I recently knew that its hard for me to get pregnant, how should I tell my bf?

It is touching that you talked to your boyfriend and he said he would be concerned about you being alright if you got pregnant. It sounds like he adores you and will stand by you. I know that many treatments are possible these days. A lady tried to get pregnant for 8 years and then had twin boys. Difficult does not mean impossible so good luck and take care.

I would suggest that you be very frank with him and tell him the truth or the possibility that you wouldn't be ble to bear children. you are right that he should know about it sine it is a very important matter that must be fully discussed and understood by both of you. in the end, it could affect your relationship even if you got married because he might find it hard to accept that he wont have children and he might feel betrayed and this could result in the destruction of your relationship. so its better to bring it out in the open now. You would then know if he loves you for who you are and not just because he wants to have children. Better to find out now than later when its too late.

I know it will be hard but you should tell your boyfriend.The doctor said it will be hard but he/she didn't say it would be impossible. If your boyfriend is the one for you, he should know.And there is adoption.Take Care.

[i]Hello kaliyha, Don't worry too much yet about geting pregnant. In due time you can tell your boyfriend when you are ready to settle down. I think he can accept it, rather than a case for really no chance of having kid of your own. You too can work it later how to get pregnant. I think there are several methods you can try that will enhance you too having children. Regards.[/i]

Yes do tell him. But then it was hard for me as well, I had 7 miscarges and then I got my son. And that was 18 years ago so they have come a long way to be able to help with all that. You still have time. If he loves you then he will understand and be there for you as well. Have a good day. Think happy thoughts as well. Onlydia

Hey...I am so sorry! But then don't worry....U still have a chance to get pregnant. The doc says it is difficult not impossible right? Tell your boyfriend. If he really loves you he will be more bothered about you and how you will react to the situation than being upset about the news. All the best.

My suggestion would be that you just come right out and tell him, if the subject of having children does come up. It might not matter if he finds he loves you and wants a permanent relationship with YOU. There is always adoption, too. So don't worry about it until the time comes, but if the subject does come up, just be honest with him.

You are right. He does have the right to know. I also think that you should tell him. Doctor tells you that it would be hard but he never says it's impossible. So stay positive. This will be a test of your boyfriend's love for you. If he can accept you for everything that you are, he is the one for you. I pray all the best for you.

Gosh, am soo sorry for that dear friend. Thats a very hard situation for you but with the support from your boyfriend you can push through it. Please let him know what is going on and am sure if he truly loves you is going to stand by you. You say the doctor said it would be hard for you to get pregnany! have you seek the second and third opinion? Its only God who has powers to give babys to parents and for sure miracles do happen and one day you will be surprised missed a period and one thing leading to the other. Also there are proceedures you can go through like IN VITRO and you carry a baby of your own in your own womb if the ovaries aare affected. So please dont give up this early.

wow, this looks like a really good message. If he likes kids, I don't think there will be a problem between you, but in the other hand, loving kids, and being a father are different things really. I just wish a very happy life for you,your boyfriend and your baby as a peaceful and happy family!:)

It depends on how serious the relationship is. If you plan to have a future with this guy you need to first learn as much as you can on your own about your specific problem and what treatment options are available. Then just talk openly a and honestly with him. There are specialists and, I would think, ways to stimulate your ovaries if you were trying to have a baby. It's not a hopeless situation IMO.

I just responded to another discussion congratulating a lady who just found out she is pregnant. I told her my story; I had to wait five and a half years for my daughter. We went through gruelling fertility treatments including IVF and surgeries and you know what? A month after I stopped all treatment I fell pregnant and it all happened naturally. The reason I told you my little tale is not to depress you but to remind you to stay positive because miracles like my pregnancy happen all the time and just because the doctor said it may be difficult for you to have a baby, it is not impossible and you may just do it without going through all the stuff I had to endure. So thinks positive and talk to your boyfriend, he has a right to know.

