Do you put your happiness...

hi my dearest friends, I am happy to answer this question for I have been currently in a phase of life where I am unable to judge where exactly the happiness lies. However I opine that It lies in making our friends and family happy. The amount of happiness I get when I see my bro , mom , sis or dad are very happy is immesurable. I believe that, if it hadnt been of their personal indulgence and perseverance we would not be where we are today. I doubt if one could be happy in a solitary confinement. One needs to have a wide network of friends inorder to survive in this very dynamic world. Therefore, we need to be very sociable and spread cheer to the people around. When we keep them happy, they would obviously reciprocate and keep us happy. After all , life is short and we need to live it to the fullest . Therefore, I conclude that our happiness certainly lies in the happiness of others. Thank you.

It sometimes feels like I put the happiness in the hands of others. When I really love somebody I often feel that the person is so important that I can't be happy without them, but I know from experience that it is possible to find happiness again even when it seems impossible.In other words when I have the person in my life, I think that my happiness depends on them, but when they are gone, I realize that it isn't true.

You don't put your happiness in the hands of others but true happiness is found in a combination of hands upon your heart. Right now my happiness comes from the love of many people...so there are both large, medium and very small hands on my heart. Losing any one of them would hurt and rob me of at least some of my happiness. For a time I would imagine that I would feel no happiness at all but the love of my remaining family would help to heal my heart. The core of our happiness is found within ourselves, in our acceptance and love we have for ourselves, but those who touch our lives do have an impact on the way we feel.

I am dealing with this right now. My grandmother passed away last month. She was my rock. She was the person that just made me feel so special and now she is gone. I have my own family of course (children and husband and my parents) But no one compaired to the love this woman gave me and how special she made me feel. Not to mention the happiness I felt around her. Right now my heart is so broke I dont know if I will ever feel that kind of love from someone again. But your comment made me think. I had that love, I still HAVE that love also. The memories are in my heart and will never be forgotten. I also feel that you have inspired me to pass along that great love my grandma showed me, onto others. I think you have just helped me heal. thank-you my friend!

Our happiness INTERACTS with other people happinesses. So this is sometimes why after loosing one person You loose that part of Your energy that interacted with his/her energy of happiness. But everything can be refilled and replaced, and get balanced again. It just takes a little bit of patience and time. Otherwise: I believe that we should not depend on others and expect others to give us happiness. Because after all- we are a lonely creatures, and we have to survive and learn how to feel happy without help of others.

hi teka44, for me I would really feel so sad that I have lost someone so dear to me, I am going to miss that someone which I've already felt 5 years ago when my father past away... But life is just like it is,something happen that without your awareness your love ones gone...But this doesn't mean that your happiness will be gone too...You might just feel the sadness or loneliness for a while and once in a while as you miss the person but you deserve to be happy on the other way around...There are many many beautiful blessings given you that you should be thankful and happy for the rest of your happy life. Merry x mas my friend

i donot think ,we should depend on anybody.others moods vary.but it is true that,we cannot be happy,if our loved ones are not happy.happiness is a state of mind,we can choose to be happy.

hi there, teka44.. i believe that true happiness can only be found within ourselves but we can never be truly happy within ourselves when we are not happy with God. only God can make ALL things possible, including our happiness. if we place our happiness on wealth, on power, on material things, on our circumstances or on other people, our happiness will only be a temporary one. but if we place our happiness in God, chances are it will be for a lifetime.

To a point I belive that if I loose some people in my life I could loose a lot in the process. As a mother I would be very upset and angry and sad to loose a child (God forbid) and I dont think I could truly be happy after that. Other people not so much.

"happiness is a choice" this may sound a cliche to others but i always believe in this. losing someone can be depressing but we can't sulk over spilled milk we have to get up and go back in track. this may take a long process for some and as easy as a breeze with others but that doesn't mean that what we lose doesn't mean anything at all. no matter what will happen or what has happened we need to continue living our life to the fullest and be happy for the more we become unhappy this will only make our life miserable. hope this helps.

I think it is not that we put our happiness in others' hands but I think that just like life, happiness is best when shared with the people around you, your family and friends. We feel so bad after losing someone cause we can't be with them anymore and share each others' life, each others' happiness. The happiest of people are not those who are famous, successful or rich. The happiest of people are people who spend their life with the people they love.

Hello teks44, How are you! First please accept my best wishes on the eve of Christmas.May you enjoy the festival with your family and friends! Now, coming to your topic of discussion.We donot wilfully put our happiness in others' hands. We develop certain relationship with our fellow beings. Sometimes the relationship develops into deep intimacy, so much so that we don't want to lose that relationship.If under certain circumstances,we are compelled to miss or lose that reationship, we naturally feel hurt,unhappy.The intensity of our unhappiness depends mostly on the level of intimacy with that person. This unhappiness lasts for a priod of time. Time is a great healer of all wounds.We may come round and may become our usual selves, to a great extent.You must have had such experience in your own life!

I believe if you lose someone yes it is depressing, but you have to move on even if it hurts you or it will keep you so depressed all the time. You yourself should make yourself happy. Yes that person may have made you happy, but they are other things in your life you have to look at that has made you happy as well.

I thik there are a lot of poeple that do let others determine if they will be happy are not, but what they are missing is that they are the ones that make that choice. There are a lot of people that want to play victum, this and that happened and I'm a mess. Well do they have to be? No. Many things will happen to a person in their life and if they depend on others for their own happiness then they is never find true contentment. Happiness comes from within, just as contentment. We choose to be one way or another because of how we take in what goes around us. It's like saying you made me cry. Well, no. Whatever happened you choose to cry as a reaction. No one person can make us happy if we are not happy with ourselves. If this comes from a relationship, well those are tough, but you get over it. If you can't find happiness, then you can't find it in yourself. No one person will get you there because if you depend on others for your own stability, then you're not a complete person to begin with.

Hello teka How are you doing? I guess because one person is so use to being with jut one person for so many years, that it would be hard to find another person who will treat that way your love did. Which I know we should not compare. Also it has to do with how family member see you, if your love pass away, they expect you to morn for him/her for several years. But, if one wants to be happy, be happy regardless of what others have to say. It all depends on us.

I think that many times we let many things, including people, affect our emotions. Losing someone definetely can make a person depressed, but our lives will continue to go forward and therfore we have to move on. I couldn't imagine what I would do without my significant other, and I know at first I would be absolutely devastated. But I also know from past experiences of losing loved ones that eventually it won't hurt as much. Of course we'll always think of them and remember them, but each day will get easier and we won't stay sad forever.

It's easier to say than to do it really.I think when we lost someone important,duing a long time,we can't get out of the depression.But everything will be better flowing time passed quickly.Happiness is in our own hand and we know how to get the happiness we want sooner or later.

I don't. But yes, other people can make us happy. Especially when we share the happiness with the people we love - family, friends, lover. I think everyone will feel sad and depress when losing someone in life. Besides, if the person/people they were losing is/are the person/people that they love the most. And the idea remains, we make ourselves happy. In case that anyone feeling themself have no more happiness when the one he/she loves a lot gone forever, he/she is the only one that can make himself/herself happy back. It is useless that anyone around he/her try to comfort and make a lot of things to make him/her happy when he/her himself/herself don't want to let their soul and mind get happy back. Hope you get my point. :)