Just found out this morning..

I amso sorry to read this I think you better leave it telling the Children till you have dealt with it and have the Strength for your Children to help them deal with it I know it will be hard for you to take in, I am sending you a big hug

my had terminal illness with her liver. i can remember so many times we get the call to come runing they were giving her, her last rights. and she ended bouncing back. but i guess when it comes to this you pray for the best, but ready for the worst. knowing this could be it. we told our kids about my mom and made sure my kids this is why we should cherish life and the people we love. when i got the calls late at night and they heard me running around and out the door flying up the street they knew it was about my mom. i guess with your kids, depend how old they are be honest with them. prepare them what the worst could be, and have them pray for the best. i know people that have other in thier family from dads, moms, ect who is ill. i tell them you try not to worry until you know for sure. and you be strong in front of that person and let them be weak. and when we aren't around them then it's your turn to be weak and cry. but you got to have faith, and make sure they know how much they mean to you. best of luck and be in my prayers

I work as a PCA for our local VNA/Hospice. Through this agency I have met many wonderful people. One in particular that I have come to grow very close to has ALS, also know as Lou Gehrig's disease. We both know what lies ahead for her. Each time I see her she wears a smile on her face. We talk, we laugh, sometimes we cry. Meeting her has been the highlight of my work. She really puts life into perspective. One other person that was a part of my life and no longer is with us was my ex-husband. He was diagnosed with cancer 20 years ago. He passed away on November 9th. His motto was you live until you die. Every day above ground was a good one. I know personally know it a fact that it is hardest for the living to go on without those who pass before us. We need to remember that one day we too will be moving on. It is a part of life. Big huggers to you, your friend, and your family.

it is a hard blow for everyone one but if it was me I would tell them because even though it will hurt, they may resent not knowing, and maybe because they don't know they may see her and say something inappropriate that will embarrass you, them, or make her feel bad.

I'm just getting back to mylot, after a long vacation, but I want to let you know I read this the other day and I hope you have found the answers your looking for. Gentle honestly would be the way I would handle it with the kids once the holidays are past, wouldn't tell them beforehand. There is no easy way to deal with something like this but I hope you make the most of the time you have left with her whether it is two months or two years. (((((hugs)))))

I'm so sorry to hear about this, Raven. I hope the chemo helps her and the side effects are minimal. Take care.