After 8 years of marriage i've discovered love.. But not with my husband..

I feel sorry for you. 15 years is not a right time to take a serious decision like marriage.

You have to follow your heart. Your children will understand it someday but for sure life will be bad for you and them if you keep a marriage with no love

What a pity girl~!!!You got married so early,only at 15,I can not believe it.In my opinion,15 just a child in middle shool.What about your husband,does he love you??? If he love you very much,Why not give him a chance,after all you have children.If you are separated,what about your children???

How can you love so many years, and just fall out of love. I'm not trying to judge I just like to know. I was married for 7yrs. good years. Then we a tragic event happen in our life, and my husband said he just fell out of love with me. We was married for ten years.

8 years of marriage. Surely there is a way to reconcile with your husband. Dont let your emotions get over you, seeking for new excitment. You are right that you can give thousands of EXCUSES because once your heart changed, everything just doesnt go well with your husband. Yes, your innocent children will be affected and they will have this bad impression of marriage. Do your best to savage this marriage first. it started since two years, this means you are ok with your husband for 6 years! If you cant save this marriage and allow you emotions to go wild for another person, what makes you think you can maintain the new relationship. Histiry may repeat itself after 6 years. You dont want this to go on forever, right. Save the marriage, be a good wife and good mother!

All the things that you should not do have done now,you married at 15,maybe that is root of the problem.If you divorce from your husband,it's now doubt that you will hurt many people,especially yout children and your husband,but if you keep going with your husband,but if it make all the rest of your life painful,I also think it's worthful and it will also not good for your family,So you should think over it seriously and make up a decision that leads a ends with the lowest pain to everybody. By the way,the problems that you mentioned in your marriage"money problems,character difference"that happens to most of the marriage,and this shouldn't be your excuses.

Your post was a bit confusing but I am guessing that you are unhappily married with kids and met someone new? At 15, it is understandable that perhaps you would grow up and realize that maybe you made a poor choice in getting married that young. I first got married at 18. Looking back, I'd say that was too young but it felt right at the time. Being a single mom can be tough and you do deal with the ex after the relationship ends but I don't regret moving on. I would have regretted staying in an unhappy relationship. I did pay for my choices but I learned from them as well so no regrets. Heck, I am still learning as I go and I'm now 52. You can't spread happiness if you are not happy in your life and likewise, if you are miserable...that is what you will spread.

why were you maried at 15? were you pregnant?

Married at 15?? Why that is the age to relax and enjoy life. a teenager can not be expected to make th right decisions. didn't your parents put you on the right track at that time/ iam sure they must have tried but you must have ranted and raved and they must have relented. That is the problem with most teenagers. They think that they are grown up and knwo too much. My daughter was 22 when i borached th subject of her marriage to her and she was very upest. she said "I am still very young and I can not get married so early. don't talk to me about marriage for atleast another 4 years." I had to gently persuade her that it was about time she got settled. it took me one year to geet her to agree and then I got her married. One must never marry in haste, then you have to repent in leisure. The children are the worst sufferers.

I can sympathise with your situation,marrying at 15 is really sad.I think it is illegal to marry at that age.That apart you were still a child woman hardly knowing anything.But now you say that your husband loves you and that he is not creating any problem or making you unhappy.You need to think carefully because there are so many issues here, your children and the security you have in your married life.Is your choice of some other man going to make you happier or is it going to make you loose whatever you have now? you will have to think from all angles, and you are not even sure if this other man is going to be as good as your husband in later years...think carefully and dont rush into things, all the best :)

I too have made some rather bad choices in my partners and have been married three times now. I have someone now in mind that I am attracted to and will start to suitor her in the near future. Maybe this will be the love that I have been looking for all my life. I do hope so. Crocket.

this is a clear proof that getting into marriage requires maturity in thoughts, physique and emotions. lacking one of these components would lead to marriage break up or worst sacrifices just like what happen to you. i am hoping you will not be attempted to leave your husband and children for the sake of that man. maybe you are just confuse or getting bored with your relationship with your husband. better consult marriage consultant who can assess the status of your marriage. better do it early and save your marriage. i feel so sad when i heard that there are families that are about to break up.i am hoping that you will not be one of them. be blessed!

Sorry my friend i think its seems a bit a harsh to you.But i dnt support you in this case.What the causes you wrote here those you think previously before marrying.You did mistake and so for you have to repay it.I think you have your children and so for you have lots of responsibilities.How you can run away from those.I think in front of those responsibilities your personal love is very small.dnt forget that.pls remember you have 2 small children.Just see their innocent eyes at least once before taking any kind of decission.Wishing you a very happy life.

Hello Melizabth. You have said your husband loves you and it has been a relationship for the last eight years. He has given you two beautiful children. He has supported you when you were just 15. This I believe was not a compulsion so why look for something in someone when your husband can give this to you. You should think about your children and the man who had given you motherhood. I think he deserves something better than this. Don't you think so?

My only question is why at 15 yrs old did your parents allow you to marry?????

good.if your husband is not loving you.you can find another man who loves you better than your husband.but one thing you have to take care you should keep this matter very confidencial otherwise it would make problems in your life.don't make your children come to know this.

I really do not understand why you got married so young but I will tell you that when you get married you are making a commitment to that person for life and under God so and since you have found love with another man that is considered cheating and is unforgivable. You made the choices you did when you were younger and yes you have to live with them now. But cheating on your husband is not the answer and honestly cheaters just do not go well with me Sorry!

Hi Melizabth, for the matter of fact, I do had the same experience just like what you are having right now. We, married woman with kids at times are fragile and do not know who we should turn to especially the situation concern or resulting by the people around you. Do evaluate if the man is genuinely helping you or is he trying to coax you and pull you family apart. If this is not handled properly, you will be loosing the most important people just because of the one time feeling.For me, I'm proud to share that I had a considerate and understanding spouse that can sit down with me to bring all the agony and bad feelings out (though I was always the bad egg during discussion) but I believe this will help to settle a part of what we felt inside and do release us somehow. Maybe, is a good choice to talk it out with your husband before you decide on anything. In marriage, we don't only hold the vows but also our the other half. The moment you had eyes with him the first time, i believe his the ONE! Somehow, we can try to let our hair down and don't take things too hard... I know it easy to say rather than to do... I always believe that it takes 2 hands to clap... So, hope you can get a time and talk over on your worst feeling with your husband...GOOD LUCK

you married at 15?cant believe it ,you were still a small kid,how can you hold a family .maybe just s you said ,you discovered love ,i support you ,cos you grow up now

When you are younger, you don't really understand the world. Once you are a woman, you understand the true meaning of love. I hope you can do what you think is best for you. Be happy!