Why are there people who's mean online?

Gosh I hope it was not me . You have to have a thick skin sometimes while on the internet because you are exposed to the kind of people you would not necessarily interact with. Discounting the obvious times when it is a misunderstanding or when a certain nuance or emotion does not translate well through the written word, you have to remember there are bullies out there and even though you thought you grew up and left them in the schoolyard where they made you life miserable, they too grew up and found a larger playground in the internet and continued their bullying. You also have to remember that there are the fanatics and emotionally unbalance people too. While the emotionally unbalance might have an excuse as they may need medication they are not getting, the fanatics might benefit from some positive reflection. You cannot tell who is who though so I will repeat myself and say sometimes you just need a thick skin.

It happens that some people are like that. There are people who have much to do with their lives than make others miserable. As difficult as it is, sometimes we just have to create a thicker skin to these things. I worked in a shelter for women victim of domestic violence. So, I had to. I know it's not easy to do, but once you have, I think it definitely helps. It happens.

It is sorry to read that one of the members used nasty words in response to your post. It is not at all good on his part to use uncivilised laungauge. It just ceates bad feelings and does not serve any purpose. Based on my experience, here on mylot, I can say that people who use nasty languauge are very less in numbers and they do not survive here for too long, because they antagonise too many others. Please be cool and calm and just ignore his response. I've not seen the response, however, if you feel really very bad about it, you can report the matter to mylot (you would've seen an exclamation mark (!) besides plus (+) and negative (-) marks against a post. You can press that and report the matter to mylot).

I'm confused. Was this topic in Mylot? Because I just had a look at your activity to try to get a handle on what you're saying, so I could respond intelligently, and I can find nothing there that fits with this discussion. Lash

Hi there and welcome to Mylot I see that you're a relative newcomer. I was too, just over a week ago. Most people on here are intelligent rational people who will share their ideas and opinions and civilly agree to disagree. Unfortunately, that is not all of the population. Remember, everything we do online is virtually anonymous and some people like to hide behind that anonymity and say and do things that they would never do in their day to day lives. Take everything you see here and or online with a grain of salt. You never know if there it is any truth to what the person is saying. Are their comments sincere or perhaps are they just trying to get a reaction of people? Sometimes when people get bored they will "stir the pot" so to speak, to get people angry and or to start an argument. In essence, I develop blinders and when I find a troublemaker, I ignore them and they quickly become bored with me and move on to another victim. I'm no fun to pick an argument with, if I won't bite. And then move on to another person who is interested in intelligent conversation. Have fun, and Happy Mylotting!

Hi I am new to mylot! However, I can say from personal experience that there are people out there who have nothing better to do but spread their unhappiness. Sometimes it is just as simple as they are miserable and bitter and have no outlet. We've all heard that misery loves company. Negativity feeds off of negativity. I had a similar experience in one of my online classes in the discussion board area. There was this one student who constantly had something negative to say about everyone's post. At first I let it go. After he responded to one of my classmate's post in a really rude and offensive way and my instructor did not address it I had to speak up. Not only did I maintain a professional and academic tone but I let him know that what he was doing was inappropriate behavior. I am usually the first to say it is best to ignore people like that. However, as someone else mentioned they are bullies and if no one stands up to them they will continue what they are doing. If you have nothing nice to say say nothing at all. One should be adult enough to voice opposition without being insulting. There will always be cowards who hide under anyonymity but you can't waste your precious time giving them too much thought.

I too donot understand why some people react in that manner. I mean, if I find a post nonsenseI'll not respond to it and just ignore it. So that guy u were talking about could have done that too. I guess these particular category of people are totally frustrated in their lives and try to take it out on others in such networking sites. And its easy to do so because you cannot see the person as he is hidden behind a fake user name. We all are for that maater, but we are at least not going around being rude to people. The best way to handle is to be polite to them in return. And if that doesn't work, just ignore such coward bullies. I too have come across such people and thats what I do.

Truth be told, there are a lot of people who come on to the internet with profound mental illness. They then progree to expressing their defective selves on forums such as mylot as well as elsewhere. It is very sad, but real, such individuals have no other place to deal with the burning anger inside. Pitty rather than condemnation is required blessed be

I think it is just a fact of life that there is mean and ornery people in life and be it here or in real life, misery loves company. They arent happy so they dont want others to be.

you did the right thing. anything we do to others will come back to us. he doesn't realize that, but his time will come. and he will be asking the same question you are asking right now. you are right he must be having a lot of anger with himself or others. and he will keep having it, because that is what he has been inviting to his life with his attitude. everything that he has now, life will take it away from him. to show him that until he learns his lesson, he is not going to win anything. so just stay mylotting and let life do what it does best

Some people find topics like that offensive. Often they are depressed people who have been told to be positive and everything will get better for them and they get angry and sick of being told that. Everyone is different and it is sad that you were disappointed but he was just expressing his anger at what he may well see as something he cannot achieve so he may not believe in it.

hi flojhever dont let that man get to you,he must not havemuch of a life if he has to come on here'and act like a horses rear end.just hit the report buttonthats'the one that looks like an exclamation point and report his nasty response.he will not be doing that again in here. just consider the source and ignore that kind of idiot.

Sometimes people have nothing better to do with their lives than try to make someone else miserable. I've seen it thousands of times through out the internet. It's best to just ignore them and not continue to give in to them, otherwise you'll just keep fueling the fire. Eventually they'll get bored and move on to someone else, making their lives miserable. Chances are this guy is miserable offline which is why he's making the online community such a miserable place too.

Yes! if we have a difference of opinion about something we can say what we think in a nice way. There really is no need for all this rudness. It even happens on here sometimes and it really is not right. People like this are bullies. What else can they be? Everyone has a right to voice an opinion but to call someone names for no reasons is wrong.

Well some people are just like that and we can't do anything about it. I've already encountered a lot of jerks here online. But yeah, just don't let them get into you. Cause they don't know you, so don't be affected to whatever they say. ^_^

I am a member of several forums and I have seen many people who are rude and mean. It has happened to me, too, that someone has critized my choice of topic, but I don't care. If they are not interested in the topic or think that is a waste of time, why don't they just stay away from the thread? It is not like they are forced to read it or forced to respond. I am sure that many of the people who are mean to others are miserable in real life, but my best weapon is to ignore them completely or to be really friendly.

Because they are lame patetic A**H****. I know I'm not a very happy person, And it's clear at times that I can be quit negative. It cant be fun for others and sometimes I feel bad, so I just keep my mouth shut. When there's something I dont agree with, I move on or blow it of. Even when I do reply I'm always as respectful as posible. To the people who I think deserve it anyway.

You face people who are different from who you are everyday. Dont let it get to you If they are mean, it's their problem. P.S. I also agree, id rather be at mylot than argue with someone XD