giving punishment to a child when doing naughty things.....

Spanking should be the strongest message, the one reserved for the worst behavior or after the child has continued to repeat the same behavior that he's already been punished for. I believe that spanking is appropriate for running in the street, for instance, because you want to send a very strong message to the child that he's not to do that. Bad behavior should never be ignored or tolerated though. Your child will test the limits of what he can get away with throughout his childhood and it's up to the parents to set limits and enforce them. I believe in time outs, being sent to your bedroom to think about what you did, taking responsibility for being mean to someone by having to face that person and apologize.

I tell my child that what they did was wrong and then have them go to time out and sit and think about it. Once they have been in timeout for a little bit, I then go over and we talk about it. I ask them what they did to get in time out so that I know that they actually know what they did wrong. then we talk about why it was wrong and what they could have done instead.

It all depends on what the child has done. No bad behavior should just be tolerated, otherwise that teaches the child it's okay to do it. Action should be taken anytime the child is caught doing something it shouldn't. But that doesn't mean that every bad behavior should get a spanking. The first thing I do when my kids misbehave is give them a talking to. Tell them why it's bad to do such things. Kids are still learning, they can't automatically know what's right and wrong, we have to teach them. So usually with my kids each time they misbehave they just get a talking to, because you have to expect they're going to forget, or try to push their limits. But if they continue the behavior when I know full well that they know it's wrong, that is when they get a punishment. Sometimes I'll give them a time out or ground them, it depends on their age. I might take away a toy or a priveledge. I may send them to bed early. Each behavior comes with a fitting concequence. If they're coloring on the walls, their concequence is to clean it up. If they hit one of their siblings their concequence is to go to their room. If they're yelling and being loud the concequence is to go to bed or take a time out. I'm not against spanking, but I do believe it should be done rarely, and as a last resort. It should not be the first punishment unless nothing else is getting the child's attention. And it should never be done out of anger or frustration.

depend what they have done if they gotten spanking or not. but anything my kids did wrong never got over looked at all. i am very strict on them when it came to them behaving and school. as they got older i handed out punishment in different ways, sometime i made them do silly things like hold books, start off how old they were, so if they were say 14, they held 14 books, big and heavy books lol.