Would you work for a friend?
By joerhonda
@joerhonda (476)
United States
December 15, 2008 7:21am CST
Yesterday I was offered a job managing a Dunkin Donuts store for my best friend. I accepted the job and should start in a week or so. I'm so excited to be getting back to work! I have never managed a store before and I'm a little nervous about it. I know I can do it, but I still have the thoughts of what if I mess up. This is a store that has not been doing to well because of customer relations. I know she has faith in me or she wouldn't have offered the job. I just don't want to let her down or have it effect our friendship in any way. My question to you is...Would you go to work for a friend? Do you think it's a good idea or a bad idea?
Rhonda
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29 responses
@wheel416 (1019)
• Canada
15 Dec 08
Hi there, congratulations on your new management position! I think there is absolutely no good reason for you not to have accepted this job! While mixing business and friendship can be challenging, I do believe it is possible.
If I were in your situation, I would sit down with my friend prior to beginning that new job, to talk about your friendship vs. your professional relationship. I would choose to be proactive and to discuss any potential problems that could occur and set "ground rules" in how each of you will deal with any situations that come up. For me, it would be critically important to have a clear distinction between personal, friendship time and our business relationship.
I think, with proper planning now and a commitment to open communication and clear boundaries, you and your friend can have an excellent business relationship as well as a very rewarding personal friendship.
Good luck to you and be sure to come back to tell us how it goes.
@joerhonda (476)
• United States
15 Dec 08
LOL...ya we thought it was best to weigh the pros and cons.
Rhonda
@joerhonda (476)
• United States
15 Dec 08
I love your replies!!! We actually did this yesterday before I accepted the job. Our husbands were there also and participated in the conversation as they aren't afraid to point things out to either one of us! LOL! We all walked away from the conversation feeling very confident. We were going to go into business with each other opening a horse facility but we have yet been able to find a place to do it around here. I felt confident about that as I know horses and that's what I've done all my life. I guess this venture is a little scarier as I'm delving into new territory...lol I'm looking forward to starting a new career and who better to do it with than my best friend! I'll be sure to keep you posted!
Rhonda
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@thecrazyjogger (3178)
• India
15 Dec 08
yeah I would
but i would also ask him to keep it fair
and treaat everyone the fair way!
happy lotting and have a nice day!!
@joerhonda (476)
• United States
15 Dec 08
We are both fair and understanding people so I think all will be well. Thanks for your comment.
Rhonda
@singdevil (12)
• China
16 Dec 08
I think it don't matter who you work for.And I think working for a friend sometimes is a good thing,because you can tell him(her) something that could be changed to be better. but you must work hard as you work in a commpany.
@joerhonda (476)
• United States
16 Dec 08
Good point! We are hoping to change a few things together for the better! Thanks again!
Rhonda
@harwennah_18 (37)
• Philippines
16 Dec 08
Yes, definitely. We have to separate business from our personal life. It doesn't mean that we're working for a friend our friendship will be affected. Don't think negatively. If she's a real friend, then I don't think that little problem in your work would affect your relationship with each other.
@joerhonda (476)
• United States
16 Dec 08
I think you're right. I also think her and I have good heads on our shoulders. I'm looking forward to this adventure!
Rhonda
@Snoppy128 (8)
• United States
16 Dec 08
I say that it would be a great idea plus you could also work with a friend which is an even better. You should also always think positive not negative and you wont mess up but dont say it too much or it might jinx ya :D
• China
16 Dec 08
I think it is a bad idea,i just want to work for my family and my life,not my friend.I have to work just for earn more and more money,because the money can improve the life of my family.anyways,the family is more important for me.What do you think?
@joerhonda (476)
• United States
16 Dec 08
After God, family is the most important thing in my life! That's one reason I took the job. To me, money is the root of all evil! We have to have money to function "in" this world, but that doesn't mean I have to live "of" this world!
Rhonda
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
16 Dec 08
I have never worked for a friend but I don't see anything wrong with it. You need a job, they have a job available and they know and trust you so I think it's a good match. If I were offered a job from a friend and I needed it badly I'd take it. There is nothing wrong with it in my opinion.
@joerhonda (476)
• United States
16 Dec 08
I think we will work good together! Thanks for your post!
Rhonda
@vanonas (949)
• United States
15 Dec 08
It might effect your friendship if you let your friend down. It's different for you guys now since you're working under your friend. I don't know if I'd want to work for my friend unless I desperately needed money or if it was some sort of partnership. I mean if you're a good worker then go for it. Have fun.
@joerhonda (476)
• United States
15 Dec 08
I've always been a very hard worker so I'm not concerned with that aspect of it. I think we will work very good together! Who knows...maybe someday we'll own some stores together! LOL!
Rhonda
@jambi462 (4576)
• United States
15 Dec 08
Yes I would work for a friend in a heartbeat but I don't really have any friends at the place I work at. No one really calls me to work and I don't really get scheduled so it kind of sucks. I like working and in Michigan the work is rather limited so I will basically take anything I can get. Plus friends do things for each other. I think it is a good idea to take over for your friend as a manager and you should probably make some pretty good money. Good luck.
@joerhonda (476)
• United States
16 Dec 08
I'm sorry to hear of your hardship. Keep your head up, things will get better! Things are tough all over the country and I have to say I have been truly blessed! Just remember "never give up", "nothing last forever"! My thoughts and prayers are with you!
Rhonda
@Polly289 (269)
• New Zealand
15 Dec 08
Probably not. But then that's me.
