiven will not be exposed to the similar issues/problems/positions that s/he once succumbed to. Forgiving and protective, but not forgetful - that's my attitude.

In real life i have not yet faced situation. So i cannot say for sure what my action will be at that moment. However, in the present situation, i feel that if someone honestly and sincerely accepts his mistake and can explain him/herself and why he/she did so, i would be able to forgive them. i would forgive thinking that if the same has been done by my children i would have accepted their mistake and forgiven, then why not a friend.

yes i 've been experienced that before. when my bestfriend had made a lied to me and he hurts me so much. but i do really love my bestfriend and weve been friends for 6 years so i forgot what he did to me and forgave him for hurting me and we continued the friendship that we made.

Depends. It's a two-way street. Unfortunately, (or perhaps fortunately) all of us can only clean our side of the street. We can do the footwork, but it's still up to others to forgive us. On some occasions, these injured parties may be more or less inclined to forgive, depending not so much on who was the most to blame, but on their individual capacity to forgive. I have an ex that I'm on good terms with. But that took a very long time to come about. She's still acting somewhat strange at times... I asked a mutual friend about it, and she said, 'She's still in love with you; but wouldn't admit it for a million dollars.' I'm still trying to figure that one out. But the forgiveness issue has been resolved. May the good Lord help you with this one, just try to do the next right thing. Take care.

if she/he is sincere then why not forgive him/her? if God forgives how much us?

I guess it all depends on what the situation is and if it is worth forgetting. I have done it before and I never brought the situation up again because I did not want to get any bed feelings.

Forgive. It is good to YOURSELF. You will be so much healthier and happier. Forget. Yes but not totally. Forget the details but remember that he or she can only be friends that are NOT for bearing your soul. Do NOT trust he/she again.

It is very difficult to forgive and forget,but we do that because we love the people who did wrong to us.