what's the custom in your country when somebody marry?

Thankfully, here in India its is not only money as a hard and fast rule. You may give present as nominal as a bouquet to something as expensive as a diamond set. For your close friends you mat present him with something which he may bring into use for his new married life, like a dinner set, or install a chimney in his kitchen etc. It all depends what YOU would like to partake with.... Happy Mylotting friend, Bodhisatya

here in the philippines its not mandatory to give gifts to newly weds but since it is an honor to be invited to witness their wedding vows, as guest you should have the initiative to give something to the couple as a token of your appreciation for inviting them on their wedding. usually the sponsors or the one who will act as god parents are the one who gives bigger gifts or valuable gifts but still its not mandatory. it has been practiced here that when you are invited to attend a wedding you should gift something for the house to start with like utensils, appliances, furnitures and sometimes money for them to buy what they need.

I think it applies to everywhere. When I am invited to a wedding I will have to prepare cash for the wedded couples as a small gift. And this does not go unnoticed for anything received during the wedding will be recorded and when I have my wedding it is expected that you do likewise. So it is normal here to give money or presents. definitely we don't go to weddings empty handed.

Oh, I thought it's only the marrying parties that give money. Are the friends also involved in this one? Is there a minimum amount for it? or do you just put money in that red envelope and give it? Anyhow, if it's that red envelope then you just put the least amount. I'm sure they would understand. As for me, we also have that, but it's during the wedding and it's up to us how much we're going to pin. It's actually the act of pinning the money on the couple's dress/suit while they dance, it's called "the prosperity dance", there are also variations for these, one of which is the "Money Tree" where you hang customized envelopes in a tree containing money in them, and the "Selling" where the couple has a basket of goodies and they go from table to table and 'sell' these goodies for any amount the buyer feels he'd like to give. I can't really say I don't like it, because we're not forced to do so. I just hate it when it's obvious that the couple is eyeing money for the wedding because instead of having one of them, they'd do all three in one wedding! Whew!

Well In the US, different regions do things a little different.. I'm from the South.. here in the South we usually paint our rifles white and go out hunting the groom that knocked her up (and take bets to see if we got the right one!).. once we find his scrawny little behind, we take him to his surprise wedding! We give practical gifts like fishing poles, moonshine, and sometimes new wheels for their trailer.. Then we have a thing we call a reception, basically, we go eat! We have fancy food like Dorito's and beanie weenies.. and spam sandwiches, and sometimes we roast a pig or a possum... or whatever is laying in the road on the way over to the wedding. Then we try the new couple's wits by stuffing their truck full of balls and they can't get inside! hehehe! but it's ok! cause then we steal the couple's hunting dog and hold him for ransom while they are trying to leave for the honeymoon.. We follow them to the honeymoon and take pictures and post them on the web.. and all money that the pictures bring will usually pay for the wedding cake (that they just hogged down). Then we wait 9 months for the baby, so we can get tickets to the Jerry Springer show so we can find out who the real daddy is.. it's fun for all :)

Actually if u see.. money is a good idea.. they can do somethign useful with it.. if u buy gifts then ... if the couple dont need it . it will be sitting at their home doing nothing.... and if u're worried abt the gifts.. just go on holiday... hehhehe..

Take it easy ,I am a Chinese too, enjoy the life,you will marry too,right? your friend will give your money back ,haha

Hello,Barry! Here in India it is customary to present the newly wed couples with gifts and money.The girl's parents present them with everything that is required for a new family and for this they spend lakhs of rupees.Besides the relations and friends also give them lot of gifts which would help them in their new life.When it has become the custom and tradition we must abide by it at any cost.thanx.

well what roselyn mention is kinda traditional one in the Philippines, but as my observation that kind of traditional wedding and the other things are not so much being applied nowadays in the modern times, usually when coupled get to be wed, the token of appreciation to families is in their initiative.. and the evolution of youth to a more liberated world now penetrates the old culture so i think that might be a factor.

My country is india in india we have many types of cultures and different people follow different cultures but our culture is we give as many gifts as we can but it is not compulsary to give a gift for the married couple

In the Philippines, the custom is that you should not get married within a year of your siblings marriage. 2. Don't wear your wedding gown before your wedding day. If you get married before your older sibling, you have to give something to that older sibling. At least that's the custom that i can remember.

In my friend's hometown in China, when the day they married, if two couples married in one day, when they saw each other the brides could't speak to each other. The only thing they can do is change a new red handherchief.