Whom you will choose, mom or dad?

My mother and dad are both gone now, but they were together until he passed away and my mom never remarreid.. In the situation that you described, there is no doubt in my mind that I would have gone with my mother.. When you get older, you will see that as bad as it hurt you, it was hurting your mom also.. Your dad wouldn't have been alone but your mom would have.. I would have gone with her for the simple fact that I loved her and to be with her for any extra moral support that she would have needed.. I am very glad that things worked out for them, I hate to see families divided..

I will choose mom.She really helps me a lot.She makes for me breakfast early in the morning for college.She also gives me money to eat something good outside.She also helps me find things that are lost in the house.I give my mom company during her long journeys when she visits her native place.

Well, I will choose my mother, because me and my mother have a very strong bonding. She understands me, without me attering a single word. She takes care of me and always shows her concern towards me. Mothers are so affectionate and loving that no one can replace them.

My parents divorced when I was 10 years old. My sister and I decided to go with our mom as it was basically the thing to do back then...the kids went with the mom automatically, although we were given the opportunity to choose. It was a hard decision to make, but I'm glad I went with my mom instead of my dad, even more so since my dad remarried when I was 14 years old. I don't think I would have taken kindly to being raised by my stepmother, especially since I was a teenager at the time. But had I gone to live with my dad I doubt I would have met my husband as my dad lives in a different city than my mom does and I met my husband while I was living with my mom. Who knows how my life would have turned out had I chosen my dad, but I doubt I'd be where I am today.

Hello Aisa, I feel sad whenever I see couples have to separate because one of them is dishonest with their partner. I feel sad most of all for the kids because we all know a broken family contribute a big impact to kids life. As for my parents, in spite of my mother's attitude being a nagger, their relationship is still intact. My father is faithful to my mother and always understand her with all her tantrums and nags. A few times I have come to the point asking my father if he is not tired, or even get mad at times with my mother. But he would just say, when he met my mother she is already like that, so all he did is to understand and her and adjust. They have been in big fights before where my father wants to give up, but thanks it was resolve. If ever I would be in that situation, where I have to choose, I would definitely be on my father's side.

This happened to me when I was 2 thank god I was to young to remember most and to have to make the choice. How ever it works out I am sure they bolth love you. :)

I’ll choose Mom. Apart from the fact that she brought me up almost single-handedly, she is a woman and I understand her a lot more now than I did before. I would never be in peace if I left her for Dad. Though they are not separated, but if ever the situation had arisen, I would always go for mom.

It's good to hear that your family is happy now, though there were some incidents before. My parents are still together, and if this really happened to me when I was young, I think I'll choose to be with my mum. Though I also have good relationship with my dad, just that my mum spent most of her time taking care of us, as she's a housewife, and I think all of us prefer to be with her. Also, perhaps in my mind, women are weaker and more sentimental, so I think my mum really needs our support.

This will be very hard because I would not want to see my mother and father separate. I am so close to my dad and close to my mom as well. I do hope it will not happen to them.

hiii friend....i feel sorry for you...but its difficult for me to choose because both are equally important to me....its like asking which eye you prefer of the two......thank god there are no such issues with my parents and are happy..its good to see that your dad came back to you...have great life ahead with your dad and mom together....

It is sorrow to hear. My parent are together till now.It will be good for your all family member that they solve their misunderstanding & will be more careful to their promise.

Well I would choose my mom .My dad never cared for me anyway so my mom and grandmom aer the only people I know.In your situation its a little different since you have lived with both of them.Some thing tells me that most persons feel more connected with their mother ,I dont know if it has anything to do with 9 months you spend in your mothers belly has anything to do with it but I definitely feel more connected with my mother.

Hi i use to prefer both because both have equal role to play in our life...but in love and affection way concern mom stands first then dad..when comes to studies, money and proper thoughts dad is first like that keep on going...so i finish with this itself..:)

my father and mother will have some clashes between them in some household things and after sometime they will be ok. as we are indians ,there will be many adjustments and there will be no seperations for silly reasons and live forever .here in our country there will be joint families also and there also many adjustments will be there . but all will live together and help each other . if i have to choose any one when my parents seperated ,i will choose both . i will live 6 months with my mother and 6 months with my father . this condition i will put to them .then only i can live happy with both of them .may be after seeing my struggle they can understand and can get again into relation again . then i feel happy and feel that i am great person in the world , if they unite again. lets hope for unity but not seperation of everybody in the world.

Well I think if that situation would ever occured I did probably go with one who needs me and not the one whom I need.

i went through that from 10-13 yrs. old, for 3 yrs. my mom was cheating and my dad was giving her many chances, but constantly fighting. we went with my dad b/c my dad took better care of us. N it was pretty much set in stone by my parents already. my mom was in a new relationship so she just wanted to have fun n not raise kids. if it did happen you'll know already who to go with.

my parents are intact they had reach 30 years already and my father is still in love with my mom until now i can say it because they both happy but when they quarrel my father just stay calm his patience is too high and his kindness is really amazing, my mother is strict but it has something to say. i always read between the lines and they supports me. :) if they will be separated knock on wood! i will do anything to get in their conscience and make them love each other again.

hi aisaellis.... sad story.... at least your dad made a promise and was true with his words. well, i came from a broken family and i grew up with my mom. so from your question, i will definitely choose my mom....

My parents where married for 57 years. I have been divorced for 13 and my 2 sons live with their mother and my daughter lives with me.I don't see why you would have to choose. I understand you have to live with one or the other but you can still see and be active in the life of the other.my boys come to my house all the time and my daughter goes to her mothers about as much.I don't think that divorce should have to separate a family,sometimes we complicate it more than we need to.In my case it has only, helped bring me closer with my kids and them with their mother.sometimes you tend to,not be home or with family when you don't get along with your spouse.kids see your absents and may be one reason they tend to blame themselves for it.If you ask my kids today if they would have wanted us to stay together, I have no doubt, they would answer NO. (we have had this discussion)

i don't want consider this question .my parent love eachother .so there is no need to think.