How far would you let your family tell you what to do
By SomeCowgirl
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
United States
December 22, 2008 7:42pm CST
when it comes to children? To whom would you listen to the most, your own mom or your mother in law? Would you listen to both equally? Would you respect more the advice from your mother in law if you lived with her? What if she lived with you, would that make a difference?
How would you tell a family member who is is too much trying to tell you how to raise your child or children to back off?
I am a non confrontational person, so therefore I would be respectful and listen to what both my mother and my mother in law have to say. I know that my fiance and I have the say so on how to raise our children (when we have children) but I also know that If I am living with the person to whom is giving me the advice, I need to respect what they say especially if it pertains to their home. I would listen to both equally but as I said a second ago, I would be respectful of my mother in law and her home as I know that any advice she has for my fiance and I will be good advice. Even if she lived with us and us not with her I would be respectful as people who are older then you deserve respect.
I appreciate any and all comments, have a wonderful day.
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@cbreeze (1205)
• United States
23 Dec 08
I think that it can be a difficult situation. I have been in that situation before. If it REALLY made more sense or if what I was doing wasn't working so well, I would give their advice a try. But for the most part, I think I would let them say their advice and do what I think is best. I am experiencing a little of this right now. My mother moved in with me recently and there are some small things that I find annoying about what I have established that she is going behind me and doing something different. When I mention it, I can tell she gets her feelings hurt. I feel it is important in most cases to stand my ground because I feel like she needs to be respectful of my wishes as the parent.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
26 Dec 08
It sounds as if your mother is spoiling your child or children though she means nothing by it. Not sure if spoiled is the right word, but I'm sure it's difficult to tell her what might irk you. I appreciate the response.
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@hellcowboy (7374)
• United States
5 May 09
This is a really good discussion baby and I am sure that different people have different opinions when it comes to family and how far they are willing to go when it comes to their family telling them what to do when it comes to their children,I am sure that there are some people who will take any advice when it comes to their children since their family has experience,and then I am sure there are some people who will not so much as give their family the time of day when it comes to their family telling them what to do,and I can understand both sides,I would listen to both my mother and your mother about the same when it comes to our children,because they both have experience that could help us,and if I lived with your mother I would respect her advice,and I already respect her and everything she says,if a family member was trying to hard to help us when it comes to raising our children then I would probably say look you are pushing too hard just back off a little and give us some space and let us raise our children,I love you with all my heart and soul,have a great day,good luck with all your mylotting goals,and Happy Posting.
