Men i whant to listen your excuses!!!!!

Well, it is human nature. However, it is not acceptable for husband to despite their wife for their looks. Love is the priority. My wife put on lot of weight when she was pregnant but i still find her beautiful. It is the loving heart that will change your perspective and vision rather than just looking through physical eye. You are right, it will be terrible for me to demand same figure and look from my wife after she go through the labor for our baby. She is still my wife, fat or slim. However she managed to return to her original figure after the pregnancy. To me, my wife is always perfect. she doesnt need to have good look or figure to be perfect in my slight.

Well speaking for me and only me as a man (tho i have yet to be married and have children of my own-i am only 19) i'd say it all goes back to our human nature. We want to reproduce with the most desirable female so our strongest genes, our traits can be passed on. I must say you women go through a lot and to see a guy just treat you guys like that is utter nonsense. I know that if and when i do get married and have kids i for sure would not act and treat my wife like that. I respect mothers for having to go through all the labor n complications.

You forgot to mention that the woman is also expected to hold down a full time job outside the home and bring in ALMOST as much money as the man. Heaven forbid that she earn MORE.

wow you sounds like me too..lol but maybe 1 year ago or something..hahah i had two kids and i am big, lol and i was like having problems with my husband because he was complaining how big i got..and i was so stressed out and all... and we keep on having arguments that is not necessary, but i was like thinking it was just a phase and the change was geting in between us, i was feeling neglected because it feels like he only sees me physically and not what i do for our family, for him and for the kids... but i came to a point of break down and explosion, taht i confronted him and told him how i elt..but he also told me how he felt because he thought i was forgetting about myself and how i look like lol but i also told him i was busy taking care of everyone i dont have time for myself! it was really hard, but we got through it, we compromised..he help around the house enough for me to have time for myself and in the end i got what i want and he got what i want, i tried to be thinner and of course try to still look attractive for him..which also makes me happy, i am not perfect he knows that but i am also satisfied because he now accepts me for who i am..it was hard but i am glad we got through it with prayer of course!

Why do we want a perfect woman? Well, firstly there are no perfect women or men, so we just want everything we want, not pure perfection (as I always say about my partner - "she's not perfect, but she's perfect for me"). And if we want a perfect woman it's partly because women want a perfect man. Romantic comedies and other such film and TV nonsense (not to mention literature) have been teaching us for decades that True Love exists, yada yada yada. So we all want it. Well, most people. I'm just lucky enough to have found the perfect person for me. Even if she does drive me nuts sometimes, lol!

There is someone who feels my pain! I'm not a pain, thank god, but yeah men are such the hypocrites. They want a fling with supergirl, or wonderwoman, and their not looking for their stength if you know what I mean. And then they want to turn around and get with a decent girl for marriage, if they're smart. You cna't have a wife and a mistress! YOu can't have the good girl and bad! TOo late though, it's in men's genes! They can't help it...so let's think of creative methods of punishment, like hitting them with rolled up newspapers when little boys become accustomed to barbies...just kidding, nothing so drastic. BUT this is the reality of being a man.

First of all it is not just the guys fault. It has to do with society, commercialism and the media selling the idea that every woman should have a size 6 figure, long flowing perfect hair and teeth, and be super woman have kids, work, take care of home, house, husband and still always look gorgeous and never age but perpetually look like she is 25 at the most, even pregant commercials the woman is sexy and full of smiles. They never sell reality even commercials with colds and things the woman is always beautiful, thin, sexy and perfect. Furthermore they portary a lot of men as either super sports jocks or total clowns and buffoons. Both women and men fall somewhere in the middle. Secondly a lot of men work hard to work and put food on the table, some work in all sorts of weather and elements and very highly dangerous jobs so the wife and kids can have a roof over their head, food on the table, clothing, and nice things. They come home and are tired from dealing with co-workers, customers, bosses, traffic and what ever the job stresses in general are. They are tired, they are cold, hungry, maybe in pain too. But they have to be "The MAN" and not complain, cry, or hurt. For me I am 100 percent glad I am a woman and not a man. I had five children all natural and it did not hurt half as much as your putting on. Nor was it half as bad, It is a personal choice to shave legs and arm pits, I don't did once or twice hair came in darker and thicker and I learned the more you shave the thicker and darker it gets so I stopped. You make it sound like being a woman, is a terribly hard ordeal every day and it isn't. I know honey I have been around a long time and I have a very wonderful, kind, loving, giving, husband of 39.8 years. He has endured and put up with a lot and so have I. It is called marriage. Deal with it. I don't feel sorry for you at all.

Sounds to me like your relationship has gone to hell and your pissed! Don't put your misfortunes on everyone else. Your case is the exception, not the norm. Try and have a nice day and if things are that bad you need to think about getting out and finding someone new.

I very much understand what your saying... But you see ...both men and women in todays society are way too influenced my the "VANITY" and "SEXY"...and "HOT" syndrome...as I call it. Evrywhere you look its all about the LOOK!! One has to look beyond all this when relating to our partners.

i quite agree with your point of view, but we can do nothing about it, bcz it's human nature. As far as i'm concerned you need some skills to ease the relationships between you and husband. A family life needs some surprise also. Let him know the importance of a family , every family member will stand by his side whoever confront troubles.Be more patient and forgiving...... we are women...and same situation...

I tend to agree with people here human nature. Its just the way men are built.