Betrayal = independent actions and decisions exclusive of a partner

i had been betrayed so many times already in a relationship and the hardest one was i didn't know i was competing with my own sister..right now i think my relationship has nothing to do with partnership..this relationship is totally one sided and selfish..its wrong to expect so much from a partner..expectations controls a relationship to grow because every expectations that is didn't come true leads to disappointment that leads to arguments and pin pointing which make things worst..i think in a relationship we should be thankful of what our partners can give and the more that we don't expect nor demand is the more is likely being given and received..appreciation is a must

yes I can say my relationship is one where we communicate. I used to keep things for myself and only blurt it all out when I can't stand it anymore. But hubby is a very communicative person always encourages me to say what I think or feel. Sometimes I didn't do it right, sometimes it's language barrier, but every year I get better at it. A lot of misunderstandings we had in our first years of marriage are dissolved now. See we came from different country, culture and upbringing. I only met him online we have never even met in person before we got married. I just knew he is the right one for me, I don't know how. But until now I never regret that decision. We have our flaws but all I am asking from him is that he would give the best to us and our relationship because this is what I do. He does, and so I will keep doing the same. Among all the people I came to know, I am glad to say I know about 4 or 5 are true friends including my hubby. My life won't be the same without these people and I would go the extra miles to make sure they feel the same. All the bad things others do to me are meaningless, I won't let them change me. Why do people do bad things to others, thinking the Creator is blind, well time and time again they will learn a lesson. I know I won't be able to forgive if I was betrayed or lied to. I hope you will find the right one for you.

My husband and I came close to separating when he didn't see how he was treating me. It wasn't until I told him I was leaving that he realized just what I was going through. Now we have an agreement, we give everything to making this marriage work and I mean everything. We have the children to think about so our fullest effort has to be made to ensure a healthy home for them and if we can't do that together then we have to find a way of doing it apart.

I have been married for over 30 years and it has not been a bed of roses but we have always loved and supported each other. I make jokes about our relationship saying things like, 'it's a love/hate relationship, he loves me, I hate him.' Also that there's give and take, he gives, I take. Neither of these are true. We have weathered our problems because we have respect and love for each other. Bothe sets of parents had long and happy marriages and we wwere both supported by them when we first got married. Both of us were told that marriage would never be easy but love and understanding both ways would keep us together. It is never unreasonable to expect any partnershp to work both ways but my father told me that he did not like people who said they'd been married for years and never had a cross word, he felt that meant one partner was doing all the giving.