husband's doess not wants to celebrate good times with me

Goodtogo, I really feel badly for you. I don't think my husbands behavior is quite that bad. It really sounds as though your husband really does not want to have anything to do with your family. My husband just has nothing in common with my family and finds it difficult to make small talk even with the men in the family. As I think I mentioned, my parents passed long before I got married, but I think they would understand and they knew that I had nothing in common with my brother and sisters, and I only spend time with them for the sake of my niece who grew up with us and her children. If your husband just doesn't want to spend time with your family and it isn't because he finds it difficult to be around them because he is uncomfortable, he is just being rude to both you and your family and could use a mind adjustment. I would suggest that you leave him at home, but that might make things even more difficult with your family. I really do wish you good luck. I hope you have a friend who you can talk with about this because this can be very stressful, especially during the holidays and other special occasions like weddings. I will be thinking about you during this holiday season and hope everything goes well. You keep stressing that yours is a love marriage. Are you from a culture that does not encourage love marriages? Is there perhaps some resentment between your husband and your parents becuase your parents wanted you to marry someone else?

Thanks a lot Ghostcat for discusing all this with me.Same is the case with me sometimes.My husband is waiting outside or messaging me or just showing me his anger and dua to that i come out.this is the case when ho goes with me.On our way he continues to tell me that he is going just for me and it is not of his interest and he tells me to come out as early as possible.and if there are three functions in a wedding he just attends one and even than he ex[pects me to say thanks to him because he is going in a function which is related to me.All this is so difficult to handle and more difficult in a situation like mine of love marriage because i can't tell anything to my parents anmd show them all the time that my husband is very good and caring and he always makes me happy etc.but noone can imagine my feelings at that time when my tears come out evry time after that.

you are right but you know i talked to him but he really is not interested that these are the things that make me happy.he just see them as something not necessary in our relationship.

Once again, I agree with LatinaLoveBug. The point is that he does things that are important to you because he cares about you. You do things that you don't want to do that are important to him, don't you? It is time for a conversation but perhaps a much more serious one than the initial suggestion. Marriage is a two way street and BOTH parties have to compromise if you are to have a successful and happy marriage.