You must be honest to your boyfriend, true love is build in trust and respect. If the feeling of your boyfriend towards you is genuine he will surely understand you. After all having children is not the real reason why people get married, infact Priests in the Catholic church now refused to conduct a marriage rites to the marrying couple whose only reason to get married is because the girl got pregnant. Children are blessings from God, but if you cannot bear children it doesn't mean that your union is not blessed, children can be the source of happiness of parents but it doesn't mean that you cannot be happy without children. Life is a gift itself, your life is more important than having the capacity to begets children. Maybe God has another purpose why it is given to you, it maybe difficult to understand but as you travel in this world with yourself, along the way, you will get the message from God. You better tell your boyfriend earlier so that you can gauge his reaction and you can measure if his love to you is unconditional. Goodluck and be blessed!

You'll be fine telling him. Just bring it up in one of those "Do you want kids someday?" conversations. You can lead into it. Try not to be down about it, but keep it real and have a serious conversation. If you want to move forward together, this is something you will need to know. Even if you can't get pregnant, you could always adopt. I realize it may not be the same, but there are many children who are in need of loving, emotionally stable homes. So, it's not like you could never give him children. You could both create a very loving family together.

Just because it is hard to get pregnat doesn't mean you won't. I know because I was told I would never have kids. I have three of them. I truely thought my first child would be my last. But seven years later I had two more. Personally I would not tell him anything. As there are treatements and way sto still have a child of your own. Or you could adopt.

Yes I would be honest with your boyfriend and future husband. If he loves you he won't see this issue as a problem. I would tell him the truth. If he really loves you he sticks with you. If a pregnancy result impossible, adoption can be an alternative. I would tell him that you have something that is worry ing on your mind. Go to some quiet place and talk it out.

Hi! kaliyha you must talk to your boyfriend that you went to a doctor and told him what is the finding of the doctor. you must tell him before anything else he has the right to know and its good for you tell him the truth and then and there you can see how she loves you! COz if ever you get married and that the time you tell him. you are in a big trouble my dear! Or you bring him to the doctor so the doctor well him what is the problem of yours!.

Yup you're right about that. I guess you'll have to tell him sooner or later because he's bound to find out one way or another in the future. It might come to be a shock to him if you tell him straight up. Only you can find the means how to let it out in a way that he won't take it too bad. Since you know him more than anyone here does. Find out how he reacts to things, if he's witty he will catch on. Give him examples of situations and see how he reacts to it. If you know another person that has hormonal problems make that an example. Or if you're up to it, make up a story like, my aunt's best friend went to her for consolation. Her boyfriend left her because she couldn't have a baby by normal means or something like that. You don't have to lie if you don't want to you know. Stuff like this is common nowadays, and you can see it on tv so be creative. Giving a real live example like stuff you see in movies is a good one. You see if he truly loves you he would have an open mind about things, the outcome would never always be the same for every boyfriend or hubby anyway, but it sure gets the truth out. The sooner you can tell him the better. The truth sometimes hurt. But if you're gonna get hurt someday with his decisions whatever it may be, then it has to be sooner. You and your boyfriend seem to be old enough to talk about it maturely. Don't prolong the agony. Be prepared for the outcome. It will come out in the open anyway one day. This is my opinion. Before I replied to this I imagined myself in your boyfriend's shoes. I personally donot want to be left out about stuff. I have to know the whole score and even if it hurts me. The sooner it's done the better. I know this for a fact because, things were kept from me as a child and I hated being lied to. I also hate it so much if I find out from other people. So I think you need to let him know as soon as you're up to it. Cheers!

I think you just need to find a strength within yourself and tell him. You guys can take the medicals means to try and get pregnant and if that does not work, there is always adoption. If he is how you make him sound with kids, he will be just as happy with having a child who is adopted. It is always such a wonderful thing to do, giving a child in need a better life. My boyfriend and I will adopt, because he was adopted as a child and knows how much it meant to him.

Talk to bf like what if I cannot get pregnant. Then wait for his answer, if he says that you guys can adopt then that is the best job that anybody can do. There are many children in this world who need parents, may be you guys can adopt. You never know miracles always happen you could have children of you own. Keep the options open. There is no point in hiding from your boyfriend then the foundation for the relationship would not be strong. Think come up with positive approach like adopting child and then you can slip your medical reason into the conversation.