Ensure my little girl can enjoy her interest.
By iwrite
@iwrite (5034)
Singapore
December 15, 2008 5:33pm CST
I was a little sad when I saw an article about some talented kids have to drop of out their interest in music because social pressure. One of the fathers mention that he would be a beggar if he pursue music as a career, therefore he should train to be a lawyer instead.
I have decided my little girl do not have to make such a difficult choice, I must ensure that I would have enough to help her pursue her interest.
3 responses
@GhostCat (313)
• United States
16 Dec 08
I'm not sure I quite understand. Did the children drop music music due to social pressure or because their father could not afford the cost of the lessons and thought the child ought to go to law school instead. Certainly, parents should do all they can to encourage and enable their children's interests and talents, and even make sacrifices for the needs of the children. I am please to see that you are making you that your little girl will not have such difficult choices and is being well taken care of. Happy Holidays (least we are having holidays soon in the USA)
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@iwrite (5034)
• Singapore
16 Dec 08
Well they could afford the lessons, but could not afford to make it his career like finance him through his life. Music and arts are not very the main stream jobs, and they do not earn a lot. I guess the father is looking at the future and wonder if his child would be able to become independent.
@GhostCat (313)
• United States
16 Dec 08
I can see that a parent might not want to commit themselves to supporting their children for life. But they should be willing to support the child through the equivalent of high school and college in his or her chosen field, if the family can at all support it. After the child to support his/her talent then it is up to the child to make a go of it of not, just as it would be if the child had studied anything else, such as law or medicine. I think that is the least that a parent owes the child. If the child can't make it as a musician (or whatever they have trained as), well, then it is up to the child as an adult to figure out what they are going to do. But the parents should be supportive of the child and at least give them a chane to try and follow their dream. We all know there is time enough to deal with reality as adults.
@arkadeb313 (593)
• India
16 Dec 08
I am also sad that a child has to leave her interest due to some external force. I am sad on two counts -
1. I am a lover of music and cannot think of life without it. So when someone has to stop pursuing music it makes me feel really sorry.
2. My daughter is also learning Indian Classical Music and she is not bad for her age. But I am in doubt whether she should pursue music as her career because all those pursue music may not become financially able to maintain them unless they reach the top. Only quality is also not the deciding factor in the field of music.
So pressing her to pursue her education along with her music.Do not know whether I am right or wrong.
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@iwrite (5034)
• Singapore
16 Dec 08
As you clearly point out arkadeb313,
It is the fear of every parent, would the child be able to take care of her own after we pass on. While it is romantic to know that your child is able to choose his/her own path, however the reality is that financially she might not be independent. Same here, to pursue the Arts and music here, only the very best gets something out of it. The rest really need something extra to keep them going and most of them get a part time job and after awhile just quite the Arts and Music. I just want my child to have her choice. even if it is hard, clearly it would be hers.
@sunny0806 (248)
• China
16 Dec 08
I admit you are wise.
I agree that we adult should not select interest for our children.
Sometimes our children are interested in different things while we only consider reality.
Let them feel easy and nature is the best.
@iwrite (5034)
• Singapore
16 Dec 08
Well sunny0806,
I am not wise, It is just I would like to take the child interest to heart. While I might be able to afford her fees, I might not afford her lifestyle. I would let them feel and if possible let them be what they want to be. I do hope in time to come I am truly able let her choose her own path. life might be hard but at least it is her choice.
