I wanna help.... but how?
By bodhisatya
@bodhisatya (2384)
India
December 22, 2008 1:31pm CST
Any good suggestions would be really valuable to me.
There is this very good friend of mine you may call him my best friend, he was in love with this girl, deeply, wholeheartedly. They had this relation for like four years and were really committed. The girl went on insisting for marriage but my friend was younger than her, and was completing his studies so he was kind of reluctant for marriage. The girl truly and purely loves him. My friend went on to get consent of his parents and the proposal was denied for a couple of darned reasons.
My friend didn't want to make her wait and broke up with her. Now the real concern begins for me. I was introduced with her and we met a couple of times she is like a kid sister to me. She frantically calls me up and literally begs me to convince my friend, not to breakup with her.I feel my friend had got tired of her or something like that, but still he is my friend first and then I came to know the girl. But I truly feel sorry for her. I listen to her when she calls and try to console her. But i really find myself in a tricky situation.
I mean what should i do? My friend is adamant over his decision and she needs help, What do I do?
3 responses
@jzqt27 (541)
• Canada
22 Dec 08
well that's a tough one you are trying to help. well, in my best suggestion would be, that you should support him and do not interfered his problems, just support and comfort him that good enough. if he needs help, he will definitely ask for it, but other than that...you should just by his side.
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@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
22 Dec 08
Hmm yup I agree with you,but at the same time her cry concerns me too. snyways thank you so much for your suggestion,
Cheers,
Bodhi
@echomonster (2226)
• Greenwood, Mississippi
15 Jan 09
If you're absolutely sure your friend doesn't want the girl back under any circumstances, then I think there's not much you can do except try to explain the situation to the girl. Sometimes though marriages happen against the parents' wishes; maybe your friend is still in love with this girl but is trying to suppress his feelings. He may not be able to do this indefinitely so this relationship may not really be over. They have to work it out together, though...you can't solve their problems for them. You actually sound like you're being a really good friend to both of them right now, but you may start to feel drained and emotionally exhausted if you get caught in the middle of your friend's relationship.
@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
15 Jan 09
Thank you so much for your kindness and understanding my situation. Btw they broke up.
Bodhi
@siomaiii (238)
• Philippines
18 Jan 09
For sure, they still love each other. I think the best way is they will continue their relationship as boyfriend-girlfriend. You mentioned that your bestfriend hasn't finished his studies yet. I think he has to finish his studies first, be financially stable and then marry his girlfriend. Marriage is a lifetime commitment. And there are a lot of factors to be considered before getting married.
