What do you prefer in life a spouse or be a single?

I prefer to have a spouse. There are good and bad things about both, I think. When I was younger I travelled a lot and I used to live abroad for months. At that time I was single and I enjoyed my freedom and my independence. Now I am engaged and I am no longer able to do all the things I want to. My fiance and I have to agree and we have to make decisions together, but I am more than willing to give up my independence, because the good things about having a partner are much more immportant to me.

I have never married however if the situation arose and I though it had legs I would certainly take the plunge if I thought it was a compatible person. I sometimes think I am getting too old for that to happen though. There are people who simply do not fuction well alone as mankind tends to be a social being and is not happiest alone. Unfortunately some people think another person will fill that emotional hole they have in their life when what should be happening is that person should be healthy and then attract an emotionally healthy mate.

Well, why would anyone like to be Single. If not spouse, I would atleast prefer a GF.

I prefer to have a spouse. Before my husband came into my life it felt like there was a void in my life. Now my life is too busy to feel that way anymore. Though some days I do want to get away from the kids! LOL

I was in 2 not very nice marriages. I have been single for years and I love it. Now I would not marry again no matter how much I love the guy. I understand your desire to be married having never done that but don't rush things. Take your time and when the right person comes into your life, you'll know it. you certainly don't want to get married and then go thru the heartbreak of divorce when you discover it was all wrong. it's not much fun.

Having a spouse is generally better than being single. Companionship and comfort can be given by friends but the levels are not the same. I know of people who married late because they wanted to enjoy the life of being single but regretted doing so after getting married. I symphatise with your current situation. Are you trying too hard? There are men who are put off by women who appear to be desperate. Or do you set many conditions that most men cannot fulfill? all the best, rosdimy

I am on my second marriage. So, I could say I prfer to have a spouse. But if that spouse would become abusive controling. Than I would prefer to single.

If you are working to find a spouse, solely to have a spouse, it is for the wrong reason. You should be with a person because you want that connection and that relationship, and it does not happen over night. I can understand wanting to be connected, wanting to have a friend, someone who is always on your team... But you cannot want a spouse, for a spouse...Every spouse is different, male or female, because people are different... I can understand finding your perfect person...or finding the best friend that compliments you...but I cannot understand seeking a spouse to have just that.