It's fantastic you've got a job so you go do the best you can and use all your talents to make it work. I, and I'm sure, many of us here have faith in you.
All the best
@joerhonda (476)
• United States
15 Dec 08
Thanks so much for your words of encouragement! The best to you too at whatever you set your hands to do!
Rhonda
@metaljunkiechuk (225)
• Belize
16 Dec 08
Well i think working for a friend is a good thing (not that i've done it) but i think i wouldn't have a problem wit it. Also if i am close to my friend then if i messed up i know he/she wouldn't put too much pressure on me. But yeah i see where the problem might arise. but i dont know personally i wouldnt find it a big problem to work for a friend.
happy mylotting mylottinas! =D
@joerhonda (476)
• United States
16 Dec 08
I think I will be tougher on myself than she will on me! LOL! Thanks for posting!
Rhonda
@lbenjamin21 (155)
• United States
16 Dec 08
i dont think its a bad thing if you and the friend can keep things in perspective
because many times a boss or a manager might not be as hard on a friend as they would to other employees (just and example)i would make it clear to my friend work is work and play is play, in hopes of that the person would be able to respect this
as a friend they should understand that all you want to do is give your best and it's hard to do this some times if your placed in a compromising position
congrats on the new job
best of wishes
@joerhonda (476)
• United States
16 Dec 08
Hopefully we have set the boundaries and everything will be just fine. Thanks for the input and the congrats!
Rhonda
@tepitenio (119)
• Israel
15 Dec 08
I usually would say NO, dont work with friends, this is not professional. But, this particular case seems different. I mean the business is bad, and she cannot blame you if it continues that way. You just have everything ahead, you could only go up. I wish you the best and good luck!
@joerhonda (476)
• United States
15 Dec 08
That's how I feel...It's not like a could make it any worse! She has been extremely successful with the other stores so I know she knows what works. She wouldn't ask if she didn't think I could do it. Thanks for the response!
Rhonda
@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
15 Dec 08
Just keep in mind that while at work she is your boss first. Don't take advantage of the friendship by expecting her to treat you differently than other employees. I have found that with a friend that I worked with. I was her boss and she seemed to think because we were friends first she should get special treatment. Just keep it professional at work and everything should go well. I'm not sure that I would work for a friend. It would depend on the circumstances. If the job paid well enough and I really thought we could work together I would probably give it a try. You are very lucky to have a friend that is putting so much faith into you. Don't let her down.
@joerhonda (476)
• United States
15 Dec 08
Great advise! Thank you! I have had friends work for me when I had my own company so I have been on both sides of the fence. I too had some that expected different treatment. I would never do that to someone as I know what it feels like.
Rhonda
@joerhonda (476)
• United States
15 Dec 08
I can see your point, but I think it depends on how you approach and handle it. Hopefully we won't end up in that "typically" category.
Rhonda
@celticeagle (167071)
• Boise, Idaho
15 Dec 08
Congratulations! What if you do mess up. You have never managed before, and your friend knows that. It is really very normal to have negative and 'what if' tye anxiety. I do the same thing. And, no matter how terrible you may feel things could go it is never as bad as you think it will be. The key here, and what you really need to remember, is that your friend has faith in you. You must be very good in customer relations. I bet you will do fine. Just don't hire anyone that doesn't have a nice smile and a kind word and you will do fine. Working for friends is not always a good thing. I would be very careful. Don't let it affect your friendship. Do your best and keep up a positive and managorial front at work and be a good friend behind the scenes. You'll do fine. The fact that you are worrying about speaks volumns. It is obvious you want to do a good job for your friend. That is half the batter right there. Good luck to you!
@joerhonda (476)
• United States
15 Dec 08
Thank you very much! Great advise! You're right, I do want to do a good job for her! If I didn't think I could do it or that we couldn't work together I would have turned it down. Our friendship is much to important to me to loose it for any reason. I'm sure I'll make some mistakes and I'm sure she knows that, but it won't because I'm not giving it 110%, it will just be due to inexperience. I'm a quick learner though so I won't make the same mistake twice! LOL!
Rhonda
@hotsummer (13837)
• Philippines
15 Dec 08
it actually dependds. but for me i think that it is really good thing that we can work for a friend cause we will going to make suer that we can do our job very well. and it makes me more relaxed at work knowing that my friend is the boss but does not mean i am going to be laxed at work and take advantage of our friendship.
@joerhonda (476)
• United States
15 Dec 08
I think you're right...it would depend on the two people involved. Every situation is different for every person. What may work out great for us may not for someone else. Thanks for posting!
Rhonda
@loxion (1553)
• India
15 Dec 08
I would if i were to get the share on the money for the days i worked for otherwise never, even if she/he is very sick, money talks this days, without you can't say anything.
Obviously in that situation that the company is not doing that well then i would give it my best shot and work hard as i can and obviously not to let my friend down and also to create something for myself maybe i can be taken as a full time worker also
@joerhonda (476)
• United States
15 Dec 08
Money is nice but I think there are more important things in life. Of course this is a very well paying job and I'm not complaining about that! LOL! My word is one of the most important things about me...I don't give it unless I mean it, so if you get it, you can count on it!
Rhonda
@machel2008 (616)
• China
15 Dec 08
yes,of couse can accepted this job work for you friend.you can help each other and improve your friendship with your friend.it can bring your so many convenience condition in work.but pls remember,do not cooperation with friend for business.most of friend cooperation in business divided finally.
@joerhonda (476)
• United States
15 Dec 08
Thanks for your response! Seems almost everyone is in favor of it so far!
Rhonda