Would you date a SINGLE DAD/Single MOM?
By n30wing
@n30wing (4767)
Philippines
12 responses
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
21 Dec 08
Unless you are really young and immature, dating a single parent should not be an issue. You do have to deal with your partner's kids so if children are not your cup of tea I wouldn't bother! There are instances where it can get complicated. Years ago I dated a single dad whose ex kept popping up everywhere. She clearly wanted him back and resented my presence so I left the situation as it got quite intricate. Love is love though and if you fall for someone you will probably overcome most obstacles.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
22 Dec 08
Well I never had problems with her children. It's like their my own children. We even tug them when we have a date. It's almost two years now. Well there is no such thing as perfect relationship, but we do work it out together. It's for better and worst were together. I wanna spend my life with her, she's the only girl that I ever introduce to my mother. It wasn't a big issue or big deal for me that she is a single mother. I love her so much God knows that! Have a nice day! Advance Merry Christmas1
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
22 Dec 08
That is so nice! You have a great relationship by the sound of it; I'd hang on to her if I were you; I'm sure you don't need me to tell you that! Merry Christmas to you and your family.
@Erssyl (617)
• Philippines
21 Dec 08
If you truly love a person having a child is not really an issue.You should be more glad to see how he/she is a responsible person.Are you asking only for a date or you want to have full responsibilty of the child she is raising.That is a different issue.If you only want to date there is nothing wrong but if you want serious relation there is nothing wrong too if you like if you are responsible enough and if you will not be the cause of her second mistake.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
22 Dec 08
Well it's been two years, it's not really dating anymore, it's us! I already accepted them like my own kids. Were trying to have our own too but In Time. God knows how much I love her. She's the first girl I introduce to my mother. That is how much I love her, and wanna spend my life with her, even life is not perfect, we try to solve our differences. Have a nice day to you! Keep on smiling!
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
20 Dec 08
I once thought that I would never date a single dad as it would lead to a lot of problems, now I have been in the situation and I have changed my mind about the topic. Now I would say: I have dated a single dad and I wouldn't mind doing it again. It is not always easy and we had some problems, but it was worth it. If I love the man I am willing to take the challenge and I would do it again.
@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
20 Dec 08
Hello n30wing! I don't really mind dating single dad, separated or divorced man. My husband was divorced actually when I met him plus he has two children. As long as I love the person and I can see he loves me and cares for me, I don't see any problem dating him.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
20 Dec 08
For me my friend I don't mind dating or being in love with a single Mom. I am so much in love with a single mom. It's not a big issue or a big deal for me. It's my life, I make my own life, and I don't care what would people say. Have a nice day to you! Advance Merry Christmas to you and your family! Keep on smiling!
@firemountain (60)
• United States
20 Dec 08
Hi n30wing,
To tell you the truth my husband did.
I was 30 years had 4 children one disable.
we went to gether almost two years.
one day he said if we can't get married I'll have to move on,
and I realy don't wont to. also my husband had been disabled in the war.
they became very clous
he's a good God fearing man and a wonderful dad, and husband. yes our son did learn to walk. he is now married with three lovely little girls, thanks to the man with GOD in his heart.we've been married 34 years.and he's the best thing that ever happen to me. and we thank God ever day for letting us find each other.
my children call him dad, not because they were told to.
but because there hearts told them to.it does work but any thing good has to come with work between two.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
22 Dec 08
Thanks for that advice! I need it! It's been almost two years now and it's still us! Well it's really true with what you've said that to work things better is both of you should work the relationship out. I hope and pray it will be forever for us. Spending my life with her I can't ask for more. Have a nice day to you! Advance Merry Christmas to you and your family too. God bless!
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
19 Dec 08
I would not mind either if he is a single dad and I would become an instant step mom. What is important to me is that he loves me and respects me, same with the child. I know I cannot replace the true mother of the child and the only thing I would wish for the chilc is his/her acceptance that I would be his/her stepmom.
When love strucks us, it never chooses whom to love whether he/she be single, singleparent, or even committed. We really cannot control it, we never also planned it. It is only up to us if we grab it or not. Some may follow their heart and others follow their mind.
But for me, if the choice is if he is a single dad? It would be fine.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
20 Dec 08
I don't mind if she is a single mom, it's not a big deal to me, as long as I love her, and she loves me too. I don't care what people will say, it's my choice, it's my life, and what counts is it's my own happiness. Have a nice day to you! Keep on smiling! Advance Merry Christmas to you!
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
4 Jan 09
it would be hard on him because I don't want to be a parent and I don't want to be around kids for too long. So if he can see me whenever he isn't busy with his kid or kids, and keep us separate, then it would be okay.But if he is blinded by love so much that he Really thinks I would be a good stepmom, then I would stop seeing him.
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
4 Jan 09
I never went through this so I honestly don't know if I could. I felt strange enough when I found out my husband wasn't a virgin when we met. But with him being 8+ years older than myself I couldn't very well expect him to be a virgin, now could I? Though I had been hoping. LOL
I don't know if I could be comfortable helping to raise someone else's child as my own, if the relationship got to that level. With me not being the biological parent I would feel out of place.
My husband actually dated a single mom (yes, before we met LOL). He didn't feel comfortable about it, nor did he love her (though he liked her kids) and got out of the relationship when he met me. What can I say, he was attracted to my innocence.
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
19 Dec 08
I had a single mom for a girlfriend. She's my second girlfriend. She's probably the most patient among my girlfriend. The sexiest too! She's three years older than me. to be honest, i really don't have problems dating single mom because they're just the same as anyone without a child. My only problem would be how her child will accept me.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
20 Dec 08
For me it's not an issue if she's a single mom. I am now in love with a single mom, I too find her sexy of all the girl friends I had my friend, I love her more each day! The kids I don't have a problem with them. Their already like my own children. Have a nice day to you! Keep on smiling!
@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
19 Dec 08
no, i wont mind dating a single dad. i have nothing to do with his past so i don't think i have the right to judge him only because he has a child. he has the right to search for his own happiness and date with other girls. let's face it sometime in our lives we commit mistakes that we don't mean doing it. we're only human.
@chupangina (90)
• Philippines
19 Dec 08
I will date a single mom as long as she remains sexy and that she does not have stretch marks on her belly.