should rape victims go for abortions?
By agrim94
@agrim94 (3805)
India
December 17, 2008 11:56am CST
rape is a very traumatic experience for any female esp if she is very young say 15 or 16 and and it is really bad for them if they get pregnant.. now since they r too young to be mothers and certianly can not afford the child ...also this child is product of force and not love ..Also the face of the child would always remind the girl of the traumatic experience she faced and probably very physicaly hurtful too.. so would it be better for her to abort the child or she should as most religious gurus would tell you to keep it and remember that experience whole her life?
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19 responses
@LaurenInLA (2270)
• United States
17 Dec 08
I think that abortion is a very personal decision and as you pointed out in some cases it is against the priciples of some religions. A rape victim could also could to put the child up for adoption if she found that seeing the child was traumatic. That being said, if I had a young daughter, I would encourage her to have an abortion. It doesn't seem fair for her entire life to be changed as a result of a crime that was perpetrated on her.
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@purnima175 (435)
• India
14 Nov 09
hi hero,
rape os very traumatic for any girl anywhere in world...Rape is a very broader term and it may not result in pregnancy always. If unfortunately it happens, then it is upto the victim to take a decision. Your suggestion per se looks alright, she (the victim) can afford to abort due to stigma she might face in the society, even she goes otherwise. but i just hope no one rapes no one inthis world
@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
19 Dec 08
In my opinion, pretty much the only time abortion should be used is when carrying/delivering the baby would endanger the life of the mother. Otherwise, they baby should be carried to term and put up for adoption at birth. There are so many people out there who would make very good a loving parents who are willing to take that baby in and give it a good home. Abortion should not have to be used most of the time. It takes a pretty selfish person to end a normal pregnancy by killing the baby that way...
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
18 Dec 08
It's really up to the individual but I don't favor abortion, right you can just have the baby born and have him/her adopted by a relative if you don't want to keep, as what then, if you won't be blessed with another child and as others said, What if he/she is destined to be the president of the land?
@dazzlingangle (14)
• India
25 Dec 08
d girl shud abort d baby.y shud c rise d criminals baby.thou d baby didnt do any crime.
@ladysurvivor (4746)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 08
I pity rape victims because nobody wanted to be raped in the first place. When she gets pregnant, the world seem to blame her but not the father. Many people like to blame according to what they see, and not the real fact or truth. I hate it when people gossip or talk behind the back about a girl who is pregnant without a father.
I remembered a story of a mentally retarded girl when I was living in a rural area with my husband. She is sweet looking and her race is Chinese. She has a sweet smile. I like looking at her. However because she is mentally ill, she is not aware of people's ill intention towards her.
One day I saw her pregnant and she was walking along the street side. I was confused, is she married? I asked my friend and she told me the girl was raped but nobody knew who did it.
I really pitied her. I wish the rapist will get his punishment. The thing that happened to her made me think I am lucky and should be grateful for what god has given me.
@Ithink (9980)
• United States
18 Dec 08
This scenerio is the reason Im pro-choice. I dont think anyone has the right to tell someone to keep a baby ESPECIALLY if they are raped, no matter what the age. And for all the ones that say, the baby didnt ask for it, well neither did the rape victim!
If it is a younger person that is raped 12-15 or so, I think that they should talk to someone and then their parents and decide what to do together. Reason I say this is, a person this young is not able to provide for a baby even if they decided to keep the baby. Another thing to think about is some are not mature enought to think about all the life changes it can and does make. In the end it would be the grandparents that most likely will raise the child.
It would take a strong person to be able to have a child out of rape, keep it and see it everyday. Some just would not be able to do this.
