Have You Ever Had Friends Disappear From The Face Of The Planet??
By pyewacket
@pyewacket (43903)
United States
December 16, 2008 2:21am CST
I'm just wondering if anyone has experienced this in their lives and it's a rather creepy feeling.
Two of my close by friends (one in the neighborhood and one in the Long Island area of NY), seemed to have disappeared from the face of the earth and I'm wondering what the heck happened to them. The one friend that lived a few blocks from me is a complete mystery....we had been friends for over twenty years...we'd email, talk on the phone, I would drop by and visit. Then last year around her birthday I sent her a email birthday card....I began noticing that I didn't get an announcement that she had picked it up. I emailed her again....then to be honest I go overwhelmed with some work I was doing...both my crafts and writing assignments to get done before Christmas time rush last year.
I then continued to email her..nada...didn't hear. Then I began calling and now became alarmed as it would say phone no longer in service.....like huh? I became alarmed since last May (2007) her husband died. My friend Bobbie had been married something like 45 years. Naturally she was depressed and despondent over his death....I would visit her to "be there" for her....then she seemed to snap out of it....BUT it was kind of a false sense of happiness I sensed in her....if you get my meaning. She had at one time had a nervous breakdown and couldn't help wondering if she was going in that direction again. What really ticks me off is that if anything did happen to her why her putz grown son (and yes he is a putz) didn't notify her friends if something happened to her...so I have no way to reach her...I still email her on the chance I hear...the phone number is still out of service....so a real mystery here.
My other friend, Lisa....same thing...disappeared...I've been emailing her...her phone is also out of service....last I heard from her by email was in July...still email her weekly..nothing...like sheesh what's happening here???? I even sent her an early Christmas card and letter but nothing back from her.
So do you have friends that disappear entirely and you've tried every which way possible to contact, be in touch with them and just plain can't find them? Do you still persist in trying to find them?
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
16 Dec 08
Well okay maybe I can't connect with them via email...but did you read my entire discussion properly? I've been trying to call them and even wrote letters to them by snail mail and no resposne
@morningstar369 (495)
• United States
16 Dec 08
With Me it's not a friend but my oldest Son. I have been emailing him with no answer and he seems to have mobed because his phone is also disconnected. The girl he was with has also disappeared, but then they could have broken up and she went her seperate way. Noone seems to know or have heard from him. I having lost my home and phone of 29 years realized the other day that if he was in jail he wouldn't be able to call me. I don't thing I can reverse charges on my net 10 cell phone. So there is no way for him to get intouch with me. I asked my younger Son to give my cell phone number to him if he should call. I also gave it to my Grand Daughters so if them hear from him they will pass the cell # on to him. At Thanksgiving when I called them, they both said that they thought he was in jail again. So that could be it. I talked to him last year after I got my computer and he is a computer wis so he was telling me things to do and what to look out for and stuff. He could turn his knowledge into a business if he would get clean and stay clean. He has built computers out of scrap parts, so he knows his stuff. I hope you get some information about your 2 friends. If the one lived close to you couldn't you go over and check on her or to see if she still lived there?
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
17 Dec 08
Sorry to hear of all the problems with your son, and his not contacting you or not being able to ....hopefully by giving your cell phone number to your younger son and others, he'll contact you...
Somehow I get the feeling my one friend (that's close by) isn't living there anymore, and something may have happened to her...just not like her to disappear without some word to me since we've known each other for over 20 years.
@morningstar369 (495)
• United States
17 Dec 08
I hope that, that is not the case. Is there anyone that you could call in her family that might be able to fill you in? It is really hard to not know. I have an online friend that has not answered any comments for about 2 weks now. I am cancerned about this person as well. I keep leaving him messages, so he known he is not forotten, I am concerned though. Good luck to you and thank you for the kind words about my Older Son.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
16 Dec 08
yup I have a friend hadnt heard from since 1997 here awhile back I hunted for a phone no been doing it along time since I got the net will I found her zip code only thing I didnt hve for it changed I wrote a letter and she got back with me by phone and she woprks all overthe place but her cell phone works! yeah
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
17 Dec 08
Wow--that was great you managed to find your friend again after so long...now if I only heard from my two friends
@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
16 Dec 08
yea,i've had people disappear without notice..it's sad,but..
things often happen where they can't get in touch for whatever reason..
although i've had a few that popped back just as suddenly as they left after 10 years.usually has to do with family somehow.
i usually don't go looking,i figure they know where i am,they can find me if they want to talk.
