Do u prefer Love marriage /Arranged marriage ??
By harsha27
@harsha27 (205)
India
December 18, 2008 3:08am CST
My friend's is love marriage they led their life happily for some days after that hey faced many struggles for money atlast she died due to lack of money . what they parents told is that if he would have listened our words this sad incident doesn't happenned in u r life. parents always suggest arrange marriage and their children always supports Love marriage . Which one is right whether love or arranged?
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5 responses
@helper9562000 (311)
• New Zealand
18 Dec 08
hi harsha, I think I would prefer to have both. I want my parents to b happy with the man I choose to be my husband. That way both me and my parenst can both love him. I think thst In this day and age that kind of marriage is called a marriage of conveniance. In a marriage of convineance both couple know and like each other and they fall in love after getting married and that what I want for myself.
@harsha27 (205)
• India
18 Dec 08
thanx for your suggestion .We have a prover that marriages are made heaven as well matches are fixed in heaven. so we don't have a choice to choose a person.Then why do people go for love during studies. Do they don't know if even then we choose that marriage is not going to happen like that.it is so our match fixing is already done in heaven.
@aakay4u (799)
• India
19 Dec 08
Love marriage is a marriage between two individuals and Arranged marriage is a marriage between two families.Parents choose our partners after looking at many aspects,one is the similarity in cultural values.But with so much freedom given to youngsters and most of them who think that the Indians (who first showed enlightenment to this world)are too primitive in their thoughts and are influenced by western life have started choosing partners of their own.There is nothing wrong with that.Just compare that how many people had break-ups in our country as compared to the divorce rates in Western countries.Considering that i think there is something in our traditional values.
@bliveinurself (109)
• Malaysia
18 Dec 08
Hi harsha :) For me, it doesn't matter which marriage that we prefer. Either love or arranged marriage it cant ensure your happiness on the future. Even love marriage couple got divorced, so we couldn't say that only love marriage can ensure happiness. The important thing is, before you start to involve in love tell your parents first. If they are already plan something for your future, you can avoid that feeling from beginning. The important thing in marriage and future happiness is from bless of your parents and family, and off course it is rely on how you handle your marriage.
@semperfi625 (14)
• Philippines
19 Dec 08
I think it doesn't matter if love or arrange marriage. What matter is how the couple handle the situation and how responsible they are on making a better living for their family.
@zhouliannie (78)
• China
18 Dec 08
it depends .some arrnged marrige can be very succesful,and love marriage also can be a diasar,just as your friend.but on me ,i like love marriage most,cuase i think what you feel is the most important