@silverglint (2000)
• Philippines
18 Dec 08
rape is indeed very traumatic, with or without a child, a female will surely not be able to forget something like that. However, i also feel that the child should still be given a chance to live, after all, it is not the baby's fault but the father's. I am sure it would be very hard for the mother to keep the baby born not out of love and she might even resent the baby. I think it would be better to keep the child but if the mother is unable to take care of the baby then she can have the baby adopted or placed in an orphanage. at least the future of the baby is still insured.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
18 Dec 08
Rape is a very broader term and it may not result in pregnancy always. If unfortunately it happens, then it is upto the victim to take a decision. Your suggestion per se looks alright, she (the victim) can afford to abort due to stigma she might face in the society, even she goes otherwise.
@alindahaw (1219)
• Philippines
18 Dec 08
Abortion is a very personal thing. Each case is different. Some rape victims may choose abortion and some may not. I think that it would be better to give the rape victim a choice in this situation. If she chooses to have the baby, then that it her choice. On the other hand, if she wants to get an abortion, we should not stand in her way.
@Monkeyrose (2840)
• Canada
17 Dec 08
Well this is a very personal decision each female must make for herself. Actually a lot of religious people who say to have the baby and give it up for adoption. I think that only the person in the situation can make the decision.
I think that the person must explore all avenues. Its definately a big decision that you don't want to go into without any information
@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
17 Dec 08
It is true that rape is a traumatic experience, and I would imagine that the victims wouldn't want to have anything that reminds them of that event. However, I do think that it's up to the victim to make the decision. Abortion is a very person decision and issue. If the victim decides to keep the child, then it is completely up to her. If she chooses to go for an abortion, it is also her decision. She is in the best position to know what is in her best interest, what she thinks is best for her.
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
17 Dec 08
It will be up to the individual. You see if you are pregnant because of rape then you will wash out that before the baby is born. I know person who was rape brought up the child which was love even though it was conceived by rape. This is the reason I say it is up to the individual. If it is a child who was rape then I would advise the mother to wash out the womb before the baby was born. If it was form then both the child and the rapist will be question by me. The child will have to tell me why she keep it as a secret and then the rapist will be turn over to the authorities. So you see these things are complex.
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
17 Dec 08
Well, if she could carry the child and then put it up for adoption that would be the best option. But I think that if carrying the child would be too hard for her then she should be able to get an abortion. I am prochoice for that reason. I hate that teenage girls are screwing around and getting knockup and just going to get an abortion because it makes it harder for the ones who really do need one. Rape is so traumatizing that some people never get over it. Then to add on to their pain, to make them carry a baby for 9 months that every day will bring back what happened to them is just cruel. Even for the person who did everything right, used protection, was on birth control and still got pregnant. They should be able to choose not to have the baby that they did try so hard to protect against.
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
17 Dec 08
In my home country a teenage girl or a lady that is raped could go to a chemist and get the morning after pill. Then hopefully that would prevent her from getting pregnant. If she did get pregnant then I would imagine that she would be very upset having got pregnant through violent force. I think that the teenager or lady could consider having the baby then have him or her adopted. I wouldn't ever have an abortion but would understand if a rape victim had an abortion. However the baby would be innocent and would not deserve his or her fate. I believe aborted babies are the missing people of the world.
@kitttenskysong (676)
• United States
17 Dec 08
First. Don't blame the baby for something it had no control over second. If you think you'd blame the child give it up for adoption.
Don't murder it for something that it had no control over.
@jambi462 (4576)
• United States
17 Dec 08
If I were a female and I was raped and got pregnant I would definitely opt for the abortion. I'm not sure I could take raising a child that is the seed of the man that raped me. I don't really know why that's even question. That's why abortion should be legal because you don't know what kind of situation may cause a baby to happen. We can't forget that we are all going to die at some point in our lives.
@MichaelCorleone (327)
• India
17 Dec 08
Every coin has two sides mate !!!
The decision depends on a lot of things.....
Now that you have mentioned the case of the 15-16 aged girls, I would say :YES
They should go for an abortion if they do get pregnant.
15- 16 is not an age to be a mother neither physically nor mentally