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@KrazyKlingon (5005)
• United States
16 Dec 08
And so it WWAAAASSSSS that day
When people got embarrased
And their faces turned just surprised
Turned a redder shade of scarlet 
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
17 Dec 08
I sure hope I don't have to wait ten years to hear from my friends again....LOL
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@irishmist (3814)
• United States
19 Dec 08
Geee thats ia shame how she just dissapeared like that. Maybe she will pop back up again sometime. I can't really recall something like this happening to me.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
19 Dec 08
My one friend is no longer MIA....LOL. She dropped by unexpectedly on Tuesday...but still wondering about the other friend
@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
16 Dec 08
It's awful you haven't been able to contact your two friends, Pye - I hope they do turn up, and that Bobbie's son eventually gets around to contacting people if there's something wrong. A very similar thing happened to me a couple of years ago, where I made a friend on another site. I'd never met her, but a few of us became good online friends, and exchanged news, photos, etc. One day this friend wrote to a couple of us saying she'd just split up with her fiance and he'd been violent with her after she found he'd been cheating - she was going to have a week at her sister's and would then get in touch with us and let us know her plans. Well, we never heard again. Like you, we sent ecards that Christmas, but they were never picked up. We sent emails every few weeks, hoping she'd eventually answer - but she never has. We are still very worried something happened to her, but I guess we'll never know. I also lost touch with my best friend from primary and high school when I moved away at 15 - we wrote for a few years, then one Christmas I didn't get the usual card and didn't hear from her for another 25 years. Imagine my surprise when I found her on Facebook - still under her maiden name! So don't lose hope ... Bobbie and Lisa know where you are, and they might contact you soon. I hope so!
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
17 Dec 08
sorry to hear about your one friend who was having problems with her violent finaceé..that would get me worried too, not to hear from her. You know you've given me an idea....just might try my luck hunting over at Facebook or even MySpace. I managed to find a friend there at Facebook that disappeared and hadn't heard from in eleven years..so you can imagine my surprise when I found him there! We've been in touch on and off since
@keithstieneke (823)
• Lincoln, Nebraska
17 Dec 08
Yes, I have people that have disappeared from my life. Some of have been long distance friends who talked by phone. One lived in New York City in the Younkers district and contacted me for several years after college. I knew him in college from 1977 to 1979. I last heard from him in late 2000. Hopefully nothing happened to him in the disaster of September 11, 2001.
There were other friends that I had from college that seemingly have disappeared. With the females I think for the most part it is the name change if they got married.
The saddest disappearance happened mid September when a young man I knew who had only been 21 for a few months disappeared in a park outside of Lincoln NE (where I live) and they found his body in October a month later. It was ruled accidental drowning. Evidently he was drunk and fell into the creek. Why the authorities couldn't locate him sooner was beyond me. It was someone walking their dog that actually found him.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
17 Dec 08
Yes it's so much harder trying to locate female friends from my school/college days due to the last name change if they got married. How horrible about that guy you knew that drowned. Why when he was reported missing as I'm assuming he probably was that the cops do a search for him sooner???
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
16 Dec 08
I've never had a friend disappear from my
real life, but my online friends frequently
disappear.
I've been known to do disappearing acts
from the online world when my computer
is on the blink.
But, not in real life.
It's really scary to hear about your
close neighbor disappearing.
It's not unusual to have people disappear.
It happens everyday.
You might be able to hire a private investigator
to locate her and see if she is still alive and alright.
Or, try to find out if she has left a forwarding address
with the post office. Sometimes, you can request
that they tell you what the new address is, if you send
a letter to the old address and noone lives there.
Sounds like you are really worried.
Best of luck finding your lost friends.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
17 Dec 08
I might resort to sending a letter to her...if she's suddenly moved they might forward it to her...hopefully. Nope, no way could hire a PI...that would take a lot of money. Yes, my on-line friends have a happen of disappearing as well.
