Children Before Marriage

children - it is ok to have children before marriage
New Zealand
December 16, 2008 3:26am CST
Do you think that it is ok to have children before you get married? I understand the people who dont want to get married at all. I do understand that for some people marriage is not a option and some people are just happy with being partners. But when you get children involved do you think that its ok bring them to a world where their parents are not married? Is it true that children get damaged when their parents are not married or worse when they are not togerther? Is that allowed in you family, culture, country? Would people or the socity frown at you and you child?
2 responses
@chandu245 (647)
• India
16 Dec 08
It's really bad thing that before marriage child is not good. It's really shaming in our country. But it's all depends up on the pairs that going to handle. If they want they can but it's 90% opposition from society. But daily so many things were happening.
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@Galena (9110)
17 Dec 08
my parents were unmarried, and it's never caused me the slightest concern. they later separated, and I'm actually glad they did, as my dad was not a nice man, and I feel that it would have harmed me much more if I'd spent all my childhood in that environment than it possibly could have done from being raised by a hardworking, loving, single mother. I see plenty of unmarried couples that have stayed together, loved each other and raised wonderful, respectful and well behaved children. I don't think that the marriage of the parents makes any difference. marriage is an issue for the parents, not for the children. either they want to marry or they don't, and no one else need have any say in it. both married parents and unmarried parents can be good parents or bad. the sort of parent they are holds more importance than whether they have entered into a legal contract together. and as an "illegitimate" (stupid word for it, as it suggests that it's somehow not allowed) child, I can honestly say that that issue has never been important in my life. I am here. I am loved. that's what matters.