If you get marry are you going to stay with your family members or lifepartner?

I moved outta my folk's house at 22 and while I visit regularly, I've never moved back in. I also never married....

Hi Dasari! In India it is the religious custome that when a girl get married to a man she has to go with her husband and stay with the husband family. Now here it is a question to a husband that to whom you go and stay after marriage.aturally with the wife as she is the one who left her parents home and came to stay with the husband then naturally the husband has to take care of the wife. It doesnot mean that the mother should not be taken care but both mother also will have to be takenare of. But the mother should understand the situation of her son who got married. Hapy posting and have anice day and happy new year.

I guess if we get married, we should still take care of our relatives, like not just forget about them and stuff. We should still help them out even if we have our own families.

I assume you are referring to who the husband will side with if there are disagreements between the mother and the wife. It really depends upon the situation. However, if you get married the two become one. The mother should understand that. The mother should be careful to not offend her daughter in-law and stay on good terms with her. Equally the wife should respect that the mother is important to her husband and try to stay on good terms with her mother-inlaw as well. The husband has to find a proper balance. His wife should come first. If there is a disagreement between the wife and his mother, he should be able to respectfully support whomever he thinks is correct without alienating either one.

Actually i want i want all us to shift to bigger house.I won't have any problem with his parent staying as long as he doesn't have problem with my mom and sister staying in our house.I want to care of my mom.If he can't accept that then i will prefer to remain unmarried.I can give up everything for my mom and sister well being. I have big dreams for my sister so i always want to be there for her.Anybody or myself also else doesn't matter more than my family

i go mother side.as my realizes that she done mistake nd comes back.if not i go for divorce nd go for second marriage

We need not to forget how to take of our parents but also remember that we are also building a new family, So in the end you should live with your wife. Your parents brought you into this world but it doesn't mean that you'll just leave them to home for the aged. If they can no longer take care of themselves then maybe you should bring them home.

I would like to stay with all of them if possible !!! Both my life partner & my old family would be equally important for me

You should decide on staying with your wife. You are setting up your own family! However you are also not forgetting your parents, you will still visit them and provide for their needs as a good son. Staying together often invites issue between your mum and wife, why create such issue when you should have your own household instead of compromising with your dad's household. Man is the head of the house. Be the head of your own house instead of living under your Dad's headship. Your wife and your lifestyle may not fit into your parents' who belongs to the earlier generation. Answering your question, you will need to support both. One is your mum and the other is your life partner. That is the role of men.

I think I will live with my lifepartner but not far away from my parents,so that I can go to see them anytime I or them want,and I can take care of them conveniently.

For me I prefer to stay with my wife only. However that does not mean that I'm gonna forget about my family.I'll still go visit them always and also not to refuse to lend hands when in need..