@katemeow (847)
• Singapore
17 Dec 08
hello pye! This is indeed very creepy and alarming... especially knowing that your friend has gone though terrible events in the past year and then suddenly disappear! I really hope that both of your friends are okay and that nothing alarming has happened to them. In my case, sometimes my friends (and sometimes me!) disappear for a while especially when they are undergoing stress and depression... during these times i think they are trying to figure out things and trying to realize what has happened. But they do resurface after a few weeks or months. I hope your friends contact you again soon :)
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
17 Dec 08
I have a tendency to "disappear" myself...LOL...but I still make a point of contacting my friends at least by email if I don't feel like talking on the phone...which I usually don't as I'm not much of a phone person to begin with....LOL
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
16 Dec 08
if you think thats something how would you feel if its your own son my youngest is very hard to keep up with. its hasnt been easy either since we have both moved 3 times in 3 yrs. but im always the one searching for him unless he needs something.when i lived in florida and he here in AZ, i had to call around his friends and finally got an address. wrote him with my phone number just so id know if he was still kicking. he finally called. i moved here and have to depend on the older son and his gf for transportation. i called over to youngest only to find out his car is not running. he didnt call back for weeks(still hasnt)and his gf is expecting any time. i finally got my son heres gf to take us over there today because yesterday we found out the phone had been turned off
they werent home but i left a note. 
he still hasnt called
my youngest is very hard to keep up with. its hasnt been easy either since we have both moved 3 times in 3 yrs. but im always the one searching for him unless he needs something.when i lived in florida and he here in AZ, i had to call around his friends and finally got an address. wrote him with my phone number just so id know if he was still kicking. he finally called. i moved here and have to depend on the older son and his gf for transportation. i called over to youngest only to find out his car is not running. he didnt call back for weeks(still hasnt)and his gf is expecting any time. i finally got my son heres gf to take us over there today because yesterday we found out the phone had been turned off they werent home but i left a note. he still hasnt called1 person likes this
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
17 Dec 08
Wow you're the second one to mention about a "missing" son. Hope you hear from your son soon though..and shame you went to his place only to find out he wasn't home
@tamarafireheart (15384)
•
16 Dec 08
Hi pye,
I was friends with two sisters in school and we all grow up together and they both got married, I got married we all met up quite frequently and I was ther for their children births and saw them grew up then one day I sent them both a christmas cards like you do but nothing, tried ringing no answer, once I got a christmas card from one of the sisters then after that nothing, my thinking is for some reason they don't want to know me or outgrown our friendship which to its sad, though I am still friends with one of my other friend that I have know since childhood and it has been over 40 years, she is littleowl and I think you have her on your friends list.
Bright Blessings.
Tamara
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
17 Dec 08
Yup sure do have littleowl on my friends list and remember that nice get together you and she had with p1kef1sh some months ago. wow you've known each other for 40 years..fantastic!!!
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
17 Dec 08
Hey pye! I'm sorry about your disappearing friends. I guess
that you have done all you can do except to keep trying!
Maybe sooner or later they will answer one of your emails.
You can only hope that they will! I seem to have the opposite
problem! I have an ex-best friend who I don't want to hear
from and thought she had gotten it though her head, but then
she called me about two weeks ago. I didn't answer the phone,
or return the call! When I ended the friendship I meant it!
We were friends for 45 years and there was a reason for what
I did! I do have a friend who seems to disappear from time
to time, but I know she's around. She doesn't live that far
from me just chooses when she feels like getting in touch. I
just don't bother anymore, because she's weird! I keep in
touch with the people I want to. If it was a case like you are
describing I would be upset to! If it was someone that I cared
about that went missing with no explanation I would be upset
too. I wish I had an answer to give you because I know how
frustrating and upsetting that can be. Just don't give up!
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
17 Dec 08
Ah-hah! see you have your Christmas avatar
Oh, I've had some friends in the past too that I wished would disappear...
Well nope, won't give up...I'll keep emailing my two MIA friends..one never knows. Sometimes I've had friends ...my on-line friends who disappear for long stretches then lo and behold turn up again.
Oh, I've had some friends in the past too that I wished would disappear...
Well nope, won't give up...I'll keep emailing my two MIA friends..one never knows. Sometimes I've had friends ...my on-line friends who disappear for long stretches then lo and behold turn up again.
@savak03 (6684)
• United States
17 Dec 08
I can't say that I have ever had a friend disappear like that but one time I did have a tenant disappear. He had lived in his apartment for many years by himself. He was an old man living on social security but he was not infirm. He always paid his rent right on time and we would see him going to the store or visiting with some of the other tenants. One month he did not come in to pay his rent but I wasn't to worried. I just figured he had gone out of town for a few days and would be back. after a couple of weeks, when he didn't come back I began to ask around. I was especially worried when he didn't come in to claim his mail because his social security check was there. We finally went into his apartment to see if his things were there and they were. He had taken nothing with him. It was like he just walked off the face of the earth. We never did find out what happened to him.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
17 Dec 08
Wow that really is weird...you don't think he got sick or something and had to call 911 and was placed in a hospital...or maybe even nursing home??? Or gasps..maybe passed away?? How odd!
