do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend??

at this stage in my life, i no longer have one. however, let me share with you my experience in life. i got married to a guy whom i really know the quality of his person. after the marriage, i learned that he is the kind of person which falls within the category of your boyfriend. this is now the story that i will be telling you. i want a trustworthy husband. i want a husband who is true to me and doesn't at all shop around for more girls when he is married to me. what a shock it was for me then that he is like that. i thought all the while that he was a one woman man. nonetheless, since we were alreadly married, i had to give it a try. but after three kids, it was i who had to shoulder all the cudgels of family life and it was too heavy and much too difficult for me to handle. bottom line? i am so miserable and in so much pain for so many years. i am no ordinary woman, dear. i am a career woman. a licensed civil engineer in my country. i am holding a good paying stable job. yet i gave up on my husband after so many years of hoping that he will change and cut his womanizing years and become a responsible father. it is more than 30 years now since we were married and he had any change per all these. so, break up with him now and find for yourself a more suitable, loving and reliable man of your life.

I'm very sorry that your in your situation, I couldn't imagine how hard that is for you. I'm very fortunate that my boyfriend treats me and my family well - he respects me and and that's how he shows that he loves me. And I'm very sorry if this would burst your bubble but I think you should think about your relationship with him and doubt if he really loves you - respect is always present in love, and in a good person, respect for "other persons" ESPECIALLY someone's family is important.

Tell him and be honest with him regarding how you feel about his behavior. By not saying anything tells him his behavior is OK with you. I think you are lucky to have seen this side of him before its too late. If he does not want to change then leave him. From what I am seeing, he does not love you because he does things that hurts you. If he loves you he will respect your family, you and your feelings. Do not spare his heart to sacrifice yours...