What would you do?

I would really consider all of your options. Have you talked to your fiance about the situation yet? Does he know that you know about this? If so.. you have to ask him questions, SUCH AS: Is there something that you two are lacking in the relationship, that he so happens to find with this hot or not girl? .. If he's "cheating" on you with an online girl, has he done it in real life? (When he ansswers that question.. make sure he looks you in the eye sincerely). What does that "girl" have to offer, that you don't. He may just be doing this for an ego booster. Some people just like to know others' opinions about themselves, and hotornot.com is simply a website to let you know if you are hot or not. Check whether the emails are him asking this girl if he's hot or not, or if he's trying to take it to the next step. Don't automatically jump to conclusions. If he's thinking about talking to her, meeting up with her, etc.. end it while you can. Seriously. Before you get married, have kids, get out of this relationship, because he is bound to do it again. I wish you the best of luck.

Oh, if I were you, I would break with him immediately. He is unfaithful.

I would throw a tantrum. Why is he on this website interacting with this person in such an intimate way, and why are you tolerating it? I'm upset that he would have the audacity to put her as his screen saver in the same house that you guys live in together (I'm assuming you live together) when you are the one that should be graced with such an honor. I think that you should confront him on the issue and find out what's going on. The girl that he's talking to probably doesn't know that he has a fiancee, so maybe you should inform her of this fact. Also, discuss it with him and ask him to get off of the website, because he doesn't need to be on it and i'ts jeopardizing your relationship.

Your not the only one who has gone through something like this. Mine was doing his on Text Msgs on his phone. It has happened a couple of times. If I were you I would confront the problem face to facce with him, and look to see if he gets defensive when your talking to him. Tell him that you feel betrade and hurt and that you don't do those things to him, why is he doing this. Tell him that ACTIONS speak LOUDER then WORDS....See if he has a good explanation. He will either talk to you and explain or get defensive and that could turn into a fight. Making him aware that you saw what he was writing and that you are hurt, may be a wake up call. The other thing you can do is become a little more distant from him and see if he comes back around to you. Don't sit and carry on conversations at home, don't email, text or call him during the day when your at work or hes working and just be nice and stuff but don't go out of your way for him and see what happens. That is what I have done. My situation has been straightened out, but it sucked going through it. Just remember your not alone, alot of women go through this. Keep you head up and be strong!!! Shihtzumama

Well I would consider that cheating. Confront him about it. Ask him what he really wants and tell him that you are not happy with him talking to another girl. Or...on the more immature side, start talking to a guy yourself and let your fiance "find out" about it and see how he reacts.

i'm so sorry to hear this has happened to you. i would be very mad. i know that since he's your fiance that you're planning on getting married and must love him very much, but even so, i would re-think the wedding.

Kysweetgal, I am of opinion that your fiance is quite tender with his experience of love and hence, it's natural for these "young love" to revel in their love passion and shower each other with lovely messages and such. But as you progress further into your relationship he does not realize that to sustain a relationship requires more than just that lovey SMS or some hotornot dot coms. Don't get me wrong - it's always good to be loving and send something thoughtful or affectionate, but that shouldn't be the source of your problem. Often, it's how the person is developed emotionally. Not everyone is apt to be affectionate. You will be surprised knowing how some people demonstrate their affection in love. It's not because they don't love their partners - but rather, their environment and personal development had grown in such a way that they are unable to respond to love spontaneously and heartily. Next time when you witness a large group of friends laugh together, watch carefully: you will realise that although the term 'laughter' is experienced by all - everybody will react differently to this experience, in terms of how they display their mirth. Some will burst out in madness; some will tear; some will only giggle; some will remain cold; some will roll on the floor; some will only smile; some will cover their mouth when they laugh; some will appear like seizure; some will be clutching their chest... so on and so forth. It's not about 'turning to be like these' as your situation has become - it's probably part his to behave in such a manner in his most natural state and form. During honeymoon stage and the chase, most of us would attempt to conceal our flaws and negative aspects of our personality. It's only when we have led our relationship and given enough time, our blemish becomes clear. Relationship is not a journey of perfect bliss. You have probably board the wrong train if you are expecting one. It's how you uncover about each other's true personality, deal with them and grow from there. That takes years of effort to compromise, shape and evolve one another and especially to craft your relationship. Now that you know more about his and your relationship, start structuring basis communication - relating individual needs and definition of love. Try to blend indifference into something workable and learn to fine tune regularly to keep it in shape. If you even perturbing over such minor roadblocks, I can only say: please anticipate more of such challenges, with greater intensity, thrown into your path. Take care.

i'm sorry to hear that .if i were you ,i will talk with him seriously. ask him who is she ? what he want to do ? if he dont want to talk with you ,just let him go ,he is not the proper person for you .

I think that your fiance just want to relax,just a joking.He may be afraid your upcoming marriage.If that,you can tell he do not be afraid,and you cannot get the pressure on him.In the meanwhile,you can tell him do not do this thing ,which would hurt you feeling.