One of my childhood friends got married this weekend
By lilybug
@lilybug (21107)
United States
December 22, 2008 10:18pm CST
but I was not able to make the drive back home to attend. She and her husband decided last month to get married this month. I was invited, but she said she understood if I could not make it since I live a 6 hour drive away. I have known her since I was about 4 years old. I am kind of bummed that I could not attend. Have you missed weddings of old childhood friends before because you moved away or they moved away?
8 responses
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
23 Dec 08
I'm sure if you had more notice you would have been able to attend. That stinks they only gave a months notice.
I don't have a whole lot of friends, and the ones I do have were already married before I met them (I hang out with older people, lol).
I've only missed 2 weddings that I was invited to in my life. The first was for a very close family friend. This friend was so close that had he been well enough, I would have had him walk me down the aisle at my wedding because he was the closest thing to a father I ever had.
Well I was 7 when he got married, and my mother didn't let me go for one reason or another. I remember he was quite upset with my mother after that.
The second was my sister in laws. But actually how that worked is I was invited by my hubby, but we weren't even dating yet at the time, we were just friends. He was an usher in the wedding, and I hadn't met any of his family yet, so was afraid I'd be sitting alone while he was at the head table.
As it turns out we were dating by the time the wedding came along, but I still didn't go. No big deal though, she was divorced 5 years later.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
24 Dec 08
Actually there was no head table at the reception, so I would have been fine, but I ended up being scheduled to work that day since I didn't plan on going.
Later I realized it was a bit selfish. He put himself in a situation like that for me only 2 months earlier. He was invited to my birthday party where he didn't know anyone there. When he got there I hadn't arrived yet, so he was alone with all my family and friends he'd never met.
I should have done the same for him, but oh well. Like I said, she ended up divorced within 5 years.
@stejhas (209)
• United States
23 Dec 08
I'm sorry you didn't get to go... I'm sure that was tough. Hopefully she's truly understanding as to why you couldn't be there.
I faced a similar situation last year... my best childhood friend got married, and although we don't get to see each other a lot anymore, we email, text and talk on the phone at least once a week... well, when she got married, she opted to have her young, single, co-worker friends as her bridesmaids... I was really hurt. I know that is the crowd she goes out with on the weekends and see's everyday, but I am the only friend that has been there throughout her whole life. It was a tough day for me... It really made me question how much of friends we really were... but I got over it and it hasn't changed our friendship at all.
@SViswan (12051)
• India
24 Dec 08
I've missed quite a few friends' weddings because I lived in a different state.....but the one that I really regret not being able to attend is one that happened in the same city two years back. My younger son was just 3 months at the time and my childhood friend was getting married...it was a small affair and just close friends and family were invited. We decided to go but unfortunately, there was a riot in the city and my husband didn't want to risk going out with the baby. So, I had to give the wedding a miss:(
@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
26 Dec 08
One of my very good friends moved to Indianapolis and got married about 2 years later. I was unable to make the drive, and he understood. We sent a nice card and gift to them. Sometimes life does get in the way of plans. Especially ones made on such sort notice. I am sure your friend understands.
@carmelsuarez (329)
• Philippines
23 Dec 08
My friends and I are all grown up and had families of our own. I just got married mid this year and almost all of my close friends were present. It was one of the most memorable moment or time of my life. Even my friends who live in other country came just to share with me that very special day.
But unfortunately I was not bale to attend some of my friends weddings days. Reasons: I was away and cant come.... I was not invited because they cant locate where I live....I was not able to attend because I ws too busy with other things.
And I know all of my excuses are all unforgivable and unreasonable... thinking that during my wedding some of my friends travel thousands of miles just to be there with me at all cost.
Hope my friends will forgive me.
@utsadetti (4589)
• United States
23 Dec 08
Yes, i was feel guilty that i could not attend the wedding party. Sure i contacted her directly and asked appologiz for not coming to her house and attending the process of her wedding. I also sent a special gift for her, but it was not enough for me to heal my uneasy feeling.
