After three years of affair,she proposed me to marry but...

yup,her family'll not approve me ,thats y,she wana do this but im honestly practical for i know wat marriage is,how its serious.& yes,theres a chance for children i know,if this,we'll fall in a hazard situation.dear,tell me hav u any other ways to equivalent this decission? expecting response if u've. thnx...

my father doesn't approve of my BF too because I'm a nurse and he's just a plain graduate of computer science and students of such course don't always land in good jobs in my part of the country. For me, I don't mind at all that he's only reached that far because I love him. But inorder to please my father, I had to set my priorities and we have to wait until we've established ourselves. However in your case, you actually got married and you feel that you got yourself into a total mess. Yet, I'm sure you agreed to the complicated set-up all because you also LOVE her. And that's very understandable. However, I strongly suggest you not to have children yet. And this is something that you both had to sit down and talk about with your wife. She has to see it at your viewpoint that you are incapable of raising a family at your penniless situation right now. And besides, if things turn into worse, at least no child or children get involved in the chaotic process. So while at it, why don't you try to concentrate on your schooling. I've heard also of jobs where they sponsor education at the same time. It's like a job where you get to go to school first with a guarantee that you land into a job once you've done school. At least that way you can work and earn at the same time. And don't forget to keep a humble heart all throughout. If her family throws fire at you, it wouldn't help if you throw back the same fury. You'll never get into a harmonious relationship with them. Always believe in good karma where you reap what you sow. I don't know if i can offer any concrete suggestions as I don't know your exact situation and the circumstances surrounding you. Just remember that the decision was mutual and you and your wife must help each other out and not just you doing the hardwork solo. After all, it was her decision to marry at such an early stage.

Oh, I see that you are economically prepared for this but not really emotionally. And the demands of marriage, the responsibilities, seem too heavy for you. Add to that the reality that her family doesn't want you for their daughter. I am sorry to hear that and I understand your predicament. Let me just point out too that your gf has been brave enough (although quite very impulsive ) to decide on marrying you. It only shows that she is ready to fight for that love. But she may well understand that marriage has a lot of challenges. Anything done in haste may prove to do more harm than good and may tend to complicate more things. Marriage is a bond that you can not just easily get out of. Be bold about how you feel. Tell her honestly that you love her, and it is that same love that's going to bring her down the aisle, but for now, it is something you deem impossible. If she loves you, she MUST understand. She can go on fighting for that love even if you don't get married.

look she is going to definately cry...thats called the indian woman.....but you have to take your stand and tell her that it is ok if she cries now.... but you dont want her to cry after you get married to her .... cos the marriage is going to be a bad decision for the both of you which she wont understnad ow.... girls are like this only....they want marriage and kids and a family but they dont understand that its the guy who has to think of a good income to make a good home...the only option you have is to make her understand.... or just get into marriage and see whatever happens next...take things as they come.... what else can you do cos in the process of making her understand you may also lose her !!

ya,u can feel me much for u r my neighbour from india may b. buut she wants to hav a marriage with me& heres the conflict.u know,we r still students,im thinking about our career specially for its most important in the long run.wat im doing its only for her & obviously iv a plan how'll our days b proceeded. i told her my best that its not wise marrying but she cried a lot& finally we decided for an alternative way...still we r thinking.can u tell me wat would b the way....?im confused still now.

im not indian but neighbour to india so,we've much similarities.ya,got ur point but we r still searching a way,wat could b the alternative ways..except marrying.thnx for reply.

we sat today for an hour & she cried in front of me,i also was upset not telling her anything,actually im confused of everything.but at last,we decided that we'll try finding another way....plz tell me wat the way should b.. i cant take my decission now..

we today met & discussed a lot without finding any clue proceeding.we know its a big deal & will create more trouble but to her its a solution where its not wise to me & heres the difference. she cried a lot today & i assured her that im with her forever but we've to take our steps carrefully,now we became agree finding alternate solution,i dont know wats going with us but we r searching for a new platform,pray for us & giv advice if u've any.

Maybe she has a deep-rooted problem, you should allow her to talk to you more about them so that both could find a better solution.

ya,got ur point & now we r in discussion in this regard...pray for us. thnx for mylotting.

sometimes good news appear as a bad news.....i guess it now. well,i wana b married jut as u said but prob is with her u know...im now trying to avoid this decission by assuring that we'll b married soon but after grad.at least iv to b grad for a fixd income.dont u think im right?

she is ready but im not yet. im thinking practically,im able to provide her but i'll have nothing savings for future.obviously u r agree with me that its not wise. i do my part tome jobs in pront & electronic media,have online earnings but new. when i'll hav my fixed salary,im agree to b married but not now coz we both r now looking for our career to survive for tomorrow.its a hard task & rocky way.as a guy,i cant do such foolish decission.. but we r now thinking more & more...wat'll b happnd,God knows..

we know theres no turning back & that y,im thinking of everything for the future.she is mentally prepared u know but im thinking practically..its more important for looking on our career than marriage now.i told her in this regard & she didn't answr yet,i convinced her to find an alternate way & now its the ques wat would b it is...if u any advice,plz dont hesitate dropping that. thanx for supporting me.

sometimes parents cant help..dear. if anyone of her parents were agree,its possible but even they dont know! if they know this about our relationship,something negative may turn,may b they'll rush their daughter giving marriage.... prob is here my mate... i cant reach into a point right now....searching for alternates..

ya,i prefer ur opinion & discussed it today with her.can u tell me any alternative ways...?

yes bro,we r still thinking.....pray for us...