@AlucardChristian (152)
• Philippines
17 Dec 08
Man, that is one weird thing to happen. Yeah, I have friends like that too who just disappeared from the face of the Earth.
Some say they went to another country, some say they just don't want to be found.
Well, whatever the reason, it's their life, but still, we worry ya know?
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
17 Dec 08
Yes, but it's odd when you know a person for over twenty years and suddenly they vanish without a trace...and not to contact me to say they were moving or anything.
@sanjana_aslam (4187)
• Malaysia
16 Dec 08
hi pyew
i am sorry for your friends ... but i have some friends and relative that i want them to disappear from my life ... let them be alive somewhere but not near me ...
cheers
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
17 Dec 08
LOL--I know that feeling..there are some people you really would like to disappear..LOL
@dralon (88)
• Zimbabwe
16 Dec 08
I remember my high school best friend disappered on me. We did not have cellphones and e-mail back then in my country. After visiting her parents' home several times and leaving messages i got nothing. I then ran into a mutual friend 5-6 years later who gave me my best friend's new address. she was now married, i was told. It took me several months to eventually visit that address and when i got there i was told she had passed away a few months ago - just after i had got her address. It has always been a painful memory for me. I wish i had been more prompt and would have the chance to say goodbye to her. My advice is dont give up on tracking them when you still can, a time will come when it will be too late.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
17 Dec 08
Oh how sad that happened to you. Yes, I definitely hope to keep tracking my friends that have disappeared to find out what happened to them.
Something similar happened to me but with my father's side of the family. My parents were divorced when I was real young...the families stayed connected until I was ten and it was like they disappeared...never heard from them again. Then many, many years later was doing a family tree search and had written to a major library in California (where my father's family last was)....the researcher had found the address of my grandparents...so wrote to them...my aunt wrote back..only to tell me my father had passed away several years prior
@hibiscus_mel (719)
• United States
16 Dec 08
I hope your friends are doing okay wherever they are even if they seem to disappear from the face of the planet. Scary thing if someone took them away or what, whatever reason other people abduct other people. Haha, maybe it's just the paranoid side of me talking. There are some people who want to move on with their life with no strings such as friendship or anything attached that way they can really move on peacefully. If they really were your friends why did they just disappear out of nowhere. Whatever reasons they may have I do hope one day you will understand. I just wonder who has the right to report them as missing persons?
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
17 Dec 08
Well my one friend is a real mystery....the one I've known for over twenty years...can't help wondering something really did happen to her as it wouldn't be like her to vanish without letting me know what happened...as far as the other friend, Lisa...she does have a habit of disappearing now and then...but odd that she hasn't emailed me back at least
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
12 Mar 13
Yeah I had this one guy friend that me him and another friend of mine we all grew up together and we were like the best of friends. Always talked on the phone with each other stop by and visit each other and just hang out. After highschool, I only saw from him for a couple of more months and then after that nothing. Its like he disappeared. Then we all went our separate ways. I moved to another city and my other friend she stayed were we were from and has two kids of her own. We still keep in touch every now and then but not so much any more because she is always busy. But still nothing ever from the other guy. We'd call we'd send emails and even sent cards through the mail and then those cards just got sent back. I eventually just gave up and so did she. And we just moved on with our lives. A little bit later my friend said she saw him on facebook and basically he's been in school and is trying to start a singing career. That is all we know about him and nothing more. We basically just gave up on trying to get in touch with him. We figured despite all of our attempts and him just ignoring us, he wants nothing more to do with us.
But I hope it doesn't get like that with your friends. I hope eventually that they will get in touch again. Being that this was 5 years ago, I wonder if they have gotten in contact with you.
@Whatevee (1)
• United States
5 Dec 12
I had a friend, my best friend, who disappeared twice. Once in 04, and again in 05. He joined some kind of door to door solicitation business, we suspected it was some kind of pyramid scheme. Anyway, before the first time he disappeared he began using odd jargon and nonsensical words that he said were "the company's lingo". He would go on "day trips" where we couldnt reach him, and began avoiding any conversation that wasnt related to "The Company". Then- one day, we couldn't get ahold of him. His parents couldn't get ahold of him. It was as if he was gone for almost a year. I missed him so much. But, randomly,'one day he came back! He was there for a whole 2 weeks. We had so much fun together, it was like the old days before the strange "Company". The day before he disappeared, we spent the whole day together. The next day, he was gone again. No one has heard of him since. No information on people search, or anywhere on the Internet. It's like he never existed. It haunts me to this day.
