I don't condone it, but...
By teeaye98
@teeaye98 (287)
United States
December 23, 2008 3:52pm CST
Has this ever happened to you? I love my husband, but there are tines when I think he doesn't like me much. Whenever he's home, he's in another room. He eats in a different room, most of the time he sleeps in the living room because he goes to bed at 6-7PM and wakes up at 4AM. It's usually just me and the kids because he doesn't want to go anywhere with us. He says he's tired.
So, with all that, I don't get payed attention to. I have recently noticed a very handsome man at church. Keep in mind that I've been at this church for about 1 year and I didn't even know that this man existed until one day he came up and started talking to me and a friend of mine. He's very active in the church too. I am so convicted. It's horrible. I find myself daydreaming about this man.
Has this ever happened to you? What have you done about it? What would you reccommend doing?
Your responses are welcomed. Be very honest please.
2 responses
@lbenjamin21 (155)
• United States
24 Dec 08
i am surprise at the limited amount of response to this situation but any how i will try my best. firstly dont you think that your only just noticing your husband behavior to be alarming because of this new man thats in your life. think about it may be your husband was like this all along but now you have new interest its beginning to stand out just something to think about
but communication is the key talk to your man and see if he has in-fact lost interest maybe he is saying the same thing about you. i would advise you not to get to close to this new interest as it would become more difficult to see the good in your husband but on the other hand i know us humans have our needs and attention for the one we love is right up to the top and if we dont get it sometimes its easy to find it else were not to forget the excitement lol
dont move to fast talk to your husband and give him some time
please keep me posted if you care to
@teeaye98 (287)
• United States
24 Dec 08
Thank you so much for your response. You make a lot of sense. The thing is, I've complained to my husband about his lack of interest and to no avail, haven't gotten anything in return. I've even tried to initiate things and I get no interest in return.
About the other guy; I would never say or do anything. To admire from afar is best. I feel it's ok to look. We're human after all. But I just feel bad for even that much I shouldn't really be daydreaming about another man. I think it's horrible. I will talk to my husband again. Will keep you posted!
@strawberrybaby39 (2086)
• United States
30 Dec 08
Well I wouldnt like my husband sleeping in another room or eating in another room. Sounds like things are falling apart. Your day dreaming about another man because you are not getting the love you need from your husband or attention from him. I would talk to him about it thats for sure. And tell him I need your love and attention because this is hurting me and we are going to fall apart if you dont.
@teeaye98 (287)
• United States
30 Dec 08
Thank you so much for your response. What you've said is exactly right. For years I've walked around with blinders on when it came to other men. I feel that is the way it is supposed to be when you are married and in love. Recently, he has just been way too distant. He gets jealous when anyone comments on my looks and gets mad when I go to the gym. I've had two beautiful children and I will not let him discourage me from getting in shape. The bad thing is that I have talked to him about it and he hasn't changed a bit. He keeps saying he will, but nothing has changed. He is still distant.
Thanks again for your response. It realy is a help!
