Sad news today... a fellow myLotter's brother passed away this morning.
By mentalward
@mentalward (14690)
United States
December 23, 2008 6:13am CST
When I woke up and opened my emails, I saw one from a fellow myLotter who has become a rather good friend to me. She had devastating news. Today, just two days before Christmas, her brother passed away after a horrible battle with cancer.
She is so devastated! It must be horrible to receive news like that when you were looking forward to one of the most sacred and special days of the year, Christmas. I wrote back to her telling her that she has to remember that her brother is no longer in any pain. His suffering is over and he has gone to a much better place.
He is still with her, of course, just not on this Earth. I can remember back when I received the news that my only sister had passed away. It was something we knew was coming, yet the news was devastating. I cried and cried. After her funeral, I looked up to see the most spectacular sunset I had ever seen in my life and I smiled. I saw my sister in that sunset and it made me happy for the first time since her death. I tried to share that experience with my myLot friend, hoping that she will be able to see the good side of this, especially now with Christmas only two days away.
To turn this into a discussion, have you ever experienced anything like this? I'm talking about losing a loved one only to have something beautiful and unexpected happen, like my sunset? Please share it here if you have. Maybe our myLot friend's heart will feel less heavy if she reads this.
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7 responses
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
23 Dec 08
I experienced losing someone I cared for in 2994. I know this happened 14 years ago, but since you did not specify a time frame, I thought it would be alright to share with you.
She was murdered in a different town. At the time of the murder I was on the way up a mountain with my students. Since early morning I felt uneasy but I was responsible for the mountain climbing and hiking program. At around 12.15 pm I suddenly turned around because I heard her calling out my name. The direction I faced was towards the town she was in. For the rest of the day I was not my true self. Even my students noticed this.
Early the next morning I told my students I had to leave them. I did not know the reason but the feeling I should be home was very strong. I reached home at around 10.00 am. The news was broken to me. Luckily I did not suffer a big shock. She was buried by mid-afternoon and I had a last look at her face.
She appeared at my house after dusk. Her presence was felt by another person, meaning that I was not imagining things. At exactly 3 am the next morning she woke me up. This happened for seven consecutive nights. After that I had regular dreams of meeting with her, We never talked in the dreams, just looking at each other.
I have not forgotten her, as it is almost impossible to do so.
all the best,
rosdimy
rosdimy @mentalward (14690)
• United States
23 Dec 08
I truly appreciate your sharing your story with me. I apologize for calling her your 'friend'. I did not know the true nature of your relationship so I had to generalize.
Even though this happened 14 years ago, my condolences and heart go out to you.
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
26 Dec 08
My heart and my mind is with our mylotter who suffered the loss of his brother a few days ago. This is a really sad period to experience the loss of a relative.I kee them in my prayers. I hope that our friend manages to overcome the loss of her relative.
@mentalward (14690)
• United States
26 Dec 08
There is also another myLotter who lost his nephew a couple of days before Christmas, the same day as this one lost her brother. What sad news for so many people! On the other hand, when suffering is involved, it means the end to their pain.
I told her that her brother was spending Christmas with Jesus this year and that seems to have helped her. That was how I thought of my sister, my father, my step-father and my mother the Christmas after their deaths.
Well, I must profess that I am not a Christian, but I knew that my family members who passed on were a part of everything... every sunset, every blade of grass, every singing bird. That's what got me through such a hard time.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
23 Dec 08
I hope she finds peace. I have not really had anything like that happen, but I had my grandma come to me in a dream and tell me that she was ok and that she would be watching out for us.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
24 Dec 08
Years ago my grandmother passed away, and we found my sister who was taken away by her foster family when she was a child and we did not know where she was. She came back to us as an adult with children already but my mother swears it was my grandmother who brought her back to us.
@AmbiePam (92872)
• United States
23 Dec 08
If she reads this I hope she knows we all care, and we all wish we could help heal her heart. Whoever this woman is, I want you to know as soon as I hit submit I will say a prayer for your family. I can't imagine the pain, and especially since it is this time of year.
@gaylalou690 (361)
• Philippines
23 Dec 08
well im going to pray for the soul for the brother of ur friend in mylotters. kindly tell her if u dont mind condolence and be brave cause theres a lot of beautiful things to come in her life.
@mentalward (14690)
• United States
23 Dec 08
Thank you, gaylalou. I will tell her of your condolences. I know she will appreciate it.
@Chevee (5905)
• United States
23 Dec 08
I am sorry to hear of your friend's (MyLot friend's) brother passing. It is nice of you to take the time to leave her such a good and inspiring message. I hope it comforts her in her time of grief.
I have never witnessed anything like that, (your beautiful sunset).
I do remember before my aunt passed I could see a glow on her face and around her head, it was so beautiful, I can't even discribe it.
