Gossip, another married man!!

Continue with what you are doing now.Even if you are to stop talking with your friend,the people are going to believe you are hiding your relationship.The world is like that.Don't pay more attention to them.And also try to mingle with others also,so that you are not confined to your friend alone.And the gossip will soon end.Cheers!

Hmmm...I think its kinda unfair for your colleague if you would just stop talking to him. Just ignore...gossips die anyway. And I think its best if you would let your boyfriend fetch you at work or something, just to show your office mates that you have a boyfriend.

talk to him about it, and let him know what people are saying and see what he suggests

I would do nothing. It seems you have developed a certain reputation with married men no matter how far the reality is. Human nature makes people focus on what they want to believe rather than the truth. Just continue to be innocent...you know the truth of the matter and that is the most important thing. Eventually, your co-workers will make someone else the object of their gossip. Also, if you are new to the job, this will also inspire the gossips because your peers don't know you very well so far. Just be a good and kind person and ignore the gossips.

One of my mottos is "what you think of me is none of my business". You should not let idle gossip spoil your friendship. As long as you are comfortable with yourself that you are doing nothing inappropriate the gossip will dwindle when people find someone else to talk about. It may be a good idea to chat to your friend about and see how he would like to handle it. Personally I could not care less what others think about me.

You haven't told what effect all this is having on your bf. If he has heard this but is strongly bonded to you, then you just needn't worry. The gossiping tongues will fall silent after not finding any spice in the thing.As one of the posts has said rightly people whose lives are boring will spice up their lives with such gossip. Even if you want to cut this man off you can do so by a set of imperseptible moves. You could engineer a transfer if possible, and be at peace elsewhere, if you do not want to take the gossip-mongers head-on that is.

How ridiculous. Sometimes people have to gossip and make up stories about others because they have so much time on their hands that they have nothing better to do. Perhaps they need more work to do. Have the bf come pick you up for lunch and let everyone see him give you a gentle greeting kiss, in front of the married man when he arrives. Perhaps the gossips will take sight of that! Boy, wont they have more juicy stories to conjure up then. I would carry on as usual and not worry about what other people are thinking nor saying. Don't worry about what other people think. There is nothing wrong with talking to another colleague, man or woman. So what if you take the same company bus. It is so rude of the other co workers to even think twice, long enough to make these silly conclusions. Furthermore, so what if they were even remotely close to truth? What's it to them anyway? Like I said some people have too much time on their hands. Perhaps their own life is so boring they need to dream up drama for antoher's. I would continue on and not make any changes just because of a few boring people using your choice of friends, people at work to talk to and modes of transportaion, regardless of who else takes the same bus, as a topic of discussion. These people clearly need to get lives of their own. The best way to avoid these people is to ignore them entirely. Pretend that you don't even notice their antics and stories, should you have to converse with them while at work. Lastly, since the assumptions are untrue, you could file a complaint. Is this not becoming a human rights issue? I mean we should be able to go to work, talk with who we want and take the company bus, sitting where ever you please without drama created by co-workers. Just carry on and don't pay a second thought to those who have nothing better to do but dream up stories to fulfill their otherwise uneventful life. If their lives were full and complete they would not be even thinking twice about who you are talking to at work and who you may speak to on the bus. They would be consumed with their own thoughts about their own friends, family and themselves.

Jump up in the middle of the bus and say nothing going on but tALKING AND YOU CAN ALL SEE THIS SO STOP WITH THE GOSSIP. That will shock thier socks off

The more you avoid him the more tongues will wag. I suggest not to mind the gossip. As they say, the truth shall always prevail. If there is nothing really between the two of you then there is nothing to worry about. You could even discuss it to him openly so that both of you would find ways to curtail the gossip. He has been a good friend and I think it would be an immature way of dealing with the gossip to just avoid him. My solution is to confront the gossips head on together. Don't let those gossip affect a good friendship.

