Changing your lover, for your love or to control your love?

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My love story? of course it is fantastic! my boy/girl? It is exactly the right one for me, even better. Then the first to make you discouraged appears, what attracted me now annoys me, is it the first signal of relationship disintegration ? No one could definitely say to oneself when a relationship started," I want to change him/her ." But , in our unconscious mind, do we have this idea:he/she will change? Some consider that it is quite different to adapt to each other for a more harmonious relationship from to attempt to change each other. To change each other is to control the relationship unconsciously. Others consider that because of our love, he/she will change. The will to affect each other is actually to wish him/her to care about our love. to show that we are important to him/her. After the initial hot spot, criticism between each other is followed :" give up this, improve that"......Does these words for the sake of your loves or for yourself? Let's talk about motivation and limitation behind it!