I'm not a mom but I sure would ask an opinion of one about this

My kids are not that old yet, but i have a step son that is 5.. He seems to udnerstand english very well.. lol. If we want him to stop doing something we tell him to stop and explain why.. and if he doesn't listen again he goes to a time out.. they say a minute per year is a good time for them to be on time out.. example 5 years old 5 min time out.

Acts of violence are not normal and should be unacceptable behavior at any age. First let me say this, I am a greatgrandmother so I have some experience with children of all ages newborn to 39+, lol:). Time out is good but does not work for every child, if you try this you might want to also use a time clock and tell the child that they must stand or sit until the timer goes off. I think it is good to remove the child from the situation but not from your presence. You cannot change the mothers, they must want to change in order to parent their children differently. Must you see the boys together? If not you might try the following See them separately. Explain to them that this is because they do not treat each other well, their behavior is unacceptable, give examples. Tell them that when they can behave appropiately toward each other you will see them together maybe do something special. This will be a trial and error experience for all three of you. Reassure them of your love for them, but love includes correction and certain behaviors are not acceptable in your presence, home etc. I commend you for caring this much.

Main important aspect of this quarrel is the mothers are not strong. They fight among themselves. Mothers need to talk to their sons. Mothers need to be protective of their sons but not to the extent that moms fight. If the moms wants to stay together then they have to draw lines what the boys can and cannot do. Moms need to talk to their children.

its what you called up bringing...dont get me wrong on this...maybe they should be separated for the meantime...and guide them,teach them while they are away to each other...

Children's fight is normal, but getting physical is not, mother should do something about. Talking to their child is best way to make them understand how bad it is and Mother should not get into children's fight its a childish thing. Mother is here to discipline not to tolerate their children. Maybe keeping them away for quite sometime would give them reason to miss each other and realize how important to have each other as playmate. And maybe it would lessen their quarrel.

Hi Theresaaiza, children argue, but it's not healthy for them to get physical, this should be stopped, and try to get them to talk to sort out the problem. The mothers should not fall out over their children, as pretty soon afterwards the children will be friends and playing with each other. I try to do this with my grandchildren. Good luck. greywolf1

Sounds like both the parents and the kids need a time out or a spanking. Biting and hitting is not tollerated in my house. I've got nieces and nephews as does my DH. We only have problems with one of my DH's nephews. He likes to be a bit rough, but he's an only child and he's a spoiled brat. I can't stand him most of the time. When our DD, Allison, was born, he was very rough with Allison and I had to get on to him more than once about it. Of course, when my DH's brother's wife comes to pick up her demon spawn, he said I got on to him. When she confronted me, I showed her the red mark on my infant daughter's leg where he hit her too hard. Of course I got on to him! There really isn't a way to stop them from fighting unless you punish them yourself. Sounds like both mothers don't really care that much about discipline so they let them get away with anything. It's up to you to step up to the plate and do something before one of them is injured severely.

hi.i think you need to discuss the situation with their mothers first.try asking them if they're ok with the idea of you imposing some discipline on the two kids.you need their approval so as not to start a fight between you and your sisters...Since both boys want your affection,make sure that you show them that they are equally loved.talking to them in a very gentle way and explaining that fighting is not good could help even if they're just toddlers..someone needs to keep an eye on them so that you could give them time off from each other when they start getting physical..just my opinion, hope it helps.