marry or not?

There is nothing wrong with that. I do think there are a lot of people that jump into marriage because they feel it is expected of them. There are some females that I know that are nearing 30 and have remained single. Some of them date, some of them do not wish to. One day you will find that person that makes you feel like you want to be around them forever. I think everyone should wait until they feel that. For some, that is not possible, as they get pregnant and feel it is the responsible choice to marry.

I was engaged once, and it ended badly. I'm a bit bitter about the idea of marriage as result. I have a child with my current boyfriend and I am borderline 22 years old, and although I hope we're together for the rest of our lives, I still don't want to pursue marriage for quite some time. I agree with you that 20's are a woman's prime. I feel like I'm wasting mine by tying myself down so quickly! I don't WANT to go out anymore! I'd rather sit at home with my boyfriend and daughter and watch a movie! I've never really been much of a "going out" kinda-girl though. Good luck on finding your Prince Charming! :)

you are right... married is to find a person that you wish to spend your whole life with for the rest of your life... so, you must find someone that you really love... if married with a person that you didn't love, i don't think that they will have happiness.... well, maybe in other person eye, you are too old to get married, but for love, never be old or late... so, enjoy your life and wait for your mr. right!

I think 20 yrs old is way to early to get married! You are still learning about life outside of your parents house, reality, responsibilities. I'm 26 and still not married, but I was still learning what I like in a man and what I don't. I do believe I have found what I am looking for, but only time will tell. I have been with the person Im with for about 2 yrs now and things are great. so marriage shouldn't be an age thing, but only a love thing.

good to hear that! 20 to 30's are the ideal years of marriage, actually 20 to 23 is still too early for marriage. there are some girls even they reach 25 they are not yet emotionally ready to get married. you are right its better to wait for the better one rather than marrying the wrong one. for single ladies just enjoy life and be happy stay pretty and fresh.

It's good that you know your priorities. . Good Luck on meeting your prince charming. . . ^_^

Good for you that you are going out of the box your society has created from you. Well I think you are right in your stand in there. Go and enjoy your womanhood and single blessedness and do not be alarmed if you reach your 30ish unmarried find your true love along your journey and when you found it then commit to be happy with him. That is all the essence of being a good woman who loves herself.

I think the best time for a girl for marriage is between 20-25 years old, but it depends on the culture where she is living on. A girl should marry a man only if they love each other although her age is under 20 or above 25. Why don't you want to marry early? Do you have another important things? If not, I suggest you to marry early. :)

Way to go girl! I'm really happy to hear about your determination and mind you, I too am of the same mind and I finally found and got my prince charming at the age of 29. hehehe... It's absolutely important and crucial for a girl to find the right person before marrying. After all, not marrying is much better than marrying wrong. Rest assured your prince charming will appear soon enough and everything will fall into the right place. meanwhile, enjoy the singlehood lifestyle to the fullest. ;p

Same here with with mine....may not old enough but it is good for marrying age. In the province where I used to live before alot of girls when they reached at the age of 20 would like to get married right away. When they get the age of 25 and not yet married they already get frustrated and deppressed. But... here in the city where I live If you get married at the age of 20 people would say negative about you...they would think negative things. And woman reaches the age 0f 35 and yet not married and when you ask them they would tell you they are not ready yet. Anyways.... I get married at the age of 31 and I am soo happy about it. I dont have regret with single life because I have enjoyed it to the max... But before I do love to get married at the age of 25 because it is the ideal age to get married for me. But even if I was not able to. I am still happy ans satisfied. still... it's worth the wait.

I'm surprise to hear that the tradition in your city. It's a terrible things for a couple if their marriage without love. I agree that 20-30 years old is the best time in a woman's life. But i don't think it have conflict with the marriage. If you have a husband who you love and love you, i think your best time will be more colorful and happy.

I agree. Just like men, women should also enjoy their youth and unmarried moments in their lives. But, they have to be conscious about it because if they enjoy it too long, before they know it, they are already left behind.

I certainly think that forced marriages wouldn't be happy, and you should wait till you find the one for you. What's the hurry in getting married? the important thing is that you'll have to be happy after your marriage!! all the best! and happy mylotting(:

i completely agree with you i don't think one should marry someone they don't love. i for one just married my true love my girlfriend/ now my wife and i feel b

I think you are right. Women should be individuals. Some women want to marry right away and be a mother and take care of her husband and her family. Others want a career and to be independant. It is up to the individual. Each woman has her own destiny and her own life to enjoy. Do your thing but, if you plan to have a family don't wait too long. Have a happy life.

hi absolutely! you should be ready and aware to some changes when you get married. its not that when you reach the age of 20, u shud get married cos of the age, it shudnt. Enjoy being single, when the right man comes then its the right time to get married as well as to consider also ur stability and capability. Goodluck! Happy mylotting. grace

I share the same view like yours. I think marriage is the love of the hearts and we should not waste our life carrying marriage rather than enjoying it. Therefore in my view marry the one who you love and who loves you.

I've been married twice, so I'd have to answer "marry". However, my first husband I was dating in universary and married at 22. I think I was too young to know what I wanted out of life. We had fun together - but it turned out all we had in common was the friends we hung out with and the fun we had a group. Alone as a couple, we were bored, bored, BORED - but we didn't find that out until after we were married. My second husband is a royal pain in my butt on a regular basis, but I love him dearly. We share common interests and have fun together. I'd say wait long enough until you find someone you mesh with. Never marrying would be better than marrying someone who isn't your match.

I definetely agree with you there. However i think if you want to have children then you must be on the constant lookout for him as otherwise your body clock might run out. Otherwise good for you!! Be an independent lady and don't listen to them. Oh and make sure you don't set enormously high standards as you may miss your prince charming along the way- i know from experience about that.

now that's what im talking about..seriously, is that still happening? seems like a century old scenario.. it happened in my country before too.. where girls are considered as old maids when they reach 18 and havent had a husband yet.. but we are on the 21st century... most women now are career oriented now as well.. its not bad to marry in a young age. but there's more to life than that i think.. i am a believer of love as well.. i am 21 years old and i just had one boyfriend before. and i dont regret it as well.. its a matter of choice if u want to keep urself single and wait for the right one.. i have always thought that its better to wait for one true prince's kiss than waste ur time kissing 99 frogs..LOL