[i]Hi Denise, Ohh, that is very terrible, I know this is very common everywhere...People always try to speculate and put any malice to any friendship especially even if the other party is married or committed! If I were in your situation, I will not try to avoid my friend....I will continue to be his friend and I don't care for whatever they say since I know deep inside that I have done nothing wrong! Let them get tried talking about you and putting a lot of malice to your friendship![/i]

Gossips are never ending.. It takes both hands to clap, and it's of no use if u are the only one whom wanna clarify the whole thing.. Avoiding is not a solution either.. MAybe it's due to there are others who are jealous of u, or maybe u have certain priviledges while they dun have, just that u dun know about it.. So maybe what u can do, share whatever u have with them.. MAke it open, engaged all your colleagues to those small talk between u and him ^_^ That should help abit, and soon they will know the truth too ^_^

weel it is unfortunate but sometimes when we commit a mistake, people tend to judge us by our past actions or mistakes. That's why the gossip may have started about you and this colleague because of what happened in the past and they thought you would still be open to such a relationship. Don't mind them. As long as your conscience is clear why should you avoid someone who happens to speak the same language as you do?

Don't mind them all. They are just envy at you. You don't have to change for them. Continue with what you are doing...

People love to gossip. You have two options. One: Ignore the gossip, and carry on as usual. If you are doing nothing wrong, don't worry about it. Tell your boyfriend people at your work think you are dating this other guy just because you "ride on the bus with him and isn't that stupid?" I'm suggesting this in case your boyfriend ever hears the rumours, to give them a head's up. You don't want the boyfriend to be jealous over an innoncent friendship. Remember to impress upon your boyfriend you have no interest in your work friend other than friendship. Two: Nip it in the bud. Tell your other work friends you have been hearin rumours and that they are simply untrue. Tell them you feel the rumours are hurtful to both your reputation and the reputation of your male collegue. Tell them the rumours unfair and disrespectful to your boyfriend and your friend's wife. Remind them rumour-mongering is a form of workplace harassment, and if it doesn't stop, you will be forced to go to human resources with a complaint. As a further suggestion, go on a double-date with your collegue and his wife or invite them over or out to dinner. "Yes, I'm friends with (enter name). My boyfriend and I often go out to dinner with him and his wife." is a wonderful response to gossip.

I think it is better that you do your action because you don't know that would create more conflict results afterward even if you don't have a relation with your boss. I think your boss is not also deaf about that issue. You should talk together, tell him that you are not comfortable with the issues about the two of you. You can keep a little distance, I think that would be better, but make sure that it will not affect your work performance.

hey miss, that only means that you should not spend too much time with him, just but should only last for a moment and you should start making friends I mean girl friends...so that the gossip will die a natural cause.

Why don't you discuss the situation with him and both of you decide how to handle it. That should take care of the situation with no hard feelings for either of you.

You need to do anything, that is my opinion, as long you now within yourself that you are not doing anything wrong and your conscience is clear that the hell with other people thinks. Just be careful on the way you act, because it could be the reason why people are making a story about the two of you, be conscious about the way you talk to him and even your body language. For you it could mean nothing but to others they might see something wrong about it. If you really worries about this then better to stay away for now with this guy. Take time to realize why they are making up stories. You never know maybe this guy is making up stories to other colleagues. Stay happy =).

It is always very suspicious when one likable man and one cute woman have close relationships. It does not matter if it is at school, from the neighborhood or at work. It starts as an innocent friendship, then grows into a flirt and finally end as a new marriage. So he will have to divorce from his wife and You will have a new boyfriend. Be careful with this one. You should not walk around and tell everybody that both of You have already found Your mates: then people will disrespect You, because both of You would be cheating Your real mates then. It is better to keep distance when it come up to the relationship between a man and a woman. Your work colleague will understand this.

I think in office just do what you need. If you want to stop the gossip between you and the colleague,you will scant the talk with the colleague.If necessary you can let another people beside you two.They gossip because they don't know what you are talk about if you let one or two know what you are talking about the gossip will disappear