I long to be happy and content in my life but . . .

I think it that sometimes people do not get the breaks, that somehow bad things happen to good people. It is a combination of things. Some say it is sabotage, but I take it as an inability to turn things to one's advantage. Some have it and some do not. Some have this sense to know when the one you love is not going to break your heart and some do not. Some know how to get a job and some do not. I would call it most lack of luck. The trouble is that when you are that way, the ones you are close with are the ones who will sabotage you, because you do not have the self-confidence to know to avoid them. So you will marry a guy who will criticize you, or someone who will say that you do not need to drive, you do not need to take a course in cake decorating, you do not need this - and yet has members in his family who can do these things and even though there will be someone who would have been much better, not having this sense that the successful ones have, you are where you are. The only ones that can help besides God is good friends who will encourage you to take the small steps necessary to feel you deserve happiness.

As for me, I can say that life is like that.It is not only you who is experiencing that life is unfair sometimes.We are all going through the ups and downs in our life once in a while.It is just a matter of looking at those things not a problem to be solve but a challenge to be conquered upon. Just like you, I am also a college graduate and been looking for a job for so many months since I graduated .I had been on so many job interviews but still cannot find a job.I always feel down and feel so bad of myself.Whenever my boyfriend will ask me what is wrong then I will said to him that I think I am so unlucky because until now I cannot find a job. Then he will answered maybe this is still not the right time for me to get a job. Maybe God has a better plan for me.Because of not getting any job at all after graduation, I decided to give my focus on board examination for teachers.And after one month of waiting for the result, I finally got a big good news that my name was included on successful examinees.My heart was filled with gladness and up to now I feel so blessed. I just give my full trust to God and He not fails me.Maybe He not wants me to have a job first because He wants me to concentrate on my exam.Sometimes, I think that if ever there will come some misfortunes in our life, not feel so frustrated about it. What we have to do is to look for something good and believe that God has a better plan for us.Maybe I can say same thing regarding on your relationship with your husband.Just give your trust to God and hold on to Him. He has a better plan for you.

in our life as we grow old our understanding grow as well. being happy is something that would make as satisfied of what we wanted to have, right!? in your concern it is really hard to be in the right state. sabotage..hhhmmmmm.. no! it was what we choice and the consequence of what we choice is the reward it could be good or bad, but life must continue and move on. you will never find happiness if you stay of what you have been as of now. the weigh you carry might be different from me but i tell you there's a lot of people that have more problem weigh on their life but still they are trying to move on. come on, show some smile even if im not seeing you i know you can. have a nice day. this is just a single parents advise, me.