For those NOT looking forward to Christmas.....
By lumenmom
@lumenmom (1986)
United States
December 14, 2008 1:29pm CST
I just thought about this today because my dad is anxious to put up the Christmas tree so that all the grand kids can enjoy Christmas. I am anxious also, but not for the same reason. My anxiety comes from having to explain to my daughter why her Christmas will be so lean while her cousins are getting so many gifts and we all live in the same house. I know most people say explain to children it's not about the gifts, etc. but in reality it is hard to expect young children to be stand up people in these situations and as the parent it is painful to see their disappointment. My daughter already feels like she is less deserving because of all we lost due to her father leaving. There are many that are not looking forward to Christmas for many reasons, most due to finances or death of loved ones. My question is what are you doing this year to cope with those feelings?
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@shihtzumama (290)
• United States
14 Dec 08
I can sympathize with you and understand how your feeling. I too am not looking forward to Christmas, and I am usually so excited as it is USUALLY my favorite holiday. Times are rough in my home too, I have had no job for over a year and am having trouble finding any work. My husband got news this last week that his company is closing the doors and he will be out of work on Jan.9th So we are feeling it financialy already. Times are scary and little ones don't understand. My son this year is going to have a lean christmas as well! We have explained to him the reason and he is 10 so he understands more now. I just told him that he has alot already, he doesn't go without to often. He is spoiled as he is the only grandchild right now and both my parents and siblings get him EVERYTHING when he wants it. He understands thankfully! To cope with my feelings I just take it one day at a time. I just get through the day and that is really all you can do. Just know that you are not alone. There are ALOT of people in this same situation and that to has helped me cope!! Keep you head up and just Trust in God. He will bring us through all of this. I am feeling more and more at peace with God with my prayers and the prayers people are saying for us. I will pray for you and your daughter!! Try to have a nice Christmas!!!
Shihtzumama
@lumenmom (1986)
• United States
14 Dec 08
Thanks for your reply and your prayers. I know there are a lot of people hurting and one thing I am doing that is helping me cope is I am helping an organization that provides furnishings for people who are getting back on their feet. It keeps me in touch with those who truly understand how I feel and there is some comfort in that. I am hoping that all who are able to respond to this will feel some comfort in knowing they are not alone.
@shihtzumama (290)
• United States
14 Dec 08
Yes no one is alone right now. There are more and more people every day who are in our situation. Its very sad and scary. Just trust that God sees and knows what we are all going though, and really put your trust in him. The peace you will feel is truely amazing!!! I can honestly say that prayers for peace and letting my mind rest are being answered. I just take it one day at a time, one hour at a time and get though the day. Before you know it, we are starting a new week!!!!
Im praying for you!
@TalkingMuch (11)
• United States
19 Dec 08
You need to stop trying to get people to feeling sorry for you and tell them that you choose not to work and that you want others to take care of ALL YOU AND YOUR DAUGHTERS need. You knew last January that Christmas would be here this December and you just sat on your butt and worked for nothing. You have really no excuse for why you don't work. And if you really feel like you just can't make it in the Corporate America, then either play crazy, or convince them that you need SSD!
